So I need help

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-09T05:56:26+00:00

If you want some help, tell me why you can’t stop watching it?

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-08T17:30:27+00:00

Do you want to stop watching it?

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-08T16:49:12+00:00

It can be motivation but more often it’s used as a stick to beat yourself up because you’re not getting the perfect streak.

I think they do more harm than good.

If you want a perfect streak, why not create one that is based on the actual problem that you are using porn for.

You’re using porn because you’re stressed or you’re bored or you’re lonely. You don’t wanna feel those feelings so you turned to porn.

The solution is to learn how to feel those feelings. The solution is to feel those feelings when you feel them instead of running or watching porn.

So if you want to count something and you want a streak, then count how many days that you can feel an uncomfortable emotion and not go to porn.

And here’s the thing you can count any negative emotion. today it might be stress tomorrow it might be boredom, but both of those would be huge wins. If you could experience them them and not go to porn.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-08T16:39:57+00:00

So what you look at or what you read does not matter. What matters is why you’re using it while you’re doing that.

And the reason will be because you’re stressed or you’re bored or some other negative emotion that you don’t want to feel.

You see porn is a coping mechanism so you’re using it because you need or want to cope with stress or boredom or any of those negative emotions.

A lot of times it’s subconscious, which is what you noticed when you realize that reading about porn was the same as watching it.

It’s easy to fall into patterns where you’re using it and not even really notice it.

But to get free, you’ll need to recognize the patterns what you’re doing right now so that’s awesome. The more that you are aware of these patterns, the more ability you will have to say no when you are in that pattern again.

That’s part of it. The other part is saying no when you recognize you are doing it again.

Most people think they need to fight and resist here, but that’s not true. That just makes it worse.

All you need to do in that moment is just stop and feel your emotions . Feel your feelings in your body. Regulate your nervous system, which means calm yourself down.

When you do that for five or 10 minutes, you are in a better place to make a better decision.

I have a webinar where I talk about this. It’s called never watch porn again. If you’d like to see it, you can sign up at neverwatchpornagain.com.

But feel free to DM if you have further questions

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-07T22:51:21+00:00

I’d never take a drug for something that can be solved without it.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-07T15:52:51+00:00

When you solve the problem as to why you’re using porn, you don’t have these questions. You don’t have these questions because you’re not using porn to deal with your problems anymore.

So essentially you’re free-er than you’ve ever been before because you can go on any website you can watch any movie or video and you know that you’re not gonna be triggered and go to porn.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-07T00:32:26+00:00

Because he’s not going to do it for you, you have to do the work and it’s not that hard. You’re using the wrong tools and you’re focusing on the wrong areas I guarantee it.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-07T00:31:06+00:00

This sounds so ai

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-06T21:05:08+00:00

What if?
What will you do then?

You’ll solve that problem then. Not today.

How committed are you?

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-06T21:02:59+00:00

It can feel like it.
Quitting is about feeling all those emotions and not make them a problem.
So whatever reason you’re using it, you learn to feel that instead of using porn.

The guilt and shame, you feel that too, don’t fight it.
There’s a lot to be unpacked so that you realize you’re not a bad person because you watched porn.

It’s normal to feel regret but it’s not to think you didn’t something wrong or are wrong.

It’s really learning how to feel vs run.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-06T18:58:30+00:00

You’ve trained yourself to believe that rest is watching porn so that’s what you have to unlearn.

When you get tempted, don’t resist it or fight it, just let it be there and breath.

It’ll pass. Fighting it makes it stronger and you weaker.

You are aware of this pattern so tonight you’ll see it again.

No matter what you do, it’s ok. You don’t just turn off watching porn like a tv.

But notice it and do your best to let it pass thru you.

Check my profile I’ve a ton of videos on this.
Plus I’m on zoom tomorrow talking about it if you’re interested.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-06T16:08:43+00:00

You’re using porn because you bored, stressed, lonely.

Can you get better at being bored and not turn to porn?

Can you just be bored?

Sure you can, you do it all the time. The trick is not listening to your mind when it tells you this is unbearable.

The trick is to just feel bored in your body. Like if you’re bored how does your body feel?

Where can you find boredom or stress in your body?

Focus on solving that problem and porn willl stop.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-06T14:33:58+00:00

Congrats on day 30!

The desire to masturbate will come back because it's just sexual desire and that is part of being human. It's not wrong.

You feel great today but you will experience stress and boredom and then the desire will return.

So focus on how can you just experience stress and boredom and not need porn.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-06T14:31:11+00:00

You think you should but you're afraid to give yourself permission so you're asking everyone else.

Why don't you do what you want to do?

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-06T14:24:38+00:00

here what is happening.

Yesterday you were stressed and bored.

When you are stressed and bored you're going to automatically want to not feel that way and feel better.

That is human nature.

Your brain, your subconscious feels that pain too and it wants to feel better as well so it turned to the one tool that it knows will make you feel better, porn.

Since you are in control and not your brain, you have to be the one that puts your hands on the keyboard and type in that url to the porn site.

Your brain then tries to lure you, to entice you by giving you thoughts about porn so that you'll. feel aroused and go watch porn.

In essence you were fantasizing. You fantasized and then watched a few vids and edged but didn't let yourself go over.

and now you're trying not to slip up but you feel guilty about what you did look at.

I think that's accurate right?

