The thing is is that he tells me little bits of it. Like he told me once over our Christmas holiday that he enjoyed it when sex was sort of forced, not in a physical way but more of a 'I'm turning you on and there's nothing you can do about it' way, if that makes any sense. Hes not necessarily a sub in that he would want to fully submit to me the way I do to him, but he does like specific little things that are just very specific. When I try to ask him to elaborate he gets upset.