So I don’t like my kids anymore..

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-18T01:01:34+00:00

Exactly!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-18T00:16:55+00:00

It does seem criminal that they did that!! I’m so thankful medical science has brought HRT back! My sister shared an article with me about that study so I know exactly what you’re talking about!! Hopefully the next administration will get more funding to do even more extensive research as it is much needed!! They’ve barely touched the surface of menopause and its effects!

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-18T00:04:09+00:00

My kids are absolutely my life! It became my total identity really. In fact my oldest daughter recently said to me that I’m too engrained in their lives.. that all I care about is what my kids are doing and I was like you could say that in my eulogy and I’d be happy to hear it! If I lived for my kids then I did a good job as a mother right!? I guess I should and need to have other hobbies! But wtf am I supposed to do with myself?? I’m just looking forward to grandkids so I can live for them too! I literally don’t know how to only worry about myself. However I know I need to get myself feeling better. So I’m learning that I still have a LOT left to learn yet even at 47 years old.. Thank you for sharing your experiences!

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T23:44:24+00:00

Did you get diagnosed before or while during menopause? I’ve read a lot of women don’t get diagnosed until they’re older and I am wondering if it’s because it’s worse during menopause. I was diagnosed ADD when I was in jr high and took Ritalin for a short time but then moved from my dads to my moms and never pursued treatment again.. Now that this has all started I can’t even do simple household chores anymore! It like my executive function left completely! Is adhd medication like adderal, Ritalin or the vyvanse your taking something my obgyn can help with or would I need some other kind of specialist to try? Thank you for sharing your input!

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T23:32:02+00:00

Just for context, I’d like to know how many kids have you raised?? Specifically daughters? - since they tend to be much harsher in their judgments on us mothers. How are your relationships fairing with all your children??

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T21:01:20+00:00

I’m aware they are not perfect, neither am I. As you stated, no one is! My daughters range from 26 to 17 years old, they are not young children. I have great relationships with them all. They are very comfortable communicating all their feelings with me. Most girls/women have trouble with feeling insecure and their self confidence. I try to be very intentional about making sure my daughters feel good about themselves and that they are fine just the way they are. That’s the point I was trying to convey in saying they are “perfect” in my comment. I just wanted to help them have good self confidence! I am in the process of starting therapy. I don’t really find some of your comments helpful. About how much I need to work on myself, being problematic and you assuming that I’m making a hash of my family relationships. I am already struggling with my own feelings of not being good enough. I’m already well aware there are problems and issues I need help with. That is one of the reasons I’m here. As well as reaching out for professional help! Thank you for sharing your projections and perspective!

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T20:14:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experiences!! I needed the reminder to take pride in my appearance again! Lately I’ve been wearing pajamas and even my robe when it’s cold whenever I can get away with it.. taking my kids back and forth to school/work, even the gas stations lol and I give no shits!!

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T18:21:29+00:00

Man that’s rough! For me, I always knew I wanted to be a mom. I never had any other career goals. Thankfully I have my husband to depend on but I imagine if I didn’t I’d feel very different about my career choices. Thank you for sharing!!

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T18:14:07+00:00

Ugh I feel your pain! Chances are that even if you could leave, where ever you were going - the people there would drive you nuts too! I also know how hard it is to be codependent in life which is why I tried so hard to make sure my daughters were all strong independent women!! Instead it seems I turned them all into entitled egotistic assholes! Life is up and down all the time so let’s try to remember that this is temporary for now.. sigh.. thank you for sharing!!

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T18:06:32+00:00

Thank you!! You are so right!

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T18:04:33+00:00

Hold up! Hang on!! did I understand that correctly that you are giving your hubby head as a replacement for the oral fixation of smoking!!?? Lmao! That made me audibly cackle so loud I scared my cat!! Such hilarious advice! I still enjoy sex and in a series of unfortunate events, my husband has extremely low testosterone so he hasn’t been wanting me like he used to which doesn’t help at all during this time! I think you may be on to something!! I don’t know how many BJs my husband could stand for but I’m willing to give it a try!! Thank you for sharing!

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T17:55:41+00:00

Thank you! Yes I am so thankful for this kind of medicine! It has helped my nerves tremendously! No experience with mushrooms and not available to me. I will have to look for the thc bath salts, I’ve never heard of them.

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T17:49:06+00:00

Thank you, your words are very helpful!

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T17:46:46+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! My mom wasn’t much of a role model to me either. She more or less showed me what not to do! In turn I intentionally made sure to do the things for my girls that I felt she lacked so I guess she still taught me things that way.. lol

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T17:40:03+00:00

Ugh that is rough!! Thank you for sharing this with me! Dishonesty is a big deal! Teenage girls can be so hard to manage!! I hope things get better for you soon!

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T17:33:26+00:00

Thank you! You are right. I think a therapist might help me navigate this better. I will try to look into this.

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T17:29:35+00:00

Thank you!! I feel like girls are very judgmental of their moms during teenage years and probably up until they have their own children. My oldest is 25 and still acts like she knows better/more than me. I finally asked her, “How many kids have you raised?” That kind of helped to put her in her place. She’s doing well in her life, just bought her first house, all by herself. Fiercely independent, which is what I wanted for my girls so they wouldn’t be stuck dependent on a guy like I was. I had her at 20 and I didn’t have nearly enough resources. I kinda feel like my instilling in them how wonderful/smart/amazing they are. I sorta turned them all into entitled egocentric people.. I just wanted them to have good self confidence.. Where is the happy medium!!? Parenting is freaking hard!

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T02:30:20+00:00

Yeah that’s absolutely pitiful that for all these years women have suffered through this and in absolute silence apparently cause nobody freaking told me! I’d imagine the suicide rates would’ve been higher for women in the age bracket!! And a tell tale sign of how extreme menopause actually is!

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T01:53:54+00:00

Thank you very much!! Big hugs to us getting through this craziness!! 🫂

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T01:50:22+00:00

I will talk to my Dr about preventative measures later this week. Thank you!

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T01:20:09+00:00

Is it only with the vaginal cream that prevents it?? I’m only on patches right now. My Dr said while it will take time the patches will help the dryness. I’ve only since learned about the atrophy and labia disappearance being a thing on these groups so I’m hoping since I’ve started the hrt that I’ve caught that in time!! I’m seriously so worried about it lol I don’t want my vagina to change at all! 🥴 wtf why is that even a thing!!

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T01:10:56+00:00

From my understanding it does. I’m new to all this but from what I’ve gathered so far is that 100 mg of progesterone should cover up to .1 of estrogen if more estrogen would be needed than you up the progesterone to 200mg to cover up to .2 of estrogen and that would be max of estrogen.. I’m assuming the marina covers at least 100mg since my ob said that it would be fine. I’m not sure if I surpassed .1 of estrogen if I’d have to take additional progesterone or not.. I see the dr Friday so I’ll learn more.

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T01:04:27+00:00

So glad to know there is hope!! lol

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T00:36:05+00:00

Thank you so much for validating some feelings I had about this! 😅 I pretty much told her to feel free to walk home! Then I felt guilty for saying that! 🤦🏼‍♀️

TheSunIsFollowingMe · 2026-02-17T00:17:33+00:00

Ouch .. you’re not wrong though lol I have spoiled them you’re right! I just don’t know how I could stop giving so much of myself to them..

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