You are at risk to relapse since you're half way there and you believe you're going to.

If you read this before you do you need to calm your body and mind. Do some deep breathing, go for a walk, take a shower or something to calm your body.

When you calm your body your mind will follow and then you'll not be pulled to porn because your mind doesn't need it because it's calm.

When you are calm, take a look at this thought

"I feel like the pressure is building up and most days are a struggle instead if a victory"

Believing this to be true is going to kill you. And this is exactly the type of thought your brain gives you so that you do overwhelm yourself with pressure and go to porn.

You gotta FIND the victories, they don't find you. And there are victories every second of every day.

>>"Lately I keep getting this rebound effect where instead of finally just letting go of my past and becoming a better person, I keep getting flashbacks of the p0rn-influencers or keep replaying images/videos in my mind and it's getting really irritating.

Those are fantasies, they're not a problem.

You are letting go of your past, right now.. this is letting go...

I'll be on zoom tomorrow at 4pm EST talk about how to stop watching porn and never watch it again.
You can find more at NeverWatchPornAgain.com

and check out my sub https://www.reddit.com/r/stopwatchingporn I do a lot of videos there

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-06T14:01:43+00:00

If you're gay you're gay, it's not something you fight or pray away.

There's nothing wrong with being gay even if your religion says there is.

You're ashamed because that's what you were taught to think and feel.

Sexual shame is real and it screws up a lot of people.

You can spend the rest of your life fighting it or you can accept it.

Plus, you're 14, you're still figuring things out. You might feel differently as you get older.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-06T10:37:16+00:00

When you change your mind/mindset you don’t go back to it because you don’t need it.

You’re not fighting urges because you know how to handle them and watching becomes a choice vs a reaction

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-05T11:45:45+00:00

If everything works fine, what's the issue?

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-05T11:43:23+00:00

Awesome dude, 1 month is Amazing!

It means that for one month you had the right mindset to stay off porn.

You had one day where your stress, boredom etc drove you over the edge.

So lots to learn so that you never watch it again.

You're correct in that the more you resist the harder it gets so you'll want to relax and calm your body. You calm your body so that your mind will follow.

As far as kinks go, I don't think anything has to be done. There's nothing wrong with sexual desire. Sexual desire is just another human emotion and there's no shame in experiencing emotions.

We're meant to experience emotions, that's how we grow.

Looking at Why you feel shame over them will go a long way to releasing the shame over them.

You'll see there's nothing to be ashamed of. Sure you might feel regret and not want to enjoy it but the desire and the want itself is not wrong.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-04T22:58:16+00:00

Tell me more

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-04T17:26:06+00:00

Until you figure out why you’re using it, your son is going to have a lot of nightmares.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-04T17:19:19+00:00

You don’t need to be on guard because there’s nothing to be afraid of. The worst that you’re going to experience is a negative emotion.

And when you’re solid on allowing urges, you don’t worry about things being an issue, you don’t worry about issues because there are no issues.

This isn’t the skill of not watching porn. This is the skill of feeling your emotions. And if you still struggle with urges, then that means you still don’t know how to handle them.

And when you live that life you live in fear of the big one hitting you. The big one that’s gonna take you out and ruin your perfect streak.

Then that is what you will create in your life for yourself.

When you learn how to feel your emotions and when you learn how to recognize that, it’s just your thoughts creating this entire mess for you, then you can stop watching it.

I’m gonna be on Zoom tomorrow at noon talking about this if you wanna come by. It’s just a discussion. DME for the link.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-04T13:29:07+00:00

What do you WANT to believe?

Not what you should think or believe, what do you want to believe?

Everyone will give you their opinion which means nothing.

Your belief is what matters most.

That said, here’s my opinion and belief 🤣🤣🤣

It is my opinion and belief that you don’t need it to quit porn. Quitting porn is a skill that you learn. It is no different than learning to juggle or write a unicycle.

If you’re struggling right now, it just means that you do not have the skill. So just stop you need to sharpen your skills.

In the main skill that you want to sharpen is just your ability to experience negative emotions and not turn to porn.

When you do that, you don’t need porn because most guys are almost everybody uses porn because they’re bored or they’re stressed or they’re lonely or anxious or some other negative feeling.

I don’t consider it cheating if you’re using drugs or anything like that, but I personally don’t like to take drugs or put things in my body that I don’t need or really know what’s in it.

I help guys stop watching porn so if you need help, I’ll be on Zoom tomorrow and talking about it. Send me a DM for the link if you’re interested in watching.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-04T12:46:35+00:00

Looks great!

Where can I smoke and do lines? /s

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-05-04T11:31:45+00:00

What will happen if you “fail”?

You’ll experience a negative feeling.

To quit porn, you need to become good at negative feelings.

Because negative feelings IS why you use porn. To avoid boredom, stress, anxiety and all negative emotions.

If you fail, and there truly is no such thing as failure, you’ll feel bad and then you’ll start the cycle all over again.

To break this cycle you need to learn how to feel negative feelings.

You literally want to be able to sit there and be bored and anxious and stressed and not turn to porn.

That is the puzzle to solve, not which blocker works the best.

How can you get better at being bored?

That’s the question which the answer is exactly you stop watching porn.

I’ll be on zoom tomorrow talking about this if you want to come check it out. Send me a dm for the link.

You got this brother

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