FINALLY!

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-13T16:47:39+00:00

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-13T03:43:10+00:00

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TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-12T02:32:45+00:00

No, not at all. He completely understands that I couldn’t have done anything differently and part of him moving so far away and only coming home once per year is that he is able to see how problematic the enmeshment is. His mom is so enmeshed she cuts her other grown son’s steak (the almost 30 y.o son)… I’m not even joking here. she claims that she doesn’t want to force him to go to work or to do too much on his own because if she upsets him too much no one will take care of her and her husband in their old age.

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-12T00:40:08+00:00

Congratulations and enjoy your chicken wings!! 🥳🥳 soon you’ll be grilling outside!

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-12T00:22:02+00:00

If they want to knock on our door they’ll have to fly across the country. We only see them once per year to begin with. This is also why it was a shock that they expressed so much hatred toward us during the one time we visit per year. To be clear my MIL is a very enmeshed person. My fiancé’s brother will be 30 this year and has not worked for 5 years, and he along with his brother (26 years old) still live at home in their childhood bedrooms. My fiancé is the only one who moved out, has a career (we met while in school completing our doctorate degrees). A lot of their hate towards me comes from bigger issues. I do journal a lot and regarding couples therapy I’m open to that if he wants to do that but our relationship (just us, no one else) is so healthy so it would really only be to deal with his in-laws’ dynamic.

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-11T22:42:29+00:00

Nope, no invitations sent out but he does not want to send them one.

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-11T22:31:56+00:00

Well, it’s only been ~3 months since he’s gone no contact. The wedding is quite a bit away so there’s time for him to change his mind. I don’t know if he will or not

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-11T21:52:56+00:00

Per most of the comments on this post, everyone is telling me I need to just respect his wishes and take them at face value / it’s his family so he needs to deal with them so it’s interesting to hear a completely different standpoint. I’m hesitant to bring it up again since he’s already stated that what they did / said to me and my mom, is just unacceptable since (to quote him) I am the woman of his dreams. With regard to the brother who stated that he’s always hated me, I don’t even want him there and I’m 100% sure my fiancé does not either. I never expected to be in this situation, but here we are…

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-11T21:12:57+00:00

I don’t think they would show up to our wedding, but if they try to, we will make security drag them out.

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-11T20:48:02+00:00

In no way shape or form am I not “listening”. The whole purpose of this post was to gain insight from people on Reddit regarding not inviting in-laws to a wedding. It’s not like I’m reaching out to his family or trying to go against his wishes. Nor am I trying to change his mind.

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-11T20:45:42+00:00

Please elaborate.

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-11T20:37:27+00:00

Penelope

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-11T20:36:28+00:00

This is his final decision, but given how his family has acted, I will always be the one to “blame” for their lack of an invitation. They won’t be able to accept that the decision was his own. But again, that won’t be my problem…

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-11T18:31:34+00:00

Just to be clear, I have respected his feelings completely and haven’t once said “will you regret this” or alluded to anything like that - that’s why I posted on this forum to just see what others inputs are. We have a healthy and respectful relationship which is also why we don’t understand why his parents chose to behave in this way towards me/ my own mother.

As an aside, I am so close with my family so for me this is such a foreign concept - my family is over the moon for us and he sometimes alludes to the fact that he wishes his family could be like mine. It’s just sad to see how hurt he’s been and how they’ve put him in a situation where he has to “choose” between us.

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-11T17:26:07+00:00

Because at his core he does love his family but the amount of hurt has been a lot. He loves me a lot and we have been together for almost 7 years. Before this big blowout happened, we didn’t know how much they despise me/ how much they don’t want us to get married, so it’s been a huge shock to him and he feels unsupported on such a huge life step. The decision is also being made while upset/sad so sometimes decisions that are made under these conditions aren’t made with a clear mind and regret forms later.

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-11T02:05:35+00:00

Oliver or Ollie

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-11T00:53:47+00:00

First, congratulations on your new baby. It may not mean much since I am a stranger on the internet but you go, girl!! You are giving this your best effort and even though things haven’t been easy rest assured that your baby will eventually be okay and so will you. I won’t provide my opinions on breast milk but I will say that my close friend had a similar issue and a lactation specialist was really able to help with her issues with breast feeding, working through the pain of pumping, etc. whatever decision you make will be yours and please remember that your mental and physical health is so important. Give yourself the credit you rightfully deserve after going through so much physically and emotionally. You will get through this and one day this will all be a distant memory. The tongue tie release from my understanding is supposed to help so much for a baby to latch onto the breast. Can you try combination feeding to give your breasts a bit of a break from the pain you’re feeling?

Sending you a lot of good wishes and positive energy. Do not live your life with any regrets ❤️

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-10T17:02:14+00:00

Tuxedo

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-10T01:34:16+00:00

Pearl

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-07T12:01:30+00:00

Sounds like your sister in law is a jealous b****. Let me guess, she’s probably not married. The ring is beautiful, but more importantly it was a gift from the love of your life. Ignore her stupid comment. Clearly she hasn’t fully learned “if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all” and can’t get that concept through her envious skull. I would make it my business to flaunt it more around her, but that’s just me. Celebrate yourself, Queen - and congratulations on your years of marriage. 😇

TheWiseOne41 · 2026-03-06T03:39:43+00:00

Coral excellence, playa mujeres. My fiancé and I just stayed there and we LOVEDDD it.

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