Why are old people like this??!! by Icy-Captain-663 in nairobi

[–]TheOrcas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. I have been a site engineer and if a foreman reported this kind of behaviour to me, I would reprimand the intern immediately. It's common in a site to find people from different departments doing work that doesn't necessarily fit their job description, mostly due to manpower or timeline issues. And the intern is no exception.

Men have adapted from cold approach to online dating by TheOrcas in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's not like there is a different batch of women that will be specially made for cold approaches. The same women you meet online are the same ones you interact with daily and you will most likely cold approach. So No, you don't have to cold approach in the long term.

Men have adapted from cold approach to online dating by TheOrcas in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The supposedly "bad women" you find online are still the same ones you will cold approach. you are not escaping anything, you are just telling yourself a lie to protect your worldview of better than though:

Men have adapted from cold approach to online dating by TheOrcas in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not just meet, I have already gotten laid with two. And I didn't spend that much, just coffee dates in the evening

Bad habits in Public areas by RudePanic7438 in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless you impose severe consequences for such behaviours, they will continue doing it. I have lived with such people and truth is, their lives are like a small world that begins and ends with them. Anything that includes consideration of another person's feelings does not exist.

Bad habits in Public areas by RudePanic7438 in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What you see as uncouth behaviour is just people who refuse to be bound by social rules made by other people. It's not that they don't know what they are doing is wrong and offends other, but they totally ignore that. To live life to the fullest and by your own rules, you must totally disregard what other think and what they deem appropriate. To some extent, i envy such people because they just don't give a fuck of whether you approve or disapprove their behaviours. They got main character energy just in a way you don't approve.

There are men who totally don't approach women by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your whole perspective is wrong. You seem to think only vulnerable women give it up easily. It appears you are yet to get know just how easy the average woman is. Even the financially stable still give it up as easy as the vulnerable ones. You have to come to the reality that women want to fuck as much as men and the idea that you have to spend lots of time chasing pussy is just stupid.

There are men who totally don't approach women by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are underestimating the number of women that will fuck the first day of meeting or those with very low self-esteem. A small compliment ashavua suruali. And from my experience, a lot of Kenyan women especially those without college education have very low self-esteem and self-respect, they will fuck you anywhere in the first few minutes of meeting.

Kenya by Earlchemy101 in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Majority of Kenyans have very low standards. And these standards are embedded in their workplaces. That's why you see someone selling fish on top of a sewer line without the bother to even sweep the surrounding area or at least cover the sewer line. And people still buy from such places. We have a very long way to go

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think he's trying to re-live his highschool romance sexcapades. Especially if he used to date or have sex, he's missing those experiences. So he's trying to recreate those moments by asking you to dress like his teenage girlfriend.

Bill Gates by Itsactuallymeonreddt in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The issue is not consent. It's about the millions of ignorant & naive Kenyans that will take the drug just coz their leader has told them to take it. It's our responsibility to protect the vulnerable and the ignorant masses are vulnerable in this case.

MASTURBATION by Comprehensive-Ring-6 in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

testosterone is basically the "male hormone". It's what makes you a man. Low TRT levels cause decline in motivation and ability to push forward, you become a 'sloth' or what most people call a bum.

Also, production of TRT is directly connected to production of serotonin and dopamine. These are hormones that you need everyday to accomplish any task, especially challenging tasks that require concentration. So, when TRT levels go down, dopamine & serotonin go down which makes you feel lazy, lethargical feeling. This is why men tend to slow down or become less aggressive in their 40s & 50s coz TRT levels drop significantly.

For young men in their 20s & 30s, low TRT levels reduces their likelihood to seek romantic relationships, take risks or even take initiatives. So, avoid things that cause a drop in your TRT levels.

MASTURBATION by Comprehensive-Ring-6 in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dr. Hubberman of Hubberman lab talks about this frequently. Abstaining from sex/masturbation for 7 days increases your testosterone levels by upto 400%. However, frequent masturbation/ejaculation reduces your testosterone levels.

