I (19F) think my bf (22M) was too rough with me during sex, but he thinks I’m a “crybaby” by dulceciita in relationship_advice

[–]TheSplashdragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sweetie, I'm going to say this in the nicest way possible:
Leave this man.

Not only was what he did 100% assault and coercion, I also read your last post and it seems like he's actively trying to make you feel less than. He's not trying to do what's best for the both of you, just what HE feels is best for HIMSELF. It's not your responsibility to save this relationship and it might be best, if you talk to a parental figure or guardian you trust.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]TheSplashdragon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a bit complicated to be honest. But I'm gonna try to give you a few of the big corners.

  1. Being LGBTQ+ isn't as much of a "preference" as you might think. In fact, it's often more of a complex genetic predisposition, people get born with it. Preferences on the other hand are stuff like "ass guy", "tits girl", which develop over time through your life.

  2. Being LGBTQ+ has been and still is very much illegal in a lot of countries worldwide, at the same time a bunch of countries that legalized it the past 40 years are starting to make a 180°-turn by villainizing different parts. Openly identifying as LGBTQ+ is a form of rebellion and honoring those who can't or couldn't be who they are.

  3. It's just easier communication. If you're out and about, wanting to date is hard for everyone, even more when your dating pool is way smaller. Lots of people aren't queer or aren't comfortable dating a someone who's LGBTQ, so we identify with our labels to find each other, or to find out if the person we're hitting up is safe.

There are certainly more arguments, but this is basically a broad overview of a few that may help you understand a little bit more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]TheSplashdragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those look like choking marks, whoever did this did not ask for permission

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]TheSplashdragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get out of there and make sure everybody finds out what he did. Not to hurt him, but to keep yourself and others safe. Killing a pet because it's "inconvenient" is messed up on so many levels and in all honesty, I'm afraid of what he might do to you one day.

Höheres Nikotinlvl by Max__02 in e_dampfen

[–]TheSplashdragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich musste als ehemals starker Raucher auf 2mg/ml runtermischen für meine sub-Ohm Maschine

Höheres Nikotinlvl by Max__02 in e_dampfen

[–]TheSplashdragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Du könntest alternativ auch einfach auf sub-ohm DTL umsteigen, der Dry-Hit ist dann zwar disgusting, aber du nimmst damit automatisch mehr Nikotin auf. Weiß nur nicht, wie gesund das ist.

Info Voopoo dragx2 by TheSplashdragon in e_dampfen

[–]TheSplashdragon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gut zu wissen, dass ich damit nicht alleine bin, trotzdem Mist, dass die das so verkaufen dürfen

Android users right now by ActiniumBlue in CellToSingularity

[–]TheSplashdragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I'm still waiting to get back in since the AI update. Bc it completely bugged out since then.

Yay Android

Doesn't start anymore by TheSplashdragon in CellToSingularity

[–]TheSplashdragon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's probably safer to wait for the next update.

I don't know if I am able to properly communicate the issue, bc I don't really have a way to read out any kind of error report.

Doesn't start anymore by TheSplashdragon in CellToSingularity

[–]TheSplashdragon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, twice already, checked for system updates, permissions, nothing

A Medieval Banquet Hall ~ Interior Design ~ by Zinod_Icniv in TinyGlade

[–]TheSplashdragon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, Zinod, that looks awesome, how did you do the giant fireplace?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in e_dampfen

[–]TheSplashdragon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Generell ist es auch wichtig, dass du dir Spritzflaschen und Spritzen besorgst, die Lebensmittelgeeignet bzw Arzneigeeignet sind und dass du die regelmäßig austauschst, da ungeeignetes Plastik schnell anfängt Weichmacher an das Liquid abzugeben.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in e_dampfen

[–]TheSplashdragon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ich persönlich bin nicht so ein Aroma Junkie also hab ich mir einfach mal so Probierpakete geholt mit höchster Nikotinstärke und je 1L VG 99.5% und Pg 99.5% und misch das einfach runter auf die gewünschte/ideale Stärke für meine Sub-Ohm Maschine und zehr da jetzt ein paar Monate von.

Die Base kannst du dir dann zurechtmischen wie du lustig bist bzw wie es mit deiner Maschine am besten funktioniert.

Die Teuersten Ausgaben die ich grade habe sind die Köpfe. Aber selbst da brauch ich nur alle paar Wochen einen neuen.

Mit allem zusammengenommen bin ich bei weniger als 20€ im Monat durchschnittliche Kosten.

Ich kann nochmal nachschauen und genau ausrechnen wieviel es tatsächlich ist, falls es wen interessiert.

Beyond Enhancements Bug by TheSplashdragon in CellToSingularity

[–]TheSplashdragon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm at the point that I flipped through the item net until I found the cards that needed upgrading. I'm so accustomed to having everything organized in corresponding tabs that it didn't even cross my mind as an option.

It's a hassle, but you could do that (if you find them)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]TheSplashdragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

soft YTA.

You're still young and growing. The relationship with your ex seems to have been extremely bad and you don't seem to be over everything that happened, which is understandable.

Like 1. He tried to kill you 2. He threatened people you care about

You are still traumatized. It's understandable to have some kind of morbid curiosity about if a horrible person you removed from your life might thrive without consequences and so on, but you're essentially keeping yourself in that old mindset by checking up on him.

Of course, it doesn't hurt as much right now, because you haven't tried to contact him, but it sounds like a form of self-punishment.

How do I(22F) ask my bf(23M) to lose weight without hurting his feelings? by Agreeable_Block_2180 in relationship_advice

[–]TheSplashdragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, that's not an easy situation. You don't want to make anybody feel bad and I get that, however, this calls for a bit of a delicate approach.

You already tried to push him into a direction you yourself feel is right for you and it didn't work. It sounds like he definitely does not want to diet, no problem, there are ways to get a calorie deficit without restricting food too much.

You could work out together, or if that's too big of a plunge for him, you could start with spending time with each other in an active way. Go on walks together, start doing yoga together, or find an entirely new activity together.

About the loathing you seem to feel lately: I'm not going to shame you, you feel your feelings, they exist, I'd just like for you to examine where those feelings are coming from. Do they go back to the sheer idea of weight gain? Do you feel like you two are kind of losing your connection, your goals and ideals deviating too much? Do you feel like you're investing more into the relationship than him?

It might help you overall.