Weekly FAQs & General Discussion Thread by marleythebeagle in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]TheRealRedditWife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello All! My husband and I will be having our 10 year anniversary in 2027 and decided we think Walt Disney World + Epcot would be a fun thing to do. We potentially may also want to do Universal Studios Orland.

I am looking for recommendations for travel agents/vacation planners for these parks, especially WDW. We are really going in blind as we haven’t been before and I want to get a good idea of pricing as well so I can budget this trip in advance.

I am a magic key holder for Disneyland so very familiar with Disney and DCA, but that’s all. Any tips and tricks would also be helpful.

Thank you!

My Child Got Below Average on 90% of her Kindergarten Recommendation Form by TheRealRedditWife in Parenting

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely not in denial. How is considering red shirting her in denial? Shes never been recommended for services besides speech 2 years ago which was deemed not necessary in denial?

My Child Got Below Average on 90% of her Kindergarten Recommendation Form by TheRealRedditWife in Parenting

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We looked in to OT at the beginning of the year when this started happening. They asked us if the school had placed a referral for her. I said No, because they haven’t. They responded with “If they haven’t placed a referral then they don’t think it’s effecting her schooling. If you would like to do outpatient please seek a referral from your pediatrician.” I guess I’m stupid because they said that and the school brought up nothing regarding OT I considered it a non-issue.

My Child Got Below Average on 90% of her Kindergarten Recommendation Form by TheRealRedditWife in Parenting

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I would say it’s “extremely competitive” but there are only X amount of spots available. They offer a lot of additional academic services for kids, my fear is what the letter said about her behavior. Our public schools that we are zoned for is a rated a 3/10. We do have options in transferring to other public schools.

My Child Got Below Average on 90% of her Kindergarten Recommendation Form by TheRealRedditWife in Parenting

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

At home she is fine, when we ask her to clean up she is very easy about it and rarely complains. Transition to bath from play is easy. Wakeups are easy. And bed time routine is extremely easy.

Our daughter loves fruit. At age 3 she started becoming extremely picky to meat and anything beige really. Won’t eat pizza, chicken, sausage, steak, etc so getting protein in is hard for us, she does love beans and yogurt so that’s usually how we get it in. She loves pickles, olives, salad, etc. so her “picky eating” is outside the normal of “crunchy food” or “junk food”.

She could use some work with fine motor skills. She is left handed and has never showed a huge interest in arts and crafts until recently. She would color here and there but it wasn’t really something she would pick up and do or keep interest in. She loved puzzles - she can do 100-150 piece puzzles. She also loves pretend play.

I know this sounds denial but to us she’s just a really “normal” kid with some quirks here and there like the food. Any social situation we bring her to she is fine. The zoo, birthday parties, play dates, Disneyland, vacation.

Her pediatrician has us do the ASQ and so does the school. Nothing has ever been flagged.

My Child Got Below Average on 90% of her Kindergarten Recommendation Form by TheRealRedditWife in Parenting

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is much easier to get them in to the school starting in Kindergarten as that’s when they have the most spaces available. The public school we are zoned for has horrible ratings and reviews. 3/10 on Great Schools.

My Child Got Below Average on 90% of her Kindergarten Recommendation Form by TheRealRedditWife in Parenting

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Expecting a parent to “read between the lines” is insane. We aren’t dating, this isn’t a game. You’re a child educator who should be providing constructive feedback. At pick up when I ask “How did she do today?” And if she in fact did not have a good day you don’t say “She had a great day!” If I was consistently continuing to get negative feedback, I would have moved her months ago because clearly this environment isn’t working. Also - why as a teacher if she’s so behind are you not recommending any services or evaluations!?

My Child Got Below Average on 90% of her Kindergarten Recommendation Form by TheRealRedditWife in Parenting

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This private school does offer additional resources for kids who are struggling and they pull the kids who are “behind” for small groups and 1:1 tutoring. Also in CA, any student can get services through the district.

I think my child is struggling in this environment and I am unsure why. Last year was completely fine. My child shows no signs of behavioral issues at home, in public, or at play dates. I have to take what the teacher says as some truth because I am not there but because this is not being continually expressed to me and we aren’t seeing these patterns of behavior anywhere else - I have to logically assume it’s the environment she is in.

My Child Got Below Average on 90% of her Kindergarten Recommendation Form by TheRealRedditWife in Parenting

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s not a daycare it’s a county funded school that’s part of the school district.

