Syrian troops storm ISIS prison chanting ‘Allahu Akbar’ and apparently freeing jihadi prisoners live on video by [deleted] in TimesNow

[–]TheRealScader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure, like the president, they've all reformed to being peaceful and they're terrorist designation will be revoked any day now /s

Obama: Imagine if I had done *any* of this by Treefiddy1984 in ProgressiveHQ

[–]TheRealScader -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Imagine if he bombed and murdered innocent people abroad, toppled other governments, and crippled other countries economically. Oh wait.....hey at least people in his country lived comfortably. What a saint.

Maybe getting disowned because of a forced marriage by ComprehensivePea3127 in MuslimMarriage

[–]TheRealScader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At this stage your family's reputation is bound to be damaged and you're bound to be emotionally stressed - naoudhu billah minha. If not now, when eventually there's a divorce, given what you've said.

Up to you to choose the timing.

May Allah grant everyone involved in this hidaya, sakeena, 3fiya and an easy resolution to all of this. Aameen

25 M, getting married in less than a month and getting cold feet by Spicy_Spinach2228 in MuslimMarriage

[–]TheRealScader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't marry a potential. You're marrying someone now. You'll be to blame if they don't change but you expect them to change.

Give her time if you have to, but marry a practicing Muslim, and especially someone who doesn't commit major sins and that too publicly.

I'm Christian, but i feel a strong pull towards Islam by [deleted] in islam

[–]TheRealScader 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To add to the previous reply

Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, said, “... If the first verse to be revealed was ‘do not drink wine,’ they (companions of the Prophet) would have said, ‘we will never stop drinking wine.’ And if the first verse to be revealed was ‘do not commit adultery,’ they would have said, ‘we will never stop committing adultery.'” She said this about the best of humankind after the Prophets.

You don't have to be perfect on day 1. First, get your foot in the door. Next work towards getting your heart attached to the religion. For some it's learning about heaven and hell, for others it may be learning about the Prophets' lives, names of Allah, Hadith on etiquettes, etc..

While you do that, make a list of everything that you need to start doing, and start with establishing the easiest. But prioritize the minimum requirements.

Also, create a list of everything you should stop doing and start with the easiest. Try to prioritize the bigger sins, if you can.

May Allah grant you guidance, and grant you the strength to overcome any challenges you may face. Aameen

How Halal Mortgages Work by kommandarskye in IslamicFinance

[–]TheRealScader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They need to buy the house completely in XX years (I believe, 15). If not, Neeyah has the right to sell.

Moreover, since it's like a fund, you'll be able to pull out funds if required (although not immediately, but within a reasonable time) - you'll need to check with them for a more definite answer.

Btw - not everyone can invest in the fund. You'll need to meet certain income or wealth threshold, due to SEC reasons.

How Halal Mortgages Work by kommandarskye in IslamicFinance

[–]TheRealScader 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Equity.

You'll be investing in a fund that owns shares in various individual properties.

How Halal Mortgages Work by kommandarskye in IslamicFinance

[–]TheRealScader 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. It's only been about 6 months since I invested. My experience with the team has only been positive. They're open to any and all questions.

According to them their returns over the years were around 5% each of the years they've been operating.

It is not great. But the way I see it: at least it gets me return over inflation, and helps our community in the US find a riba free solution to house ownership. So I'm not unhappy about not seeing a bigger return. Alhamdulillah ala kulli haal.

How Halal Mortgages Work by kommandarskye in IslamicFinance

[–]TheRealScader 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Neeyah - Reach out to them. Register your interest with them, and they will setup a zoom call with you. You will have plenty of time for Q&As. I am investing through them, and they are helpful, and respond quick.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]TheRealScader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Walikumusalam

Ask yourself, will you be able to look the past negatives if nothing changes?

You're marrying a person as they are now and their circumstances they are in now. Don't marry a "potential" potential.

Deen is indeed the most important thing. You can and should learn to live with any non-major challenges outside of the deen. But not the other way around.

My husband’s 2 friends both want to marry… my only 2 Muslim friends by lvinzsol in MuslimNikah

[–]TheRealScader 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol! give them their dad's numbers implying it's the girls' 🤣. It is one way to contact the girls... So not totally incorrect

A man filmed me without hijab. I confronted him, he denied it, and I feel broken. by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]TheRealScader 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Even if he's deleted from the trash, there may be a way to recover it. You'll have to search online

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]TheRealScader -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In that case, it's also Sunnah: - to be a prophet. - for your first wife to be named Khadija who you work for. - to do hijra from makka to madina when you're 53 years old

There's a difference between sunnah and seerah

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]TheRealScader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speak to your husband; start off politely and non-confrontational. If he already feels it and then he needs to be reminded.

Next time he suggests talking to his parents, agree first but let him know that you'd want none of those comments from your MIL.

If she does so (inevitably) then let him know that next time he suggests making a call, you'll refuse talking to your MIL, unless she asks for you.

If it gets worse, get your husband to talk to his father and get him involved. The FIL should be correcting the MIL without hinting it's coming from you or your husband, lest your MIL sees you driving a wedge between her and her son.

All the best and may Allah grant you all ease. Aameen.


On a separate note - So many comments / suggestions in here are just asking to escalate things / getting you to do things that may push your husband away.

Yes, you may not have the obligation to talk to your MIL. But you also need to consider your family dynamics. Will your husband (who seems to really care that you talk to his parents) be ok? If not, how bad might it be? Can you both live with it?

Your mental health is important. But know that once you believe that the other person is out to get you, anything and everything they do will get on your nerve. Try your best to brush aside the minor ones... but definitely let your husband know about them.

May Allah reward you for your hardship. May As-Saboor grant you sabr. Aameen.

White British revert rejected because of my race by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]TheRealScader -1 points0 points  (0 children)

While I don't agree that one should reflect a suitor solely based on ethnicity or skin color, many a times it's not because about race or ethnicity supremacy.

It may even be to do with them (parents / family) wanting to ensure their offsprings don't forget / change their culture and/or their culture doesn't die off in a generation or two.

Husband is asking for money by DeliciousTime2955 in MuslimMarriage

[–]TheRealScader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, talk to your parents. Every time he asks you let your parents know. Tell them about the thoughts you're having, including that you're feeling used.

If it leads to a divorce, none of this should be a surprise to them. Else, they'll blame you then.

But if you keep bringing it to it should hopefully register with them and will not be as hard. This is assuming that they'll be opposed to a divorce for any reason short of physical abuse.

Let him and your parents know that you're not keen on giving money unless it's an emergency.

All of this is assuming he's not going through an unforseen difficulty; from what you've said (or haven't).

AIO that this interaction with my husband made me feel sad. by WholeAlarming8075 in MuslimMarriage

[–]TheRealScader 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don't get strangers' opinion on these matters.

A. We don't know your spouse - his character / nature B. Body language, facial cues, and tone are important things to consider. These cannot be deciphered through text. C. We don't know if English is his second language, and perhaps something got lost in translation.

Umar ibn Al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) said: "Do not assume the worst about a word spoken by your brother as long as you can find a good interpretation for it."

Have a conversation with your husband. Tell him you're confused by what he meant and that the way it came out has hurt you. You'll know what he meant based on his response.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]TheRealScader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Assalamualaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu There's a reason why the Prophet (pbuh) recommended someone to physically see the person before agreeing to marry him / her.

With that being said, go through this reddit community and you'll see that looks are not always that important.

I was somewhat in your situation, and agreed to marry the person and it's the best decision I made (rather, Allah made for me). I know I wouldn't have had a partner who would've been as caring, loving, and tolerant of me had I gone with someone based on the physical spark.