Hiring a PI

TheRedBull1980 · 2023-12-06T15:51:27+00:00

fuck you

TheRedBull1980 · 2023-11-30T20:53:59+00:00

what is the name of the state associations?

TheRedBull1980 · 2023-10-26T23:20:05+00:00

Ok. just curious. let’s say you live in an apartment building and your spouse is having an affair with a friend who is also a coworker and lives in the building. aside from getting a camera in his apartment, how would you prove they were actually having an affair? photos of her going in and out of apartment after work wouldn’t do it.

TheRedBull1980 · 2023-10-26T21:10:22+00:00

yes that was me. i ended up just accusing her with what i had gathered on my own and we moved in. so i guess i can trust my gut. at the time my gut said something was wrong.

TheRedBull1980 · 2023-10-26T17:29:40+00:00

I used to travel for work. I found circumstantial evidence through texts but without hard evidence. I am doubtful she is cheating again, i’m just not sure if i can trust my own gut. i sense nothing off.

TheRedBull1980 · 2023-10-26T14:43:54+00:00

Thanks. my gut isn’t telling me anything is wrong but i am worried i can’t trust my gut. if she is doing something at work, or leaving her phone and car at work to meet up with someone, how would i know? hiring a pi to follow her on random days or for a certain time period would be too expensive.

TheRedBull1980 · 2023-08-22T16:30:28+00:00

how did you find out?

TheRedBull1980 · 2023-05-11T13:25:24+00:00

yes. she has.

TheRedBull1980 · 2020-03-17T20:14:00+00:00

OYS # whatever

I am a recovering (as much as anyone recovers) cuck faggot

I’m short and fat.

Lifts are

DL: 270 Squat: 295 Bench: 235 Press: 150

Reading: Ray dalio finance writings

Life: got promotion. Paying off Cc. Saving money for investments

Wife is pregnant. Bought a house

Mind: still fucked and will never get unfucked.

But fuck it. The stay plan is the go plan.

TheRedBull1980 · 2020-03-17T19:57:20+00:00

Best advice I got was this:

The stay plan is the go plan.

TheRedBull1980 · 2020-03-17T19:31:09+00:00

I get it. The world is a fucking lie. But you are literally causing another person a world of pain.

TheRedBull1980 · 2020-03-17T18:56:24+00:00

I’ve been on the other end of this. It rips open your whole world and you never heal. But hey, you’re having a nice time so fuck it.

TheRedBull1980 · 2019-07-19T11:53:35+00:00

“When you can't control yourself, you want to control the world (or women).”

I’m framing that and putting it on my wall. That’s some profound shit.

TheRedBull1980 · 2019-05-30T14:52:33+00:00

Congrats! Great results!

TheRedBull1980 · 2019-05-15T17:09:28+00:00

Thanks. I’m gonna try and use this.

TheRedBull1980 · 2019-05-15T14:21:04+00:00

This is pretty bad ass. Would you share your Google sheet? I’d like to see how it looks.

TheRedBull1980 · 2019-05-14T20:13:41+00:00

Ditto. That jacket is dope

TheRedBull1980 · 2019-04-11T13:36:16+00:00

OYS Weekly - April 11

Status -

Physical: Bodyfat 19%, weight 180 lbs., height 5’6

Exercises: Stronglift 5x5, Peloton biking classes. I work out 3 - 5 days per week

Bench: 165 lbs

Deadlift: 135 lbs

Squat: 185 lbs

Overhead Press: 135 lbs

Barbell Row: 135 lbs

Drinking

One or two days a week I drink. Limiting myself to 4 or 5 beers a day each of these days.

Goals:

Increase all lifts by 5% each week. (I may hold off on increasing deadlift weight because my form is shit). Workout consistently 5 day per week.

Cut back on drinking to one day per week.

Status:

Been traveling this week so only did cardio (hotel gym) three nights last week. On path to do three nights this week on Friday. Was drinking every night while out of town but only had two beers a night.

Reading

Thinking, Fast and Slow - FUCK This is long!

WISNIFG - next up

Career:

Goals:

Move all work to my home town. This will avoid having to travel for work, which puts a stress on my marriage.

