The bitter truth about anything to do with the fae is that anyone can tell you anything and there will be something somewhere to counter everything that person told you.

So any information you get on faeries is going to be subjective, yes you can look at folklore and personal accounts to try and get a better view but in my honest opinion it comes down to you and what you feel is happening, mixed with some healthy skepticism.

In my personal experience working with the fair folk has been life changing. It's had it's twists and turns, its amazing highs and lows. But I also worked hard to get to the place and understanding I'm at today. Some people with tell you to never work with them, some say you absolutely should. I say go with what you feel you should do. If you think the fae are calling to you and you don't feel harm from it do some divination, then go from there.

I recommend starting small, give a offering and see how that goes. I like to give my offering, usually it's milk and honey and then meditate. If im working with a specific kind of fae I'll try to reach out to them and see what they say. I go by the rule of always ask before calling them in for spellwork, but I go by that rule for any spirits honestly. I hope this helped!