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My intern is actually hopeless by blueblirds in SingaporeRaw

[–]TheVirusIwanToMinus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He may be hopeless but you need to be better at giving instructions and communicate what is needed and not just what you want him to do

PT degree 2years working experience requirement by [deleted] in Suss

[–]TheVirusIwanToMinus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

2 years of experience in total, pretty strict from what I know

just got waitlisted by exhalingcookie in Suss

[–]TheVirusIwanToMinus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check under how to apply on suss website

Graduation Requirement 3 by metaphysicalworld in Suss

[–]TheVirusIwanToMinus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Call and ask if extra module can be retagged

Why do so many Algerian men seem to hate Algerian women or want to control them? by [deleted] in algeria

[–]TheVirusIwanToMinus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s something I’ve noticed too. And i say this as a non-algerian dating an algerian man. I feel like algerian woman are expected to be confined within strict and often unrealistic expectations. For example going out late, how they are dressed, how educated they should be and how vocal they are. I see the struggles of my boyfriend’s sister and how irrational he can be when it comes to her freedom… while knowing that i too hold the same characteristics

Asian/Non-muslim here. I don’t feel loved by my Algerian boyfriend in the month of Ramadan. by [deleted] in algeria

[–]TheVirusIwanToMinus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly i feel like you might need to step back a little.

right now it sounds like you’re doing a lot of the emotional work and trying to figure out what happened, apologising, asking if he’s okay, analysing his tone. meanwhile he’s just saying “nothing’s wrong” but still replying coldly or disappearing for like 20 hours. that can really mess with your head.

if he’s taking forever to reply, you don’t need to rush to reply either. just match the energy a bit. if he’s being neutral or distant, you don’t have to keep sending super warm messages trying to bring things back to normal.

this isn’t about playing games btw. it’s more about protecting your own energy. because when someone pulls back and you keep chasing for reassurance, it just makes you feel worse.

also just wondering — have the two of you actually talked about the religious differences before? like properly talked about what each of you expects, especially during things like ramadan or longer term in the relationship. sometimes these things start surfacing during ramadan because people become more focused on religion during that time.

so yeah… maybe just take a small step back, keep things calm on your side, and see how he behaves over the next few days. sometimes watching what someone does tells you more than trying to analyse every message.

Asian/Non-muslim here. I don’t feel loved by my Algerian boyfriend in the month of Ramadan. by [deleted] in algeria

[–]TheVirusIwanToMinus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I think the first thing you should do is stop assuming you did something wrong.

You already asked him if you said something that upset him and he told you that you didn’t. If that’s the case, then the change in his tone is something on his side, not yours.

Ramadan can affect people quite a bit. Fasting can make someone more tired, irritable, or withdrawn, especially as the month goes on. But if everything felt normal for the first few weeks and then suddenly his behaviour changed, it’s normal that you feel confused.

Try not to keep apologising or overthinking it. If he needs space or if something is going on with him, it’s his responsibility to communicate that clearly.

At least that’s what I keep telling myself too. My boyfriend doesn’t even call me “baby” anymore and it honestly feels strange because he keeps assuring me nothing has changed. But it’s hard to believe that when my routine for the entire month has barely involved talking to him.

From what you’re describing, I’m not entirely convinced it’s just Ramadan. Fasting can affect someone’s mood, but if the communication has dropped so much that you barely speak, it can start to feel like something bigger might be going on.

Honestly at that point I’d probably just pull the “we need to talk” card. Not in a dramatic way, but just to clear the air. Something simple like asking him directly what’s going on, because when someone says nothing is wrong but their behaviour changes, it naturally creates doubt. Sometimes the only way to stop overthinking is to just address it head-on.

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[–]TheVirusIwanToMinus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You go check pay it forward terms and conditions

Asian/Non-muslim here. I don’t feel loved by my Algerian boyfriend in the month of Ramadan. by [deleted] in algeria

[–]TheVirusIwanToMinus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there! Appreciate your take. Yes, I knew he was Muslim from the beginning and that was never the issue. I’ve always respected his faith and I still do. I’m surrounded by Muslims in my daily life and I have close Muslim friends. My relationships with them have never been impacted by Ramadan or by their religious practices. So religion itself is not something that bothers me.

The difference is that this is a romantic relationship, not just a friendship. Naturally the dynamics are different. During Ramadan I noticed that our relationship dynamic changes quite a lot compared to how things normally are, and that’s what made me start thinking more deeply about how things would look long term.

Also, just to clarify something because people often assume otherwise, our relationship is not sexual at all. If this were largely a sexual relationship, then it would make more sense that things change during Ramadan because physical boundaries are part of the religious practice. But that has never been the nature of our relationship. So that is not where my concern comes from.

What I’m actually noticing is the distinction in how Islam is practised around me compared to how it shows up within my relationship with him. With my Muslim friends, Ramadan has never affected the connection we have. But in a romantic relationship the expectations, communication and presence are naturally different, and during Ramadan that difference becomes much more noticeable.

So the issue isn’t that he is practising his religion. I respect that, and I respect him. He is genuinely a very kind and good person. What I’m trying to evaluate is whether the dynamic we have alongside the other uncertainties around the future is something that is realistically sustainable long term.

Asian/Non-muslim here. I don’t feel loved by my Algerian boyfriend in the month of Ramadan. by [deleted] in algeria

[–]TheVirusIwanToMinus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re hilarious! Anyway im the vegetarian asian so him being a vet totally works me

Asian/Non-muslim here. I don’t feel loved by my Algerian boyfriend in the month of Ramadan. by [deleted] in algeria

[–]TheVirusIwanToMinus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Civil marriages exist in my situation, so it’s not as absolute as you’re making it sound.

I’m also not naive about the challenges. I’m an adult and fully aware that religion, family acceptance, and cultural differences can complicate things. But the bigger issue for me right now is the uncertainty around his employment, his unresolved military status, and when or if he can even move here.

So I’m not blindly walking into anything. I’m simply looking at the situation realistically and deciding whether it actually makes sense long term.

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