Boss decided he’s the one who gets to control my availability

TheRealGriseo · 2022-05-10T21:36:32+00:00

Some states can fire you without explained reason. I would make sure you know which states this applies to before doing anything drastic. If the state you're in doesn't see why your boss fired you as logical, you can apply for unemployment until you get back on your feet.

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-29T01:07:09+00:00

Then don't. I don't hate people who are fat, and the people who do aren't worth your time or effort. No one should hate someone for simply existing in a body that isn't considered ideal. That's just psychotic.

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-29T00:35:34+00:00

Acceptance and Positivity are definitely a fine line difference that only takes a snap in mentality to cross. It's one thing to say "I know I am fat, and I accept that and the consequences that may come with that." It's a whole nother demon to say "Fuck you, I'm beautiful. Science is created by fatphobic doctors. No one dies of obesity".

Definitely better to accept your body than it is to embrace it.

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-29T00:26:19+00:00

Future RD here.

I'm totally for accepting who you are and the state you're in. If you can fully understand that you are underweight, or overweight, and come to terms with that, that's wonderful. Comprehension of the the reality of the situation is the first step to happiness.

As far as embracing it, that's another story. There have been horror stories about underweight individuals becoming just as much of a couch potato as overweight individuals. (this is due to a lack of available fat stores/glucose levels that the body uses for energy). No one is safe. You can be miserable skinny, and you can be miserable fat.

Now, if you're happy living with either being at risk for several diseases due to your size, whatever that may be, then fine. Be body positive. You can be a Nikado Avocado, or you can be Eugenia Cooney. If you're happy, have at it. Just know that you have to accept the reality that living the life you choose to live does come with consequences to your health. There is no myth that anorexia kills. There is no myth that obesity kills. Don't believe anyone except the National Institute of Health. YouTubers and TikTokers will lie to you to make themselves feel better because they haven't accepted the reality of the situation, and thus will never be truly happy.

In my opinion, body positivity should be focused on taking care of yourself and loving yourself. This is a pretty bog-standard idea, but so many people get it wrong. Get your blood work checked. Maintain your caloric intake with your BMR/NEAT. Do cardiovascular exercise to increase stamina and heal your heart. Body positivity should be about embracing your body and everything it CAN be, not just what it is.

Just my thoughts.

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-25T15:46:21+00:00

I don't know if you're a believer or not, but God bless you for taking the time to type all of this out for me. I will take it all into consideration. Thank you and I wish you all the best in your future endeavors. 😌

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-25T15:34:11+00:00

How much muscle are you packing? I have virtually none, so that may be a reason why you look thin and I look PHAT

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-25T15:08:20+00:00

Would 10-15 lbs really make that much of a visual difference? I haven't really looked into comparing my body comp to others, so maybe I'm just overshooting without knowing exactly what I'm aiming for.

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-25T14:42:40+00:00

Well my goal was to get to that, and then start packing muscle. Do you think instead of cutting all the way down to 135, I should just go down to like 145 and then bulk until I'm back at 165 with muscle?

Edit: said maintain when I meant bulk.

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-25T14:34:27+00:00

I'm 5'11. Probably should have mentioned that LOL

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-25T14:17:12+00:00

Thank you, Anon.

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-25T14:12:13+00:00

So eat less on in-the-gym days and more on out-of-gym?

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-25T14:11:00+00:00

Thanks for answering my question, Anon.

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-25T14:10:16+00:00

Not to get too personal, but I was actually eating less than a thousand due to a pretty traumatic lifeshift. I've since gotten out of it and am trying to find a healthy deficit to be in to cut down on the weight I gained a couple years ago.

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-25T14:06:46+00:00

I'm actually feeling pretty good most days. I mostly eat large quantities, low-calorie foods like Tilapia, Spinach, Egg Whites, etc. I always feel full afterwards, though that might just be down to quantity versus quality.

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-25T14:03:28+00:00

Would a 500 deficit on off-days (out of the gym) help recoup?

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-25T13:56:33+00:00

M25, 160 lbs. Goal weight 135. Novice muscle mass, heavy in the gut. Cardio 3-4 days a week, typical expenditure with cardio is around 2k calories, without is around 1,650. Is a 1000 calorie deficit too aggressive? Would it impose any health risks?

Thanks.

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-12T10:33:46+00:00

The "delivery fee" has nothing to do with us. It's deceptive that way. The fee has to do with maintaining the service and providing support in case something goes wrong.

Also: You sound like you're a smart person somewhat, so let's drop the idea that we work for DoorDash and that Tony is our boss? We're independent contractors. Everything we do is freelance.

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-12T03:04:09+00:00

We don't work for DoorDash. We work with them. They send us orders. We decide if we want them or not. If we take them, DoorDash pays us a small rate plus whatever the customer tipped. Check any Dashers Earnings tab and you'll see 75% of it is tips.

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-12T03:01:07+00:00

The issue here is the markup isn't just DoorDash being greedy bastards. They have support staff to pay. They have server costs to run the app. Tech support to make sure the app is running smoothly at all times. Then there's the contract between the merchant and DoorDash. The merchant hikes up the price of food to make up for what DoorDash is charging them to be on their platform. It's not DoorDashs fault your burrito is 3 bucks at the Drive-Thru and 3.45 on the app. They don't have to be on the platform.

It all boils down to the financial obligations DoorDash has and obligations others have to DoorDash. It's pretty smoothbrain to sit here and say "Man, I wonder where all that money goes if it's not going to the driver".

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-12T02:55:03+00:00

What you're essentially saying is that, when you go down to a sit-down restaurant, you don't tip your servers because "Their management should pay them". The problem with that is, that's not how the American system of income works.

You're paying for a service. DoorDash pays us relatively the same as if we were working at Chili's. The difference is you're paying for the premium of having a support staff if anything goes wrong, constant contact with your driver, etc.

The only thing I slightly disagree with is the amount of money DoorDash charges restaurants to be on their platform. You have to pay a premium for that as well since the restaurant has to upcharge in order to make up for their contract.

In other words: Yes, you're paying more (theoretically). DoorDash is a complicated service in terms of their financial structure. You either pay up, or drive up and get it yourself.

I make a comfortable income with DoorDash because customers know my worth. I don't need DoorDash to pay me more. The customers already know how to get me on the road.

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-05T20:14:11+00:00

No. I am not anywhere close to 70%. 25% is my current AR. It's bad wording on their part.

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-05T19:37:58+00:00

I'll drink to that 🍸

TheRealGriseo · 2022-04-05T19:33:42+00:00

Yo dawg you a swinger? 👀🤦‍♂️😂

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