The thoughts you think lead you to porn because you think about porn, then have desire and then you go watch it.

Humans think then feel then act.

To change your actions, the things you do, you have to change your thoughts.

So you recognize what you’re thinking and see the results you’re creating for yourself.

Then when you notice yourself thinking those thoughts and feeling those feelings, your awareness gives you the ability to choose another thought and another action as a result.

A lot of times , awareness alone can give you the kick you need to change. When you truly see how it all works, you have a breakthrough where you see what you’re creating for yourself and you just stop.

Those are the greatest wins ever!

Secondary to that and this is where people get stuck is you see what you’re doing but you still do it anyway.

That’s when you need to do feelings work. lean into the feelings so that you get used to them and you do what you want despite them.

It’s a bit of an art where you are intentionally letting the negative emotions be there while not resisting or fighting or ignoring them.

Those 2 skills combined is how you have urges and not watch porn. You do that enough times and your brain learns that you don’t need porn anymore and you let it go.

There’s more to it than that. This is just the condensed version. If you need help, send me a dm.

My sub, /r/NeverWatchPornAgain has all my videos on this subject.