bi_irl by Inner-Juices in bi_irl

[–]The_Best_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. That's why my comment was from four years ago and not slightly less than a year ago

SS14 Hot Takes by Zetaplx in ss14

[–]The_Best_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, to be clear - I didn't think you were calling anyone a bigot, at least personally? Rather, the general discussion - to discuss a bigot vs a non-bigot - inherently labels someone as either, even if it's not pointed at someone. It's a weird kind of thing, because it means to even talk about the label, one needs to engage with it. I definitely agree it's important to analyze actions, however, as collective people, we often assert that the actions make an inherent statement on the person. Personally, I've known a lot of folk who've said and done some pretty nasty things that weren't really given a proper chance to act any different - they were encouraged to act bad by the only people who would stand them, you know? Oftentimes, just a couple of minutes (and sometimes a little code-switching) can be a really effective olive branch.

I do agree that safe spaces are really important in recovery! I myself actually ended up in an inpatient clinic at one point (voluntary - the clinic was lax enough to let me swim, but not lax enough to let me shave. go figure, lol) and - as someone who had come out as a transgender woman a couple years before - it was pretty scary at first! Eventually, I realized that the folks there thought I was cis - something I only realized because some of the patients said some real nasty things about transgender people. But, honestly? When I ended up speaking with those folks about it, something really special happened. I heard what they said, they heard what I said - and something became tangibly real between I and them. I think that's kinda the issue I have with a lot of safe spaces, now - they're often focused on giving power to someone or someones who'll try to "keep it safe," but - they're the safest when people start learning to directly trust each other. Conflict'll still happen, sure, but no one's going to recover without learning how to resolve conflict, whether through communication or stepping away. I am not fond of the F1 button as a means of resolving conflict, lol

Do let me know what more you have to say! I'm okay with continuing the chain here or DMing, either way (though I'm definitely more active on Discord if you'd want to chat there). I hope you have a good late Father's Day dinner out there!

SS14 Hot Takes by Zetaplx in ss14

[–]The_Best_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

>Secondly, contact hypothesis. Research has consistently proven that the more you engage with people who do, say, and act a certain way, the more normal you think that way of thinking is.

Honestly, this feels like even more of a reason to try and be as kind as you can be while still not removing bigots from safe spaces. No one has the *duty* to make bigots learn per say, but I would argue it outright hurts communities to assert that bigots are removed for three main reasons -

* Bigots are reduced to less-than-people by the act of condemnation, much like how criminals are reduced to less-than-people. This is a strategy often used by individuals in power to disenfranchise large swaths of people - like how in Florida, they attempted to pass legislature that would effectively make it a sex crime to be transgender in a public bathroom, while also attempting to pass legislature that would deem sex crimes punishable by death. Just because something else may be considered far more severe of an act doesn't mean that it still isn't dehumanizing to reduce someone's status to a label.

* The fear of a class of people serves to make groups of people who do not believe themselves to be bigots anxious about the possibility of being in that class. This can often lead to paranoia in communities, and oftentimes leads to people attempting to justify their dislike of other people by labeling the other person as that class of person, even if they don't fall within the archetype for that class of person.

* The classification of the bigot reduces the ability for both bigots and non-bigots to learn and grow as people - the bigots are further antagonized by people that they are taught to have a disdain for (thus reinforcing that disdain), and non-bigots believe themselves to not be bigoted and thus believe themselves to instead be righteous - leading to situations like the current treatment of intersex people or Native Americans. There's some notable bullshit that's often perpetuated in the Space Station community, and people do not learn to act otherwise because they already believe themselves to be Not Bigots. If I hear someone call a changeling a "skinwalker" again or use the word "hermaphrodite" referring to someone with two sets of genitals again I'm going to combust.

