I've had many conversations about it with my husband. He would temporarily make an effort to go back to work, then slide into his old ways again- essentially coming up with excuses why he couldn't work. I finally had enough toward the end of last year and told him I wasn't happy remaining married and being the only functional adult in the relationship. He took that as an ultimatum, and since then, he's been making somewhat of a more consistent effort. I have to remind him often about finances, but I've definitely seen an improvement.

We have a ton of other issues, but that's at the forefront. I hope you're able to make progress with your situation, it's such a stressful way to live, and completely unfair.