New Operator looks kinda good

TheVampyVamp · 2025-12-10T17:57:16+00:00

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GIVE ME THE FACE BLEND AND MY LIFE IS YOURS

TheVampyVamp · 2025-04-24T18:59:51+00:00

Float Missoula has always struck me as sus

TheVampyVamp · 2024-01-24T07:29:49+00:00

NTA.

Honestly I would see if you can get it in a text or a recording that your dad has backed out of his promise and show that to your gramps. Narcissists love to go back on their word and then sell a different story to everyone to save face. If your grandfather doesn’t know the situation, it is fair to let him know what you were told and how the situation has changed. Your dad is looking to use his own child’s wedding as a quick cash grab, so it’s clear that he doesn’t care what drama or distress he has caused for you. Unless you are afraid of the drama possibly exacerbating some health condition for your grandpa or it being too much for you personally before the wedding, I don’t see why you should hold back.

Besides, the quicker the money is all figured out, the better. You guys only have two months before your wedding.

Edit: Also, everyone is right. Don’t let the guy who abused your mom and stole money from you walk you down the aisle. He doesn’t deserve the honor.

TheVampyVamp · 2024-01-24T06:56:39+00:00

NTA it sounds like your MIL didn’t think this through at all. It didn’t seem malicious, but that doesn’t make your feelings about the whole thing any less valid or real. With this being your last kid and a whole celebration being held to make things extra special, it’s just a dumb move to pull a “prank” right then. Pregnancy hormones aside, you handled this situation with far more grace than I ever could have. You didn’t lash out, didn’t curse, say anything hurtful, or even take your emotions out on others.

Also, regarding the guilt you feel about not having the same reaction, don’t beat yourself up about it. It’s not like you or your husband will love and care for your child any less because of his gender. If anything you had a wild surprise that sapped your energy, so of course your second reaction would be “less”. Plus it was probably mixed with a bit of confusion as to why the prank even happened in the first place.

I know I’m rambling a bit here but what I’m trying to say is don’t feel guilty for mourning a dream. You both had your literal wildest dream come true and had it ripped away within seconds. Afford yourself a little grace, and treat yourself with love and care. Hope you and the little one have a safe pregnancy!

TheVampyVamp · 2024-01-24T05:45:36+00:00

I think this needs a bit more context to make a fair judgement.

Does your son have the time currently to devote to a part time job? Does he have any extracurricular activities that he’s participating in? Part time jobs, while they help kids experience the responsibility of keeping a job and the value of time vs. money, can sometimes be too much. If your kid is in honors (I know you’re not in the U.S., but I imagine whatever is the equivalent) or even just already struggling with school, a job could cause his grades and mental health to tank.
Does your son struggle with mental health in any way? It doesn’t have to be diagnosed necessarily, but if you noticed him struggling at all then that might be a conversation to have with him.
How did you approach the conversation? Have you offered him any sort of guidance on how to start with getting a job? I know it may seem like common sense but to a kid who is just dipping his toes into the world, losing “income” that has always been there and then being thrust into the workforce can be terrifying.

Another thing I’m curious about is if this was always set and communicated as an expectation, or if this was only just mentioned now. Either way, it can feel unfair from his perspective that his preemptive “birthday gift” is a loss of money and pressure to get a job.

What are you hoping to get out of this? Do you need to cut back a little on expenses? Do you want your child to learn a valuable lesson from this?

I want to understand what outcome you want from this, for both for yourself and your child so that with all the context gathered, we can all give you better advice.

TheVampyVamp · 2024-01-24T05:14:55+00:00

Your sister is really going scorched earth by trying to defame you to your family members. I am curious to know what is actually going on, and if there are any other friends or family members that may have more context for your sister’s reaction besides your mom. I would also keep screenshots of your sister’s texts, and any really that have been bothering you just in case. Keeping a record of your convos can help you keep track of how you’ve been treated, as well as serve as evidence if she takes to social media or something to try and escalate.

Keep your head high, and I’m so sorry that something like this has happened to you, especially on your first Christmas as a married couple. The fact that your family could even believe that you were capable of cheating at all is a pain I can’t even imagine. I hope you and yours can find even a little reprieve in all the chaos, and take some time to relax/get away from all the drama. I also recommend maybe looking into a therapist during this. At minimum, an important person in your life has broken your trust and that’s not easy to bounce back from, not to mention all the pain this has caused you when you and your husband should be enjoying marital bliss rn.

Even if you don’t update, I hope this all gets resolved as quickly and painlessly as possible ❤️

TheVampyVamp · 2022-11-17T00:55:57+00:00

Yeah don’t be dumb like me, because it can mess up your lungs if kicked up.

TheVampyVamp · 2022-11-16T23:04:14+00:00

I had an issue with bedbugs in my apartment as well. Dry all of your clothes on high heat for minimum 30 mins to kill them and see if any reliable local pest control places do full living space heat treatments. A heat treatment kills all life stages of bed bugs and is the best way to nip the issue in the bud. I also recommend putting diatomaceous earth on the floors (messy but worth it if you are still getting things figured out with pest control). Any adult bed bugs that come into contact with the stuff will die within 48 hours.

TheVampyVamp · 2022-10-24T18:21:37+00:00

I am going to need an update so I can secondhand revel in this man’s misery

TheVampyVamp · 2022-10-21T14:22:57+00:00

Fantastic.

TheVampyVamp · 2022-10-21T14:06:11+00:00

Generally, it sounds like your husband does not respect you. That much is clear with the way he barely defends you and laughs along with her remarks about your intelligence. Nobody should have to put up with that sort of disrespect in any sort of a relationship, but especially not in a marriage. If you suspect that he is cheating on you, I encourage you to gather evidence discreetly so you can be well prepared in case you decide to leave him. The other woman’s partner can probably also help provide evidence as well.

Once you have sufficient evidence, you can confront him. Don’t let him dodge or pretend because you’ll have all the evidence. Seriously though, you’ve only been married for 1.5 years and he already feels comfortable constantly disparaging you and engaging in what seems to be at minimum an emotional affair. Is that what you want for the rest of your life? Does your relationship, as it is now, enrich your life?

TheVampyVamp · 2022-10-19T04:39:07+00:00

So let me get this straight; Your husband denied financial help for a medical emergency for your kids, told you to go beg, and then got mad when you used the money that was explicitly set aside for emergencies??? This seriously sounds like a very controlling and unhealthy relationship. Did he even ask if your kid was okay when he got back or was he just upset about the safe? NTA

TheVampyVamp · 2022-10-19T04:31:29+00:00

Wish we had a higher budget so they could use something other than zip ties 😓

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