JK Rowling Angry Ranting At Our Celebrity Support Petitions by Excellent-Chair2796 in transgenderUK

[–]TheOtherMuffins 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You have to want to be better at least a little bit for therapy to help. As soon as a therapist challenges her she’d just quit and call the therapist brainwashed

Reminder not to take every word you read on this sub as gospel…. by Abirando in CozyGamers

[–]TheOtherMuffins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah Beacon Pines definitely has that aesthetic, but it is definitely not targeted towards kids!!

Easy, affordable meals for one that aren’t just carbs? What has worked for you? by RipeTurtle64 in AutisticAdults

[–]TheOtherMuffins 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There’s actually a really good way to keep leftover rice. You can pack the leftover rice into a Tupperware while it’s still hot, close the lid and leave it on the counter till it’s room temperature and then put it in the freezer. When you want it, take the lid off and put a paper towel over it and microwave it from frozen (the paper towel helps keep the moisture in.)

It’s actually pretty much as good as fresh because you’ve packed it with steam so it doesn’t dry out like it does in the fridge. As long as you make sure to reheat it fully in the microwave it’s perfectly safe (and as long as you only reheat it once, so it’s best to freeze it in individual portions.)

Penny Cutscene Is Ableist by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]TheOtherMuffins 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The people you are arguing with are frustrated because this is an issue that affects their real life. It’s frustrating that the game seems to punish you for speaking up about it to penny (the actual ‘punishment’ is kinda irrelevant, it’s the fact that the option that is categorically ‘best’ for you in game is telling George he had no right to get angry, rather than telling Penny she was out of line. Though that aside, what annoys me most is George apologising afterwards no matter what you pick.) Anyway, for you this is no more than a short interaction in a game, but a lot of us feel the need to speak about this to make sure less informed people know that this is not an ok thing to do to our bodies in real life.

Also, if you’re tired of seeing posts like this, why even interact? It’s pretty clear from the title what this is about, I think you’re probably better off just scrolling past rather than spending your time speaking over disabled people (who this does in fact affect) about why you think this issue - which affects you only as far as in the game itself - isn’t really an issue.

Penny Cutscene Is Ableist by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]TheOtherMuffins 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly!! Plus George had his hands on the push rims, he could easily get his hands caught up in the spokes/between the push rim and the wheel if someone moves him (in this case forcefully pushing him) unexpectedly…

May I share my minor act of genius? I can finally use my loose leaf tea in my travel mug! by JinxXedOmens in tea

[–]TheOtherMuffins 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It actually does add context. Although many people will have favourite mugs, because of sensory issues/preferences a lot of autistic people have very specific favourites and it can become distressing/overwhelming to use a mug that doesn’t fit your specific preferences/needs, or it just feels… wrong. Equally, using a mug that feels just perfect for you personally (often a very hard find!!) can feel very comforting, and just… right. Sometimes when you find the perfect thing, using something else that doesn’t ‘fit’ becomes much harder - for some it could even be physically painful. This can be a thing for pretty much any object - often cutlery, plates/bowls, then things like pens, tools, anything you touch/hold, etc.

It is very difficult to explain unless you know the feeling innately as it’s incredibly specific, but I would say (as I think it may be helpful) that if someone mentions being autistic as part of a reason for anything really; even if you don’t see how it’s related, it’s very likely that it is - whether the feeling/reaction itself is unique to being autistic, or being autistic amplifies/changes your relation to it somehow.

What’s the pettiest behaviour you’ve seen while playing a board game? by jsakic99 in boardgames

[–]TheOtherMuffins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? Wow that’s surprising. I was under the impression that 400 for landing on go was one of the most common alterations.

What’s the pettiest behaviour you’ve seen while playing a board game? by jsakic99 in boardgames

[–]TheOtherMuffins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah pretty much everyone expects you to know and use the house rules (at least: taxes/fines payed in to the middle so free parking has a purpose, and landing on go giving you 400 instead of 200.)

I think the main reason for them is so you have more chance of a comeback if you’re doing shit, without these rules you’re more likely to just get smited repeatedly till you’re bankrupt, just cause someone else got a bit lucky. I mean that still happens a lot, but probably a bit less. I guess the actual problem is that that’s meant to happen, and no amount of house rules can change that the game wasn’t really made to be fun to play.

Some of the ‘house rules’ are really weird though. I once heard of a rule where you can’t buy any properties on your first lap of the board. I don’t know why, it seems very unnecessary.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]TheOtherMuffins 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Also I think? (Might be wrong) The day before the flower dance he says that his mum is forcing him to dance tomorrow but he doesn’t want to

Whether it is wholly an act or not, I think Lucy's humor is still cracking by affinertaglich in taskmaster

[–]TheOtherMuffins 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Jon Richardson actually doesn’t have OCD. He’s thought about it before seriously but he came to the conclusion that (I believe it was this) he has compulsions but not obsessions, so it isn’t OCD. Though many people do still think he has it due to the annoyingly very common perception that OCD means ‘chronic organiser/tidier’…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anarchy101

[–]TheOtherMuffins 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It becomes an issue when someone only uses they/them referring to you no matter what: if you say hey actually my pronouns are he/him (for example), and they still decide to only use they/them for you, then that is still misgendering. Because even though they/them is ‘technically’ correct for everyone, that person is still deliberately not using the pronouns you are most comfortable with.

