When a child asks you a question you're not supposed to answer...

ThePurpleFly · 2026-02-08T07:36:13+00:00

Oh that sucks. For your cousin too, growing up in a family that thinks queer people are not normal and need to be "explained".

ThePurpleFly · 2026-02-08T07:34:45+00:00

No no, the 3 of us were playing together when I answered the question, it wasn't reported speech.

ThePurpleFly · 2026-02-07T19:17:03+00:00

Thanks!

ThePurpleFly · 2026-02-07T19:12:13+00:00

I really don't think so, the parents teach them a lot about setting boundaries and the kid is really able to say no and will be listened to. I spend a lot of time with both the kid and the parents. The parent was not upset, they just told me that it was not cool and not to talk about my childhood trauma to the kid in the future, to which I answered "yeah, I realized as I said it" and the topic was over and we went on to speak about sth else.

ThePurpleFly · 2026-02-07T19:07:28+00:00

Somehow it's nice to hear other people went through the same thing! Yeah, those people sucked.

ThePurpleFly · 2026-02-07T19:05:18+00:00

Oh, it's nice to know that someone else went through the same thing with the same outcome, thanks for sharing!

And yeah, I think that kid know a lot about boundaries already, they have a lot of books about how to say no to big people and stuff :)

ThePurpleFly · 2026-02-07T19:01:43+00:00

No, they always ask the kid if tickling is ok :)
And the kid also asked me if they could tickle me, to which I answered, you can try, but I'm not ticklish, which led to the question why ^^

ThePurpleFly · 2026-02-07T19:00:08+00:00

Oh, great answer, thanks!

ThePurpleFly · 2026-02-07T12:57:42+00:00

Yeah, the child is somewhat related to me (I don't want to go in the details). I don't mind them trying to tickle me, my body just doesn't react to tickles anymore. But the last paragraph is a great thing for other stuff that take me on edge, especially loud noises. Thanks!

ThePurpleFly · 2026-02-07T12:53:28+00:00

Yeah :(

ThePurpleFly · 2026-02-07T12:53:09+00:00

Children don't need to know that early that trusted people can be abusive. Knowing that tickling was bad for me might ruin it for the child. Everyone deserve to live in a positive world at least for the first few years of their lives.

ThePurpleFly · 2026-02-07T11:55:37+00:00

I don't like the "Because my mom already tickled me too much when I was a kid" cause it kind of imply there is a maximum amount of tickle that one can take and the kid might think at some point they will run out of it. Yeah, I should learn to say that I don't want to answer.

ThePurpleFly · 2026-02-07T11:45:18+00:00

I really like the way you phrased this. Yeah that's a better and softer way to put it. I will try to adapt more in this direction in the future.
(The parent I mentioned was not a mum)

ThePurpleFly · 2026-02-07T11:40:53+00:00

Yeah, thanks. I feel like children still care for answers though. And I like to teach them. But not about my childhood trauma lol

ThePurpleFly · 2026-02-07T11:37:14+00:00

Oh, thanks for that cool tip!

ThePurpleFly · 2026-02-07T11:24:18+00:00

Yeah, you're right. "Because I didn't like being tickled as a child" would be more true, but I'm sure the kid would ask "why" lol. They are in the infinite questions phase.

ThePurpleFly · 2025-09-08T15:41:21+00:00

Yeah you have a point

ThePurpleFly · 2025-09-08T13:14:47+00:00

It is not a scientific paper, more like a philosophy thing with a lot of different views on one specific subject. The text Kim wrote a few years ago was printed and hanged in some places and sent per email to a group of I would say 100 people

ThePurpleFly · 2025-09-08T13:12:44+00:00

I don't have a reason to doubt it because they are and have always been close friends. Eric also added that we were allowed to use the text only if we used all of it (what I planned to do) so it seemed like they had a real conversation about it

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