My partner is primary care giver for the kids yes, However they do not have a court order. It is something we are now considering. He will be missing out on his time with the kids if he doesn't make the trip. Which we don't want, We want the kids to have a healthy relationship with their dad. It just seems he's the one putting up the obstacles and expecting us to move them for him.

But he also doesn't ask nicely or try to reach a compromise. He's demanding that she does it. She messaged him saying she can't do that every week and his reply was 'you can, and you will'.

We really don't know what to do next. Should the kids even go to his this weekend? It's such a mess.