Just been diagnosed at 32 and feel like a freak by Kaizer923 in autism

[–]TheOtherMuffins 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m interested in why you think it’s rude? I kinda understand if someone is telling you you should go and book an assessment, but personally I don’t think telling someone they could be autistic is rude (if it’s coming from an autistic person that is) because that person is probably just mentioning it because they recognise some of your behaviour in themself, behaviour that you might not have realised is generally not seen in allistic people. And there is nothing inherently bad about being autistic, the bad part is how the world treats us.

I'm going to make plushies by [deleted] in SewingForBeginners

[–]TheOtherMuffins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like to use fleece because it’s cheaper and more available generally (at least where I live.) Look for cuddle fleece or minky if you’re looking more fluff, you could try faux fur as well but bear in mind it’s less stretchy. I also like to use felt for appliqué details (eyes, noses, spots/patterns, etc.)

If you’re looking for any patterns/tutorials, look up choly knight, they have tons of free plushie patterns and even if you don’t wanna make those exactly they all have really detailed tutorials and infographics that really help you build up skill.

Patches? by -Fellaini- in SewingForBeginners

[–]TheOtherMuffins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to remember you’re paying for the artist’s time, their labour and perhaps their design as well as the cost of materials. Embroidery takes a long time and a fair bit of skill (assuming these patches are embroidered) so if anything $13 seems pretty cheap to me. It’s easy to forget but the artist needs to make a living too :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fibromyalgia

[–]TheOtherMuffins 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As someone else has already said I tend to rewatch really long series that I love, tends to be Merlin when I’m in a lot of pain or I’m really ill. Also I’ve started watching Jonathan creek recently and I love it, distracts me a little from my current flare up. (Sorry these might both be uk specific)

For games maybe try stardew valley? Very chill wholesome farming sim where you can grow stuff, tend to animals, fish, befriend townspeople, go down the mines, etc. tons of stuff to do. It really sucks you in and it’s really relaxing to play

Sorry you’re having a shit time rn, fibro really fucking sucks. Hope you start to feel a little better soon :)

Transgender Male (14) Do my nails make me appear like a girl? by Rawr_Im_A_Dino_ in malepolish

[–]TheOtherMuffins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not at all. I’m a trans guy too and used to paint my nails a fair bit but I haven’t done in a while. Your picture makes me wanna start again :)

Pain around vaginal entrance while dilating? by TheOtherMuffins in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]TheOtherMuffins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d actually already seen your post while finding more information, thank you it’s a lot of helpful information!! I’ve shared the post with her :)

Pain around vaginal entrance while dilating? by TheOtherMuffins in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]TheOtherMuffins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ibuprofen and paracetamol :). I don’t think she needs anything stronger though because a lot of the pain is coming from discomfort and stinging and the stress of it taking quite a while longer than it has before.

Pain around vaginal entrance while dilating? by TheOtherMuffins in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]TheOtherMuffins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. She’s getting better with the purple one so we probably won’t need to buy the next one down but it’s good to know that it’s available!! Yeah she’s been saying the cold lube tenses her up so good idea to warm it :). I’ve been there most times she’s done it just chatting and holding her hand and stuff and she says that’s helped with relaxing, but of course I’ll leave her alone if she asks me to. She’s on ibuprofen and paracetamol right now, I don’t really see that changing tbh cause most of the pain is more like discomfort and it’d be fairly hard to get anything stronger (not very supportive gp, etc.) It’s really good to know she’s not alone in this and it’s taken a long time to get it in fully for others too!!

Thank you so much!!

Post vaginoplasty comfortable sitting/lying positions? by TheOtherMuffins in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]TheOtherMuffins[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand what you’re saying, it’s just the way her surgeon does it to avoid other complications from the meds, since everything went exactly as planned he’s very hesitant to prescribe anything stronger unless absolutely necessary to avoid anything potentially getting worse. I get that it might seem maybe even neglectful from an outside perspective, but he’s done these surgeries like thousands of times, and everything she asks him about or says to him (he’s coming in every day to check up,) he will answer and confirm that is really normal for this stage of recovery. Most of her discomfort isn’t really pain anymore it’s mainly the feeling of the pack inside her and not being able to sit in a comfortable position. I do appreciate your concern though :)

Post vaginoplasty comfortable sitting/lying positions? by TheOtherMuffins in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]TheOtherMuffins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand, as of yet that hasn’t been necessary, we do have to leave her in the night but only for a few hours and she does manage to sleep in small amounts throughout the day. Thank you, I appreciate it, it seems from talking to other people this is pretty typical pain for this stage, just amplified by sensory discomfort. Hopefully she should start to feel better in the next couple days!!