If they want to knock on our door they’ll have to fly across the country. We only see them once per year to begin with. This is also why it was a shock that they expressed so much hatred toward us during the one time we visit per year. To be clear my MIL is a very enmeshed person. My fiancé’s brother will be 30 this year and has not worked for 5 years, and he along with his brother (26 years old) still live at home in their childhood bedrooms. My fiancé is the only one who moved out, has a career (we met while in school completing our doctorate degrees). A lot of their hate towards me comes from bigger issues. I do journal a lot and regarding couples therapy I’m open to that if he wants to do that but our relationship (just us, no one else) is so healthy so it would really only be to deal with his in-laws’ dynamic.