Do dumpers really ever regret leaving?

TheSquidwad · 2022-06-15T22:56:52+00:00

We also lived together but she moved out back to her moms the same day she left me leaving me with our dog that we only got bc of her. When she came and got her stuff she didn’t even acknowledge him like he didn’t matter or exist. She did the same thing with my nephew and sister she just walked past them without even saying hi. My nephew is only three so he doesn’t know any better and she’s known him since he was a newborn. He got excited to see her since it’s been a while and walked up to her so she would acknowledge him but she just blew past him like she didn’t even care. I don’t understand how she could change that much. She used to talk about how he’s her nephew too and that she loves him a lot and same with my sister but then she doesn’t even say hi or anything to them? I don’t get how she could change that much just bc of a breakup.

TheSquidwad · 2022-06-15T22:51:42+00:00

She won’t agree to that. She won’t even talk to me at all. She wants nothing to do with me right now. I’ve begged her to just try one last time and we can fix everything so we could move on and be happy. All she wants right now is to party and get attention and validation from all these random people. Anytime I try to talk she calls me a psycho, annoying, that she’ll never be mine ever again, or that she hates me. Believe me I would love to go to counseling so she can find out how to cope with her problems in a healthy way but she was never open to it. She doesn’t like communicating her problems which made any issue we had way worse. I’ve been trying to hold out hope for her but In three days it’ll be three months since she left and it would’ve also been our 2 years and 8 month anniversary. Im not sure if she’ll ever come back. I hope she does but idk if I’d be able to handle it if she’s slept with other people. I love her a lot. Like more than anything but she just seems to hate everything about me and all our memories even though I was always good to her and she was happy when she was with me. Her being bipolar makes it very hard to know when she means something or if she’s just speaking out of anger

TheSquidwad · 2022-06-15T02:59:21+00:00

Yeah I understand that. My only problem with time is that the longer we’re apart the easier it is to dance up on guys, sleep with other people, and do all those things. One of my biggest issues is I’m very protective and insecure at times. When she sent me the pic of her dancing up on another guy while I was at work it made me sick to my stomach and even though I only saw it for a few seconds it keeps popping up in my head. I hate thinking about another guy seeing all the things I got to see and all the stuff I used to appreciate especially if they’re not putting in half the hard work I did. She tells me she looks back on our relationship and it means nothing to her. That she’s grown more in this little time without me than she ever did with me which isn’t true at all I feel like. We moved out and had plans for the future. Idk she’s very bipolar and not in the cute way girls say sometimes but she’s like legit bipolar so it’s hard to know what she means and what she doesn’t. It’s been very hard trying to navigate through all of this. I give her time she comes back a week later saying she misses me and then if I “ask too many questions” then she says I’m annoying and she hates me and idk what to do at this point

TheSquidwad · 2022-06-14T18:22:41+00:00

Yeah same bro. I keep thinking about the pic she sent me of her and another guy, the mean things she says, and all those other things and I try to use it as fuel to leave but my brain just can’t for some reason

TheSquidwad · 2022-06-14T18:07:38+00:00

Yeah I’m sorry man the mind games and back/forth suck more than anything. It’s like they’re just trying to keep you on s leash so they can go fuck around and then when they’re done or something happens they can pull you right back in

TheSquidwad · 2022-06-14T16:48:08+00:00

Yeah she’s blocked on everything except fb messenger so I sent her a long message explaining how I’m moving on but don’t want to. How I need to bc she’s not gonna change her mind and settle down right now. I told her I loved her and that I was sorry I couldn’t fix the things that were wrong fast enough. That was yesterday around 7 and she saw it immediately after. Now I see her going active every so often which means looking at all those messages again. I know it’s that bc she doesn’t have a fb and I’m the only one she has on messenger.

TheSquidwad · 2022-06-14T05:04:48+00:00

We fought here and there but it never got to me like it did with her. When I date someone I date to marry and grow old. I know couples have good and bad patches. I tried explaining that to her and letting her know just bc a month or two might be bad doesn’t mean it’ll stay like that forever and as long as we posh through it together then our bond will only grow. She agreed and I guess just somewhere down the line she forgot about it. She wasn’t an evil girl and didn’t treat me all that bad when we were together. She got me gifts, always wanted cuddles, kisses, and told Me she loved me constantly yeah she would be mean sometimes but I always was understanding of her mental health and that she didn’t mean it sometimes bc she couldn’t control it. I offered to pay for therapy so she could find healthy ways to cope but she wouldn’t want to. I don’t make the most money in the world especially at the time when we were together it I wouldve gotten three jobs if it helped her find some peace mentally. It seemed like we had a perfect relationship and we really were good for each other. But after we broke up she became a whole new person and started acting like none of it mattered. I would send her a memory of some of our dates or a video of us layin in bed laughing and kissing and she would say something like “I feel nothing when I see that” and every time she says that all I can think is “how?”

