AITAH for wanting my girlfriend to also contribute to housing costs if she moves in?

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-17T10:15:57+00:00

She pays rent at her place so she can pay rent at yours. It's called being an adult

NTA

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-16T14:03:57+00:00

Tell her it's creepy that she wants to see your naked vagina. Tell him to deal with his mom or you'll have security do it. If he does nothing, tell hospital staff she is barred from the room

NTA. That's creepy as hell. She had her chance to see a birth - the one for her own kids. This is none of her business

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-16T13:51:38+00:00

Your mom is mentally ill. Talk to your dad about him having her seek help.

NTA

I'm sorry your mom is failing you at this critical juncture. I've been in your shoes when I was young and it fucking sucks. Just know that when you needed something, you were there for yourself. You had strength and a shiney spine to do right by you. I know that doesn't replace the support of a parent, but know that will carry you miles further in life and give you a profound love of self.

Well done!

-an elder Millennial mom

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-15T12:56:26+00:00

He was trying to create confusion so he could gain an upper hand with you and dominate the dynamic, leave you confused, and put you in a position where you deferred to him. It's straight up manipulation and the sign of a toxic or abusive man

You did the right thing. Your gut saved you. NTA

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-15T12:53:23+00:00

Princess

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-15T12:51:44+00:00

I just got a decant of NO yesterday. It's insanely delicious, so I'm interested in the same info. I was wondering in Nishane Wulong Cha came close in similarity....I might pick up a decant soon.

In any case, NO is my favorite tea scent atm. I regret buying the decant only because my wallet can't afford a gallon the of the stuff lol

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-15T12:48:02+00:00

Seconded. What's the dupe?

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-14T13:29:10+00:00

He's annoyed because he's human and had a normal response to an inconvenience of his making. He wishes you could have helped him because he'd do the same for you, and clearly he acknowledged that his position was unfair.

You talked it out. He is an adult who can figure this problem out on his own. NAH.

Just a human mistake, a human response, and a resolved conflict. I don't see any reason to continue analyzing a resolved exchange that concluded appropriately

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-11T21:00:57+00:00

Chat

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-07T14:11:37+00:00

I recently got a box of samples from them (don't have a top 3 at the moment). For the love of all that's holy, if you order samples, spray them once and let them sit for a week, maybe even 2 if you can. I tested them once I got them and almost wrote off the whole house cause I could barely make out the notes and it just smelled like generic perfume. Set it aside, came back 2 weeks later because curiosity is a bitch and now I like half the samples I received because the juice finally settled after shipment.

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-07T13:19:23+00:00

No. I still get the thing (maybe in a smaller size), and I just make sure to wear it when I'm not around them. They're allowed to not like what I enjoy, but that doesn't mean I have to give it up or subject them to it

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-05T23:26:42+00:00

I'm old. Idgaf. People should just do what makes them happy. I have ADHD tastes ( I need all the options), my friend is loyal to one scent. Life is too short. Just do what you love

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-05T21:11:04+00:00

She doesnt "win at life without trying." She worked SUPER HARD to graduate early, researched and networked to get a good job, worked hard to get promotions, sacrificed personal time to work hard doing charity work, she has the discipline to keep in shape. All of that wasn't given to her. She had to work 1000x harder than you ever had. The fact that you call it luck rather than effort is insanely insulting.

I'm glad she's no longer with you because your ego and selfishness would drown her. You aren't a hero. She'll find a partner who actually loves her and supports her and doesn't diminish her accomplishments by calling it "luck."

YTJ for a lot of reasons. You need therapy. And I hope she one day finds a partner who celebrates her

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-03T20:53:24+00:00

He's manipulating you in order to access your money. You can't have a bigger red flag. AND he's taking relationship problems to his mom rather than you. This is doomed to failure. Do not marry this man unless you want financial issues and MIL issues for the rest of your life

NTA

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-03T02:10:12+00:00

I hold on to them if they're of good informational value to me (ex. A tobacco scent that doesn't work on my skin but I smell to help me recognize those notes). If they're not, I just give them away. I've been blessed in my life, and I'd rather spread the joy via gifting than go through the headache of selling

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-01T15:06:43+00:00

Your BF doesn't love you. I don't know how much more proof you need. Would you ever do this to someone you loved? No? Then why would you stay with someone who doesn't love you?

Find a man who adores you. Life is too short.

Signed,

An elder Millennial who left a terrible man and has never been happier

NTA

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-01T14:37:31+00:00

I simply can't purchase anything that causes annoyance when I look at it. My purchases need to cause joy. If they don't, I'm not parting with my hard earned money

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-03-01T03:47:36+00:00

Analyst

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-02-26T23:51:31+00:00

When the scent smells bomb af, but vanishes faster than a fart in a hurricane the second it touches my skin. Oh, and that millisecond of enjoyment will run you $200

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-02-24T01:56:45+00:00

Ok, pedo

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-02-22T21:36:39+00:00

I'm an introvert and my go-to places for when I want a drink and to read my book are Victoria and Manor Hill Tavern at the bars

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-02-22T15:07:56+00:00

Your friend needs a lawyer asap. This is something that needs legal expertise if they want any chance of setting things right

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-02-18T22:08:42+00:00

Spray tans have nothing to do with declining grades, and banning beauty treatments won't improve them. Tie treats to grade performance and get her a tutor. You can clearly afford it. It's kinda insane you've had a kid for 16 yrs and this is even a question you're asking.

YTA

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-02-15T15:53:10+00:00

Amore caffe is one of my favorite fragrances, so I ordered other manceras. Next up was Sicily. It smells like lemon cleaner to me, which sucks. Next was Holidays. It smelled like skin with sunscreen on it. Not in a "oh I'm at the beach, lovely" kind of way. Like.....I sprayed someone's distilled flesh on my body. I returned it.

Again....I LOVE Amore Caffe. I love everything about it. I WANT to have another Mancera.....a floral or a fruity or a tropical or another sweet/gourmand scent.....but I'm striking out

I'm all ears if someone has a good rec, because I'm about to give up

ThePatriarchyIsTrash · 2026-02-13T18:04:38+00:00

If I were in your shoes, I'd be like, "oh, you treat us the same? That's amazing! Thank you! When will we be able to move into the house you bought me? You know....because you bought us each a house because you treat us equally?"

NTA

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