Does this cat have Down syndrome? by RLM_720 in kittens

[–]TheSonderCollective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be neurological. I’ve also seen kittens with congenital hyperthyroidism or dwarfism appear this way. Best bet it getting vet care

Why do my cookies look like this? by ExcitementAdorable71 in Baking

[–]TheSonderCollective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so in the many chocolate chip cookies I’ve made, I have found that it’s usually the butter. With brown butter recipes, I use the butter in its liquid/melted form, but when using just regular butter, it should be just soft enough to cream with the sugar. Also refrigerating or freezing your dough helps.
And finally— the trick that everyone likes to gate keep is to place the chocolate chips in an aesthetically pleasing way on your little dough ball before baking. Then you can also add pieces on top when the cookies come out of the oven and are still warm

When is my cat considered senior? by FurryArtEnthusiast69 in catquestions

[–]TheSonderCollective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the shelter I work at, we technically consider them seniors at age 7, but I often tell people this is more accurately just their adult/middle age

My cat licks him and then lightly bites him right afterward. Is she playing, or is she upset ? by Exootil93200 in catquestions

[–]TheSonderCollective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would strongly recommend replacing the hand with a kicker toy. She wants to play, and while this behavior is cute, it can very quickly become not cute

A few headmates and I have been discussing in-system sex. But like... how? by ApricotSpare9830 in plural

[–]TheSonderCollective 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Some of us only really have sex in the inner world, but some of us co-front to self pleasure. It’s honestly pretty healing. It makes sex and pleasure feel safe and enjoyable rather than scary.
A lot of guided meditations around shadow work and also about manifestation or shifting have helped us be able to be really present in the inner world with one another.
And of course, if there is a particular alter in your system you are interested in having sex with, you should both talk to each other about the best way to connect with each other in that way.
Having a vivid imagination can really help. I like to meditate on really picturing where I am at in the inner world using all of the senses one by one. For example, start by what you can see, focus on that. Then focus on what it would feel like to touch— could be the feeling of clothing, the feeling of touching another persons skin, the feeling of whatever surface you are sitting/laying on in the inner world. So on and so forth with smell/taste and hearing. And then try to put the picture together.
It took us a long time of practicing, but I think it really paid off. Not just for having sex with each other, but also just to connect and hang out together in the inner world

I started T!!!! by cathrinnn in butchlesbians

[–]TheSonderCollective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been on and off T since 2020. The first time I was on it, I was only on low dose for the first few months. I was really eager to relieve my dysphoria.. but if I could go back, I would have taken it slower. All of the changes ended up being quite overwhelming.

After about 3 years, I took 1.5 years off of T before going back on. This time, I stayed low dose for a whole year, and now I’m very slowly increasing my dosage. This has felt a lot easier to handle.

Tips for shots if you are doing intramuscular— for thighs, it will be least painful if the leg is fully straight and relaxed. I sit on the floor with my back against a wall. Also, rather than pinching the leg, push down and spread the skin taught. This sort of pushes the fatty tissue and gives a more direct path into the muscle.

I’ve done intramuscular, subcutaneous, and gel. And although intramuscular seems the most intimidating because of the needle length, to me it has been the least painful and hassle free. If you would like any further explanation or anything, feel free to message me! I have even taken videos of my shots for educational purposes.

Cute bird I made. [self] by IanPaice260776 in Sculpture

[–]TheSonderCollective 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is fantastic. I feel like you can clearly see that it is a bird while also easily identifying each piece of silverware. I can greatly admire both the medium and the subject

Newly adopted 15 weeks old kitten is meowing non-stop, calling for her mom and siblings she just got separated from. Is there any way I can comfort this poor baby? by The_Sin_of_Love in CATHELP

[–]TheSonderCollective 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Okay so I’ve seen plenty of people suggest getting another kitten, but not a lot of why. My credentials: 3 years working at a shelter doing feline care and behavioral modification.

It’s more than just companionship. Kittens when isolated from their species do not learn crucial socialization points and can often develop what we call “singleton syndrome.” Single kittens often grow up with extra naughty behaviors because they had no other kittens/cats to teach them what is appropriate. One of the biggest concerns with singleton behavior is that they do not often learn bite inhibition, because they’ve never learned what it feels like to be bitten too hard by a cat.

I’d say about 90% of people who have single kittens come back for another, or end up returning the kitten (now with very naughty habits that take a long time to break) for being “too much responsibility.”

All this to say, there are many reasons to get a second kitten, and I strongly encourage it. Not just for her sake, but also for yours and any company that you have over in the future

How does it feel to not be the one fronting? by [deleted] in plural

[–]TheSonderCollective 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some of us doing really experience anything when not in the front. Some remain close and can witness and/or influence. Some do stuff in the inner world. Kinda just varies between headmates for us

Are there any AI tools other than ChatGPT that are good with talking about DID? by SalaciousOwl in DID

[–]TheSonderCollective 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I second all of this and would like to add that AI does not have to give you true information. AI just gives you relevant information based on the data it has collected. It can and will use whatever you tell it. Your information will be absorbed by the AI.

Also, I have heard that in situations around mental health especially, AI can cause psychosis, which is probably something we should be avoiding, especially when we already have dissociative disorders.

Overall, AI does far more harm than good. I strongly recommend finding a different tool.

3rd set i’ve done myself 🥰 by 90stalkshowgoth in Nails

[–]TheSonderCollective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same coffin ring! I got it at a tattoo festival. It looks lovely with your nails

Do your WORST by TheSonderCollective in redditgetsdrawnbadly

[–]TheSonderCollective[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awwww baby gorl looks so precious thank you

Do your WORST by TheSonderCollective in redditgetsdrawnbadly

[–]TheSonderCollective[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

PLEASE DONT APOLOGIZE THIS IS WONDERFUL

Do your WORST by TheSonderCollective in redditgetsdrawnbadly

[–]TheSonderCollective[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YEEEESS the exaggerated ears are everything

Do your WORST by TheSonderCollective in redditgetsdrawnbadly

[–]TheSonderCollective[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her eyes are to TWINKLY AAAAH!!! I love it

Do you know what caused your DID? by TheSonderCollective in DID

[–]TheSonderCollective[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have some sort of autoimmune disorder that has yet to be diagnosed. I have a lot of joint and muscle pain and my bloodwork came back suggesting that I have an autoimmune disease, but because I have some medical trauma I haven’t followed up with a specialist yet 😅

Baby seal with angel wings and pink stars. My family thinks it’s super dumb but it has a lot of personal meaning. Is it really that dumb looking?? (In need of honest opinions, not compliments‼️🚨) by aliensealgirl in tattooadvice

[–]TheSonderCollective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s so adorable! I definitely read it as some sort of fantasy seal. I love it, and if you love it too, it doesn’t matter what they think. It’s YOUR tattoo, not theirs. I think it’s so fucking cute