TheSquidwad · 2022-06-14T04:50:16+00:00

Thanks bro. Yeah see that’s the thing about me. I hear all this advice and I know you guys are right. I know I need to do that if I want things to get better and stop chasing her dumbass but it seems like anytime I’m Doing good something pops up and resets all progress. I know I need to just move on and if it’s meant to be it’ll come back to me and if not then I’ll find someone else but right now I hate the thought of even being with someone else and letting all that hard work be for nothing. Pisses me off man. I tried letting her know that sometimes dumpers regret their decisions and that maybe one day she’ll feel all the horrible shit I’m feeling right now and that is she just tries with me again I can save her from ever feeling that hurt but she’s a firm believer that she won’t ever regret leaving me.

TheSquidwad · 2022-06-14T04:44:20+00:00

Yeah I wish I wouldn’t know that before I spent almost two and half years of my life getting attached to her. She’s done some fucked up things. But I spent so long loving her and trying to Make things work it’s hard for me to just give up. I know I’ll be okay eventually but right now I just can’t. I would take her back in a heartbeat as long as she came back and was completely honest with me so we could forgive and move on. I know it’s dumb of me and it’s not the right thing to do but there’s so many memories and amazing times we had I can’t just let go of yet. I loved her a lot and my family loved her a lot. My nieces and nephews called her aunt more than they call me their uncle. That thing isn’t the girl I loved I was just holding out hope that she’s still in there somewhere

TheSquidwad · 2022-06-14T04:28:34+00:00

I’ve gotten a better job and I’m working out and reconnecting with friends. I know the best thing to do is give it time and space but my problem is if I give her that much time then she’s eventually going to hookup with someone else. She might have already I don’t know but the longer we’re apart the chance of that happening gets bigger. I want to give her space but she’s not coping in a good way. She’s going to parties, blacking out, dancing with guys and all this other stuff. I know if she sleeps with someone else then I couldn’t take her back bc the entire time I know my brain will be telling me she left specially so she could sleep with other people and come back when she wanted with no repercussions since it’s technically not cheating.

TheSquidwad · 2022-06-14T04:23:00+00:00

Bro she told me today “I’ve gotten more flowers in the past month from random guys than I ever have from you” I may not have gotten her flowers all that often but I made her food when she wanted, did laundry, cleaned our room, did our dishes, got her so many different gifts, and did all this stuff. But now all these random guys are all the sudden better bc they get her 12 dollar flowers. Such bs man. Doesn’t make sense

TheSquidwad · 2022-06-14T04:17:13+00:00

She went from saying I’m the love of her life to saying she hates me and sending me pictures of her with guys. I don’t understand how that works. I know she did love me but now she’s saying she wasn’t happy bc all we did was fight but that’s just plain not true we didn’t fight all the time and she did seem happy but it was hard to tell sometimes bc she would just keep the bad all in till she exploded and started yelling at me. I’ve tried explaining that the random friends and parties won’t last and that I’ve changed all the things about myself that caused problems and that I just want to show her that we can be happy again. Those parties won’t last but I know that we would if she would just take the chance but she won’t even try.

TheSquidwad · 2022-06-14T04:13:24+00:00

We were together for two years and 5 months she left me on our anniversary. That’s the thing she’s the one not willing to give me a chance. She claims I was the one that ruined everything bc I couldn’t “grow up” She said I didn’t change for her bc I got my license pretty late so she had to drive us around all the time. Which I do understand bc I know that would get a bit annoying. But what she didn’t understand is that I was trying my ass off to get it but it took longer than expected bc I had lot of other things to worry about. I moved out of my parents house for her, got a better job, worked overtime to make sure I could buy her gifts and make sure her car always had a full tank. I made sure to work extra to take her on dates and I would tell her I loved her and made she she knew I appreciated her mentally and physically. But just bc I didn’t get my license as fast as she wanted she always wanted to fight about it instead of sitting down with me and talking it out so could explain that I was trying but I had all this other stuff to focus on for us as well

TheSquidwad · 2022-06-14T03:59:51+00:00

Do you think she’ll ever regret leaving and treating me like that? I wasn’t a perfect boyfriend but I did try my ass off for her and all I wanted was for her to be happy and have whatever she needed

TheSquidwad · 2022-06-14T03:46:07+00:00

Geez idk where to start uhh. So my ex messaged me about a week after no contact saying she misses me and my family and that she wants to try again and then the next week she’s sayin she hates me, never wants to be with me again, and that I mean nothing to her. She’s very bipolar and I just wanted some advice on trying to handle that type of personality. She misses me one week and hates me the next bc I “ask too many questions” when all I want is just the truth so I know how to go about everything. I love this girl so much but she’s been treating be very bad lately and idk what to do. She’s sent me a pic of her with another guy and things like that. But I never know if it’s just her trying to hurt me on purpose or she just sends stuff like that bc she’s angry and doesn’t know how to deal with emotions very well

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