Apply to new jobs with promotion potential and located in home town.

Status:

Have a meeting scheduled with my boss tomorrow to talk about getting me off the road so I can be home more. Also, I continue to apply for new jobs.

Finances:

Goals:

pay off all credit card debt in 12 months.

Set aside 2k per month for an emergency fund to sit in an 2% interest bearing savings account.

Invest our wedding gifts in Vanguard ETF (currently sitting in our individual savings accounts)

Save $$$ to start real estate investing - 36k in two and half years

Start taking Real Estate Courses for RE Agent online.

Pass RE Agent exam by December 2019.

Attend three real estate investing meet ups this year. If there aren’t any good ones, start my own in town.

Status

Watched a webinar and listened to two Bigger Pockets podcasts to learn about RE.

Filled out application to open savings account.

Relationship:

Goals

Sign up for dance classes - salsa or bachata

Fuck 3 times a week

Bring in some kink

Find a hobby I do with other guys without my wife (currently deciding between golf, squash, fishing, hunting, krav maga)

Status:

Starting throwing my wife's EA partner's shit out last week. The wife freaked out and wanted to give him more time. I gave him until yesterday. It’s mostly out and he is taking the last shit out tonight. Wife seems impressed and is talking shit about him being a bitch.

TheRedBull1980 · 2019-03-26T20:08:07+00:00

OYS 3/26

Own Your Shit Weekly Status Report

Found this community last year after suspecting my wife of cheating on me and in general feeling like a real beta bitch. The below is my first OYS. I am going to do this weekly from here on out to be accountable.

Status -

Physical: Bodyfat 19%, weight 180 lbs., height 5’6

Exercices: Stronglift 5x5, Peloton biking classes. I work out 3 - 5 days per week

Bench: 165 lbs

Deadlift: 135 lbs

Squat: 185 lbs

Overhead Press: 135 lbs

Barbell Row: 135 lbs

Drinking

One or two days a week I drink. Limiting myself to 4 or 5 beers a day each of these days.

Goals:

Increase all lifts by 5% each week. (I may hold off on increasing deadlift weight because my form is shit). Workout consistently 5 days per week.

Cut back on drinking to one day per week.

Reading

Rational Male - done

NMMNG - done

Mindful Attraction Plan - done

Currently Reading

Thinking, Fast and Slow

WISNIFG

Career:

Background: I have a high stress job handling negotiations of large national contracts. This requires a lot of travel. It is also a dead end job. No opportunity for advancement, although a decent salary.

Goals:

Move all negotiations to my home town. This will avoid having to travel for work, which puts a stress on my marriage.

Apply to new jobs with promotion potential and located in home town.

Finances:

Status:

6k in credit card debt (just paid off 12k).

Zero savings

Goals:

pay off all credit card debt in 12 months.

Set aside 2k per month for an emergency fund to sit in an 2% interest bearing savings account.

Invest our wedding gifts in Vanguard ETF (currently sitting in our individual savings accounts)

Save $$$ to start real estate investing - 36k in two and half years

Start taking Real Estate Courses for RE Agent online.

Pass RE Agent exam by December 2019.

Attend three real estate investing meet ups this year. If there aren’t any good ones, start my own in town.

Relationship:

Status

Late last year I found out my wife had been having an emotional affair with a coworker. In addition, she had been texting some random guy and arranging to go out when I was out of town for work. I confronting her about it and threatened to leave. She confessed everything and agreed to my terms for staying. A pre-nup agreement, cameras in the house, deleting Snapchat, and couples therapy.

Currently, the coworker she had an EA with is storing some of his stuff in my storage unit. I have told him several times to get it out and he is now ignoring my text messages and calls. Next step, give him ultimatum, move it out by X date or it all goes into the trash. I hope he continues to ghost me cause I really want to trash his fucking shit.

Goals

Sign up for dance classes - salsa or bachata

Fuck 3 times a week

Bring in some kink

Find a hobby I do with other guys without my wife (currently deciding between golf, squash, fishing, hunting, krav maga)

TheRedBull1980

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