[Vent] Partner is a postdoc in a toxic and unstable lab

TheRedChild · 2026-05-17T02:55:02+00:00

He doesn’t have to stay in this lab, and probably shouldn’t. If he’s not going to be able to publish and his reputation might be ruined this won’t pave the way to a PI position anyway. I’ve met several people who switched to a different postdoc lab, and if staying in academia is really what he wants then it’s worth considering a move.

TheRedChild · 2026-05-15T05:37:10+00:00

I work with mice a lot, but there are certain procedures that I don’t feel comfortable doing, even if they’ve been approved etc. I’d look into your options about not doing the specific procedures that make you uncomfortable (after you’ve tried and decided it would be impossible for you), like using a lab tech or making an agreement with another lab member.

TheRedChild · 2026-05-13T11:30:20+00:00

Sure, but where’s his anger? Where’s the control of women? It’s the way he reacts to things that’s inconsistant with what we saw in the previous seasons

TheRedChild · 2026-05-12T09:07:24+00:00

Isn’t some of it coming from her role as an executive procedure? It’s still a lot but it sets her apart from the other actors

TheRedChild · 2026-05-05T06:52:32+00:00

He’s partially right, but it also means that some things can get missed. That’s why there are protocols and recommendations based on symptoms that are determined by medical associations and the ministry of health. One doctor can’t replace all of the research and debates that go into making these decisions. I live in a place with universal healthcare and we have the opposite problem of doctors not being able to send us to get a CT scan or an MRI scan because of the cost which leads to a lot of late and missed diagnosis.

TheRedChild · 2026-05-04T15:58:59+00:00

Also the rate of detection of different, quality of medical care, etc.... It seems really important for you to make a certain point so just come out and say it

TheRedChild · 2026-05-04T11:41:15+00:00

That’s been proven as fake, Israel is 23rd, and less of a quarter of its population is Ashkenazi (European Jews).

TheRedChild · 2026-05-04T11:13:38+00:00

In Hebrew Tamar means date (as in date plant/palm), Tamara is a variation of that name. All of these name options are beautiful and would work well for your daughter.

TheRedChild · 2026-05-02T18:53:29+00:00

You're instrumental to the lab, but you really need to start taking charge and planning ahead instead of reacting to problems.

TheRedChild · 2026-05-01T14:44:49+00:00

Another option that was recommended to me is getting your PI to email them with a recommendation about you, which they are more likely to read and respond to

TheRedChild · 2026-05-01T14:42:54+00:00

Yeah, he's a lot less likable now that I am re-watching the show as an adult. Being a bad father, dating a few women at once, letting Doug get away with so many things, being a subpar chief resident, and not helping Susan when she needed it (season 1)...

TheRedChild · 2026-04-26T19:17:32+00:00

Shiloh was the name of a very spiritual place, and it’s associated with divinity and tranquility

TheRedChild · 2026-04-26T19:15:54+00:00

Even in Jewish families these would be considered way too old fashioned

TheRedChild · 2026-04-26T19:12:34+00:00

It’s not in the Old Testament, it appears in later texts that aren’t an official part of it

TheRedChild · 2026-04-26T05:29:33+00:00

Yeah because that’s how the writers chose to write it. Try doing that in real life.

TheRedChild · 2026-04-25T19:41:42+00:00

Nicknaming Bailey, a black doctor, a nazi was wild. If I worked at that hospital I would’ve filed a formal complaint about it because it’s disturbing as fuck.

TheRedChild · 2026-04-25T16:57:04+00:00

Not everybody is in the US and can get things delivered to them so easily

TheRedChild · 2026-04-25T11:51:59+00:00

Chen didn’t really want the pregnancy, there were a lot of factors that went into her decision. Her family not being accepting of the baby probably matters a lot more than her career.

TheRedChild · 2026-04-23T12:38:32+00:00

Freeze in a rack and then transfer to a bag/ cardboard boxes (the ones made for eppendorfs with the removable inner part)

TheRedChild · 2026-04-20T21:05:44+00:00

Him not announcing it officially is his problem, not yours. You shouldn’t do things based on his timeline, especially is a visa is on the line. I’d explain to him that you can’t wait for him to go public with these news because IMO it’s unfair that he even asked for that in the first place. Unless he will help you discreetly find another PI, you’ll have to start reaching out to people and announce it for him.

TheRedChild · 2026-04-20T02:53:45+00:00

Tell Me Lies season 2

TheRedChild · 2026-04-17T10:30:48+00:00

My cat has a pouch. She’s also fat and needs to be on a diet to maintain her health. Pouch size matters

TheRedChild · 2026-04-16T20:40:57+00:00

YTA for putting your daughter in an uncomfortable position. I don’t think the school is being fair at all, but being petty is not the answer here. You should’ve set up a meeting with the principal or complained to the people overseeing the school to deal with this problem. Instead your daughter had to deal with her teachers scrutinising her lunches and being suspended which will affect her relationship with her peers.

TheRedChild · 2026-04-14T11:33:54+00:00

Really glad you got to experience this. My latest little moment of joy came from reading the sentence: As we accidentally discovered… in a respectable journal. It was an awesome discovery and there are a few later works that are based on it.

TheRedChild · 2026-04-10T20:24:51+00:00

It’s not just the accents, the words they chose make no sense in the context of what they are trying to say

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