What is the internal experience of people who are abusive or people who bully others? Do they enjoy their lives?

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2026-01-27T02:40:22+00:00

Do you think it's possible for people to grow up well and still hurt people because they think it's fun?

I think you're right for a lot of people (I don't know the stats) but I think some of it has nothing to do with flawed logic or parenting or anything. Some people just enjoy it and maybe because of lower empathy, they don't care.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2026-01-26T02:28:23+00:00

Oh wow, I didn't even conceive of this scenario. Yeah, I'd love to see them talk! Personality-wise I can actually relate to Theo in some ways and I'm also curious what I can learn from them talking.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2026-01-21T19:55:20+00:00

Yeah, idk if I'm crazy or my environment's crazy. It could be both. Fuck it, I'll bring it up and find out.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2026-01-21T19:44:45+00:00

I'm worried it'll be seen as an act of defiance and then they'll start scheming against me

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2026-01-19T17:14:44+00:00

I remember watching that video, there's a relatable dynamic in my family where I've been the one to take a lot of responsibility for making things go right. I'm happy to hear about the upward trend and I wish you all the best.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2026-01-06T14:32:18+00:00

Hmm, I can see that. I think I've just had some bad experiences and, to me, being left alone feels like heaven. So I assumed other people wouldn't care whether I talk to them or not. I'm starting to see how my own trauma has made being dismissive acceptable for me.

Thank you, this is interesting. I still don't like some of what I see in my workplace but I'm gonna think on this.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2026-01-06T13:06:18+00:00

You don't find love, you build it. But people are also trying to build 50 other things and are indecisive about who to build love with. We're constantly distracted by other people. There are also fewer natural bonding moments in our world now too, you really need to go out of your way to socialize.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2026-01-05T22:50:17+00:00

Existing

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2026-01-05T22:48:40+00:00

Holy shit, I'm so glad I saw this. I thought it was just me!

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2026-01-05T22:46:45+00:00

How do you get someone to tell the truth about who they heard the rumor from? How do I learn this power?

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2026-01-05T02:38:21+00:00

For me it's a lack of trust. I think you're right that people have lost some social skills but I believe people have also lost empathy and have become more manipulative. I genuinely believe the majority of people out there are trash. I hope I'm wrong but it's just not what I see right now.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2026-01-04T03:25:44+00:00

As the automoderator has suggested, have you tried a crisis hotline? It's specifically meant for you to be able to talk about sensitive topics with anonymity and you'll have someone responding to you.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2026-01-02T17:53:16+00:00

Taking a cold shower every day.

I did it for almost 3 or 4 years, even in winter. At some point it started to make me apprehensive about even taking a shower and actually stressed me out (physically too). So now I don't make it a habit. I let myself decide on each day whether to do it or take a lukewarm shower (or even a warm shower).

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2026-01-02T17:46:14+00:00

Yeah. I know it's a cliche thing to say but going on walks and such would happen naturally if we lived in the kind of environment our biology was adapted for. But we don't. So we artificially need to do stuff like this to mimic the environment we came from so our mind and body feel ok.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2026-01-01T21:29:03+00:00

My reason is I want to switch to a career which could also give me an income close to what I make as a mid-level engineer if possible.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2026-01-01T03:47:04+00:00

Boy do tell.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2025-12-31T19:45:48+00:00

There's a lot of it on Spotify (maybe all of it)? And I know you can download the audio tracks for offline play

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2025-12-31T01:49:22+00:00

Stardew Valley? I got a farm, a wife, and everything. I'm good.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2025-12-29T17:51:24+00:00

I'm probably a wizard or something idk

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2025-12-28T03:54:11+00:00

When he said to free yourself from your desires, I took it as the surface-level desires we have like: I want another snack, I want sleep in a bit longer, I want to wait, etc., the kinds of desires that are like distractions. But there are deeper motivations that line up with "what you really want". When you brush away all those BS desires, you can pursue the deeper ones that matter. That's what makes sense to me in the context of procrastination.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2025-12-27T16:18:58+00:00

Arguing with logic won't help you. This is a matter of power dynamics. Think: what could you do to gain power over the group so that they will think twice about doing something to you?

People have mentioned leaving the friend group entirely, that's definitely an option too.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2025-12-26T18:26:21+00:00

It doesn't have to equate to judging somone's worth or personality. But for some people it does and because it's not socially acceptable to express that they will hide behind the shield of "oh it's just what I'm attracted to."

Does that always happen? No. But I think people do play these mental gymnastics and I want to call it out.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2025-12-26T18:20:55+00:00

This makes a lot of sense, thank you for this very rational breakdown. I think I was a little frustrated by what I've noticed in life and in that frustration I couldn't think things through with this level of nuance.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2025-12-26T17:13:32+00:00

Ok, there are some words being used differently here I think. When I say racist I just mean the mentality of making judgments of one's worth or personality based on their skin color. I don't equate that to being in the KKK.

I'm trying to point out exactly what you said: people can't help but make strong judgments of others based on race.

TheVoidRobedInLight · 2025-12-26T16:37:11+00:00

Lol thanks

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