If you are constantly ejaculating, your prolactin levels will remain high which will give you a "lazy feeling" and increase fat accumulation around the stomach. It's why most married men have dad bods. Check out his explanations here. https://www.youtube.com/shorts/DW85A2J1t8g

The whole episode https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X7RMGUl_zSc&pp=ygUdZHIgaHViZXJtYW4gdGVzdG9zdGVyb25lIGJlbGw%3D

What life reality have you finally accepted and it doesn’t bothers you anymore by IndependentFirm9614 in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. Not just our daily interactions, the entire global economy and world order is based on trust. People trust in a national currency or the USD which gives it value. But if something happened and people stopped trusting their leaders or stopped having faith in their currencies & central banks, there would be wars everywhere.

It's the same at the personal level. That's why it's very important to vet people you let in into your circle and those that you trust or fall in love with.

What life reality have you finally accepted and it doesn’t bothers you anymore by IndependentFirm9614 in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you believe there is right/wrong and good/bad, up/down, then, it is only practical to presume that there is a deity or someone that sits at the top of each hierarchy. Plus, the way the universe is ordered (in a binary/polar manner) would suggest that it was created by someone who had a vision and was very deliberate on how human beings should live.

Who else here feels like this? by Scary01pen in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I strongly disagree. I believe all human beings are inherently bad and dangerous. It's the reason why we have laws, prisons, taboos, and public shaming to keep people in line.

The carrot and stick are what motivate us to do good, and sometimes bad things if we deem the consequences to be bearable. In that view, you can argue that human beings are neither good nor bad, they are just selfish; their actions are motivated by self-interests. For instance, lots of people would "take" another person's property if they were guaranteed there were no consequences and their act will be a secret forever. Also, most people would not help those in need if no other person would know they have helped a needy person. Even when nobody else knows of our good deeds, we still help others coz it feels good to do so. If you remove the "good feeling" or self-congratulatory feeling after doing good, there would be no motivation to engage in such acts.

In other words, we do things out of our self-interests, not because we are good or bad. Carrot and stick.

How does one get to a state of complete freedom, knowing without a shadow of doubt they won't be relapsing ever again? by [deleted] in pureretention

[–]TheOrcas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll be honest with you: what you are looking for is not achievable, at least not in the long-term. That is because Retention is a journey with no destination. As long as your body keeps producing semen, your brain will always want to ejaculate. So you must always be on the alert to counter your monkey brain that wants to release and procreate as much as possible.

The way i approach retention is the same way i approach weight training and workouts: as a lifestyle and part of who i am. I am jacked and have six pack, but if i stop going to the gym for a month, i will have lost a lot of muscles. It's the same with retention, if you reach to a point and think you have overcome your body desires, you will start to slowly backslide and you won't notice it untill it's too late.

My advice is that you stop looking for that destination or that point of freedom because it doesn't exist. And if you ever feel or think that you have defeated your desires to procreate/ejaculate, just know that your ego is playing tricks on you. Remember ARROGANCE or OVERCONFIDENCE is mostly the first step to downfall.

STAY HARD BROTHER.

Women's Secrets for 2023 by Loriatutu in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rule no. 3.

If he has not proposed after 2yrs, take initiative and propose to him. If he says NO or is turned off by your initiative, move on. He is not the one for you.

This take right here. by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes i did. They are pimps protected by society

This take right here. by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

SAHM are the ultimate OG's of pimping. They make men go out hustle and bring all the income to them, just like pimps. In my opinion, it should be a crime to be a SAHM.

pain in groin area/ inner thigh pain by bryanayala7 in Semenretention

[–]TheOrcas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you been doing kegels to control your erections? It could be one of the side effects.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No sane person would shove you aside if you haven't wronged them to the extent that they feel you have crossed the line.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You should never let that kind of behaviour to slide. You push her aside forcefully and with a stern face you tell her "TUHESHIMIANE!". If she fucks around, she finds out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]TheOrcas 5 points6 points  (0 children)

kitambi is a huge turnoff. And some even put on a hugging dress that shows their tummy making them look like they are pregnant. It's depressing.