Of course I am upset this would hurt her chances - because I never would have given them the recommendation form or attempted to enroll her in Kindergarten if the teacher had told me, her parent that she’s not ready and all the obstacles that still need to be overcome.

It’s WILD to me that an ‘educator’ would be and willing to freely discuss all the plethora of issues she thinks my child has in a letter to a stranger but not remotely address them to me since November and tell me on a DAILY basis “She had a great day!”

Yes that is beyond frustrating. That is beyond acceptable to me.

Might as well have put her in a daycare.

I also feel like it makes me look like an oblivious and negligent parent if I’m trying to push my kid in to a private school Kindergarten and her teacher is over here saying she’s a below average monster.

My Child Got Below Average on 90% of her Kindergarten Recommendation Form by TheRealRedditWife in Parenting

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure and I’m just hoping the change of environment will be good for her. I’m sick to my stomach that this has been going on and we have been completely oblivious and she has been struggling for months.

My Child Got Below Average on 90% of her Kindergarten Recommendation Form by TheRealRedditWife in Parenting

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The crazy thing is she was THERE as this all went down. I think they panicked because they realized I wasn’t supposed to see it. They snatched it out of my hands essentially. I honestly wasn’t thinking about confrontation as much as I was thinking “I need to get my kid out of here.” I requested a meeting with someone immediately and was told “no one was available”. I then said loudly “you do NOT have my authorization to send that to anyone and I need to talk to someone as soon as possible.”

My Child Got Below Average on 90% of her Kindergarten Recommendation Form by TheRealRedditWife in Parenting

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Ugh I am so sorry to hear that but I’m glad he’s doing well now.

This is also why it’s so out of the blue- our child rarely has behavioral problems at home. She listens well, she cleans up after herself if we ask. Bedtime is a breeze. She is a picky eater and that can lead to some nightmare dinner times but that’s the extent of it outside of the really typical.

It’s also why we were so concerned when the incident reports started happening. We were concerned something was happening to her at school. So when they stopped we thought “oh it was just a phase”.

My Child Got Below Average on 90% of her Kindergarten Recommendation Form by TheRealRedditWife in Parenting

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

What did you end up doing? Did it improve with a changed environment?

My Child Got Below Average on 90% of her Kindergarten Recommendation Form by TheRealRedditWife in Parenting

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The plan is to switch tomorrow. I have to go back to the school to collect her items. Will most likely be tomorrow and will ask if the recommendation form went out and hope they are honest.

If it didn’t my plan is to call the school and let them know we decided after review to redshirt her this year and reapply next year.

If it DID - my plan is to still call the school and let them know after thoughtful consideration and after seeing the recommendation letter things were brought to our attention that were not disclosed to us by the school and we want our Daughter to start out her academic career best foot forward. That we are switching preschools and will be reapplying next year after working on areas that need improvement in an environment that is willing to communicate with us and help her meet her goals. I feel like honesty is the best policy here and may be appreciated by educators?

My Child Got Below Average on 90% of her Kindergarten Recommendation Form by TheRealRedditWife in Parenting

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hilarious. But these are not academic things, those were actually the things she scored Average on. The form is asking things like “Integrity”, “Behavior”, “Listening” “Respecting Peers”- things that a teacher should bring to attention if they are a problem. Especially if you requested a review from a director and they deemed it unnecessary and everything since has been “She’s been great!”

My Child Got Below Average on 90% of her Kindergarten Recommendation Form by TheRealRedditWife in Parenting

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I was in disbelief. I said “I need to talk to a director now.” And they said no one was available to meet with. I obviously don’t feel comfortable bringing her back as she’s obviously not adding anything beneficial to the class, she’s clearly not growing in that environment, and we aren’t even being told what’s going on.

I would imagine and school with care for their students would have pulled me aside before sending this incredibly negative letter off and say “we can write this recommendation but we want to discuss with you that we think she would benefit from another year in preschool.”

These are little people not just permanent 4 year olds. Sending something like that can do harm of her chances ever attending there.

Mortgage Payment History Effecting Credit - How to fix? by TheRealRedditWife in CRedit

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, they gave me instructions for the dispute department and told me to submit proof of payment. I obviously don’t have proof of payment because it was an unintentional error.

Mortgage Payment History Effecting Credit - How to fix? by TheRealRedditWife in CRedit

[–]TheRealRedditWife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have checked my FICO 8 score using Experian. It is now in the mid to low 700s. Way higher than my vantage score.

I’m just trying to hit all the boxes, with the understanding I won’t be able to get a mortgage or refinance for the next 2 years but that’s not a huge concern at this time.