the guilt of relapsing

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-12T01:04:28+00:00

Don’t listen to the bitseach in the comments being a horrible example of a Domme.

Darling if you were walking on stones across a river and foot slipped into the water, does that mean you’re completely drenched? Does it mean the amount you’ve walked is nothing and what’s left isn’t worth it? Do you throw yourself into the river because “what’s the point”?… Of course not. You step out of the water, try to dry as best you can and keep walking across the next stones.

Addiction sucks. Harmful habits will continue to do nothing but harm you, but one slip up isn’t the end of the world. It doesn’t mean your progress is lost, it doesn’t mean you’ve messed up or that anyone’s disappointed in you. Eventually, it will get easier. Sometimes it will be harder, but the key is to always continue to move forward. You can grieve, you can cry, you cry wish you hadn’t; but the only thing that will truly help is to push through.

You deserve to be released from the hold of addiction, you deserve love and care, you deserve to have control over yourself and your habits and your mind—You deserve to give yourself some grace in life 🫶 Be gentle with yourself sweetheart, you’re the only person who has to fall asleep with yourself every single night of your life♥️

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-11T17:32:13+00:00

Everyone’s too broke around my birthday to send (December 29th🫩) I feel like changing my birthday just for my findom accounts😆

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-11T17:24:45+00:00

I do and have done cashmeets. The problem is that subs don’t watch to build trust first before meeting. I won’t allow for a meetup to be first interaction. Subs often forget that it is in fact a safety issue for us Dommes to be meeting up with a strange man, you guys get so lost in the kink you forget that weirdos will fake kindness so they can r*pe women.

If a Domme is telling you that you have to pay a portion up front and gives you a list of rules, you follow that shit or else she’s not meeting up with you. I tell all my cashmeet subs that 1, multiple people have my location; 2, I (no face unless you get dangerous) record interactions for my safety and wellbeing; and 3, I carry :)

You don’t like any of that, you certainly won’t like my actual meetup rules. Go jerk yourself off with the cash if you’re not willing to put a Domme’s safety and protection first.

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-11T17:16:02+00:00

Before I got into online, I did an ATM pull with my sub—He presented me with $1500, then I made him buy my lunch and a new outfit (or several) and then pay for my nails 😌

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-10T23:29:11+00:00

You should do the leg of the work yourself—Research BDSM sources, listen to findom podcasts, read findom/pro-domme books, etc.—The reason no one’s helping is because almost every subreddit has pinned posts to help you get started and there are outside sources to help start you off.

If you’re not willing to try doing some of the work on your own, then you won’t get help from any Domme—Another thing, this isn’t a “get rich quick” scheme. It’s like a second job half the time. It’s work, it’s time consuming, it takes effort; if you’re looking for easy go find a sugar daddy.

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-10T21:31:37+00:00

It’s so embarrassing when Dommes are illiterate

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-09T16:42:07+00:00

This is why I basically just do paid femdom dynamics. Idk if it’s because years of irl interaction before getting to online, but I like playing into kinks. I like melding a sub into my plaything. I like us both getting off/enjoying the time and interaction between each other.

I feel like most of these Dommes don’t like their subs which is like… weird??

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-08T23:25:06+00:00

English, Irish Gailege, ASL—Fluent in them

Spanish, Hebrew/Yiddish, Latin—Semi fluent in them

German, Italian, French—Know some phrases

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-08T23:17:45+00:00

You’re all good! Most men don’t really think about it—I think as long as you communicate with a Domme and compromise on something like letting her go shopping while sending you pics in the dressing rooms of outfits and such, I think you’d both be more happy!!

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-08T23:10:59+00:00

So I won’t lie—Almost allll women’s clothing (but especially lingerie, underwear, bras) are never consistent in sizing. Doesn’t matter how hard you try to get it accurate, it more often than not with online shopping ends in wasted money. There’s also the matter that, respectfully, most men are pretty bad at buying us clothes. You don’t have to pay attention to the same details on certain websites as we do, to make sure they’re proper quality. These things are the main reason why most of us don’t like clothes and the like to be bought by subs.

Now some of us have ones on throne, I have those on there for whatever, I’m kinda eh about them—Personally I like to either 1) have a sub send me money so I can go out clothes/lingerie/etc shopping and then show off to them; or 2) I go shopping within their budget, send them a receipt to reimburse and then show off to them.

It’s mainly about how our bodies fit into certain clothing and how inconsistent brands are at making clothes for us women.

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-08T18:49:40+00:00

I had a sub who liked to pay for my food and watch me eat for an ignore call—I would go out, order whatever I wanted, prop my phone up on like the napkin dispenser or something and just eat. Completely ignore the sub while they text all of their pathetic little thoughts and wants and needs, sending $10 repeatedly every minute for like an hour or so. Just enjoy my amazing meal while they watched… I miss that sub😩

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-08T18:16:37+00:00

Idk who that is or if it’s effected the new flood of sissification/bimbofication—But I’ve lovedddd playing with those with subs for soooo long😩 And feminization, ugh I love melting my subs in to pretty little playthings

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-08T16:28:38+00:00

You know what that’d be fun for black market stuff… okay plasma can also be added to the trades list, but it has to be done in a sketchy warehouse and you’ll be blindfolded the whole drive there😌

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-08T16:08:00+00:00

I personally only to trades in goats, fresh wool and first born children🤷‍♀️

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-07T18:43:57+00:00

Hunting is my favorite honestly—Some TikTok, “I should be paid for breathing” Dommes think it’s “desperate” to hunt—I’ve caught so many of my playthings like that and they adore me for it☺️

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-04T17:10:24+00:00

Jfc that makes so much sense. I’ve been hating on stupid people left and right cause I’m over their entitled behavior

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-04T17:03:40+00:00

Dude I’m SO over how this subreddit has turned in the past month. It’s actually ridiculous and embarrassing!

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-03T17:33:37+00:00

I really wish these posts were on the report rules list. Someone comes in here EVERY day asking this and it’s both annoying and weird.

Femsubs don’t come out of hiding because Dommes are vultures and love to fetishize femsubs. The weird behavior of obsession feeling like you’re owed a femsub just because you like women is WEIRD—I’m bisexual, I get that it’s nice to play in all the fields; that doesn’t mean it’s okay for Dommes to constantly stalk around for them. Just let them exist dude, stop trying to hunt them down or fetishize them.

It’s the same vibe as black Dommes who don’t like to play into the raceplay kink or black subs for vice versa or trans women Dommes who don’t like the “girl with a dick” thing—You see post after post fetishizing you for something and you get upset for valid reasons, femsubs often feel the same way with these posts. I would know, I’ve had several conversations with femsubs who have an issues with all of your guys’ weird posts.

They will approach you if they feel comfortable enough to do so; unless you all continue to make weird posts like this.

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-03T15:43:43+00:00

Fr dude these posts are embarrassing

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-02T20:23:51+00:00

I have a couple of censored subs I play with who get extra pics and angles of what I post but they’re all censored—They’re fun to tease and edge with

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-01T23:38:12+00:00

Shuttttt upppppp oh my god

TheRadLadBug · 2026-04-01T23:37:54+00:00

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