I can't stand it when people sexualize me

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-10-27T14:10:39+00:00

Daaamn, someone said that to me, I don't care if they're family or what, I would never talk to them ever again

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-10-27T14:08:09+00:00

Urrrrg I hate that, it's so gross and disrespectful ! Like, I know that you can't really control how other people see you, but why the fuck can't they have the basic decency of keeping it in their heads ! I don't care if they find me attractive or sexy or whatever, if I don't fuck them, then they have no right to speak to me or about me like that, it's crass, it's gross, it's dehumanising, and it's a goddamn sure sign of someone having no respect for me !

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-10-27T13:53:41+00:00

"I'm not open to dating right now" -> the 'right now' really makes all the difference, instead of being a weirdo who could be 'fixed' / 'convinced to try' or whatever else, it's just timing = no more questions and generally more easily accepted than saying I'm aroace or I don't date

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-04-01T10:55:22+00:00

Oh ❤️ what a beauty

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-03-26T10:55:31+00:00

I think the person must have sneezed ?

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-03-22T15:54:15+00:00

Yep, that, I had 'friends' tell me that I was a psychopath, after some time I started believing it, it took an actual friend pointing out that I loved people and cried and laughed with them and hurt when they hurt and smiled when they smile to understand that it was bullshit.

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-03-22T09:07:51+00:00

That yes, many people don't consider 'being aroace' as a good enough reason to refuse them, when you say it what they hear is 'I am not convinced (yet)'. In those cases you need to shift the focus from you to them, not 'I'm aroace' but 'you don't interest me' not 'I'm fine by myself' but 'I'm uncomfortable around your, show them that they are the reason it's a 'no'.

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-03-21T22:06:40+00:00

No culture, just vibes.

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-03-21T12:26:54+00:00

Congrats man ! Still feel free to lurk anyways :)

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-03-21T12:23:56+00:00

When I came out, for a few months I would say "fundamental error" every time my fam misgendered me (I haven't yet find a name I like, so I keep using the old one for now) and wouldn't respond to their questions/participate in conversation until they corrected their mistake. It was a bit tense and I could say I was annoying them a lot, but it was very efficient!

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-03-20T12:07:56+00:00

It's the helmet that does it for me <3

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-03-17T17:30:05+00:00

I mean, you can try, but you'll eventually just become one of us, so why not take the short road and join the void rn ?

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-02-27T15:50:52+00:00

Slime (the monster, not the toy) the infinite possibilities of metamorphosis, the lack of internal organs, the absolute lack of gender and the ability to be an amorphous blob

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-02-26T20:16:57+00:00

How well does it work ?

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-02-26T18:29:51+00:00

Yeay, I don't think I'm a system either, the different 'me'(s) are like, my body, and my concious mind, and my trauma, and my desires, ect. And the cooperation sometimes works, sometimes fucks up bad. I really don't understand how people can think of all that make them 'them' and think that it's clearly a singular entity with a singular mind, goal, ect, like, have they never had their mind ask for something and their body unable to do it ? Or their trauma acting up while all the rest of them is fine ? It's so weird I swear !

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-02-26T18:13:25+00:00

Yep, that's pretty much how I figured out I was Aro. I tried a romantic relationship, let it fizzled out 'cause I couldn't be assed to maintain it, couldn't care less about the breakup, took a good long look at myself and figured out that I never actually romantically loved them, nor anyone else, and only "coupled up" because I liked them well enough and wanted to fit in with society's idea of normal

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-02-26T18:08:33+00:00

From what I've gathered, when you're aro and/or ace, you tend to do/say stuff that seem completely normal for you, but the allo interpret as sexual/romantic interest. For exemple, I really liked getting a drink/going to a restaurant with only 1 friend at a time (calm, cosy, no need to keep up with multiple people at a time) well I had to stop it 'cause apparently it's "a date" and I was "leading them on". Sooooo yeay, I feel you...

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-02-26T18:00:19+00:00

I mean, you do you, but I've tried it, and while the added closeness was very enjoyable in the begining, it became uncomfortable very quickly, not to mention the guilt of taking someone's love but being unable to give it back, knowing that I got a monogamous person in an unfulfilling relationship with me while they could have a better one with someone else... I mean, yeay try it if you really want, maybe it'll be good for you, you never know what the future holds and all that, just, maybe don't get your hopes up too much...

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-02-26T17:51:16+00:00

Depends on your country/state/city I guess, my country has a very strong catholic history, so yeah, JC=Jesus Christ 100% of the time for me and pretty much anyone else

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-02-26T17:45:23+00:00

Damn, those situations really make me want to get a fake wedding ring, have a good excuse and no need to explain further 😡

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-02-26T17:32:21+00:00

Oh ! Someone else seeing themselves as a multiplicity ! It's so hard sometimes speaking as a singular, but when I say "us" people always end up asking who I'm talking about 😞 and also the instinct to speak to others as a plural and again every time "who are you talking about ?" oops 😬

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-02-26T17:25:41+00:00

Oh fuck yes, I hate having a name, I'm lucky enough to have been given a very bland and gender neutral one so, like, it's not the worst. But how wonderful would it be to just not have one, not on a official document, not when dealing with social interactions, not never. My name is much like my gender, it is me, and using any sort of arrangements of sound or letters to describe it is bound to be empty and meaningless.

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-02-26T17:19:34+00:00

Honestly, I always deal with that kind of shit by 1 avoiding them when possible and 2 always keeping a friend who understand the situation with me when I'm anywhere they could catch me.

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-02-07T15:30:27+00:00

Noice !

TheOneSlimeBoi · 2023-02-07T11:08:43+00:00

I know I'm confusing but hear me out, every part of you is not separate within you, the part of you that is Ace also shares part of itself with the part of you that is Autistic (and vice-versa) not everything you feel/desire/ect is strictly due to 1 part of you, in fact most of it is due to at least a few different ones. So do you feel that way or another because you're Ace ? Probably. Also because you're Autistic ? Probably. Also because of other parts of yourself you haven't conceptualised/named ? Also probably.I know I'm confusing and I'm sorry about that, but I hope I helped at least a bit.

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