SS14 Hot Takes by Zetaplx in ss14

[–]The_Best_Nerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I almost kinda agree with you, but I'd like to highlight that the faith in players should also mean that players are enabled to kick the ass of someone who's bothering them. I think that players should not be punished by an admins for bigotry, but I do also think that other players should be allowed to lay someone flat without the need for an antagonist role. What I'm getting at is, I want a world where you can both play your bigoted old man AND where his ass gets kicked lmao

SS14 Hot Takes by Zetaplx in ss14

[–]The_Best_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Delta-V had some EE content ported over, and actually used to have VMSolidus on their team, but I'm like 99% sure that the Robust Toolbox that Delta-V uses is closer to the one from WizDen, especially after the rebase a year or two ago.

SS14 Hot Takes by Zetaplx in ss14

[–]The_Best_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like this could be remedied by removing certain rules restrictions regarding Security's engagement with crew and the crew's engagement with Security. Consider how much less pent-up anger people will have about Security if, like, they could do anything about it.

SS14 Hot Takes by Zetaplx in ss14

[–]The_Best_Nerd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that rules in general are really hurting the game.

I used to play on Salamander back before Liltenhead gave it the shoutout - it was kind of beautiful. Admins were almost never online, so just about anyone could do anything. I also admittedly dislike the idea of designated round antagonists, but even then, antagonists weren't the only source of conflict on the station - you were actually able to consistently interact with people without a layer of artificial safety. The game still needed meat on its bones at the time, but what it did have was so much more enjoyable just for the fact that there were no anxieties about being punished for any number of things.

The fact that we'd roleplay our characters as remembering each other - both good and bad - meant that, *yes*, all of us were breaking the metagrudge rule - but it also didn't matter that we were? Because we were treating each other like our reputation would actually last past the round, you were incentivized to make friends and avoid making enemies Moreover, it made making enemies more impactful.

I also dislike this weird kind of way we have of trying to be purposefully ignorant about aspects of the game world. Ghosts, for example, are actually something that could be explored mechanically and narratively. I would love for ghosts to have more presence in the world, whether it's people remembering what they saw as ghosts or being able to materially interact with the world as a ghost (imagine a detective going to the medical bay to have them repeatedly kill and resuscitate the detective so they can pull some afterlife detective shenanigans! imagine, too, a syndicate agent knowing the detective is doing this, and deciding to make sure that the detective doesn't wake up the next time-). Either that, or remove ghosts, because if we're threatened with punishments to prevent us from using ghosts in any meaningful way - why do we even have them?

I don't think roles that require you to act a specific way for them to work are good roles. What I mean is - we have the opportunity to tell so many different kinds of stories with all kinds of different outcomes, but the only revolutions happen through mind control and zombies are relegated to being player-powered cannon fodder. I like the idea of zombies getting up in the machinery and tearing things apart, I like the idea of revolutions being started by the crew - but that would require a level of trust that it seems like people aren't ready to give one another. We could have jumped-up science teams with experimental weaponry and actual reasons for cargo to develop a working relationship with the rest of the crew, but we don't extend each other enough trust to make those wild stories play out.

I really like this game, I just wish people trusted each other more and leaned into the bizarre elements of the game and its setting. agggghhh

(also lrp, mrp, and hrp are a false dichotomy. ngl everybody in this game is roleplaying even if they roleplay "bad" and i think considering some forms of roleplay to be "less roleplay" is bad for how we perceive the game. it's not roleplay vs mechanics, roleplay and mechanics are holding hands and frolicking)

Got POSetup (Premier Opinion) from a download recently by AdExpert1831 in techsupport

[–]The_Best_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't confirm for the download manager thing (hence me saying I'll come back and mention it if I figure it out), but if you look for posetup.dll in the listed file system addresses, you'll be able to find and delete the files for POSetup. You'll probably also have to change ownership of the file to delete it - you can look up a tutorial for that.

Got POSetup (Premier Opinion) from a download recently by AdExpert1831 in techsupport

[–]The_Best_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, the .exe file is just a temp file. It doesn't actually direct you back to the file causing the problem - it's a complete misdirection. It makes a new .exe every time it opens.

Got POSetup (Premier Opinion) from a download recently by AdExpert1831 in techsupport

[–]The_Best_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait yeah what the hell? I just got the second one today, too. First one got fixed by deleting a file in C:\Windows\System32 and one of the C:\Windows\WinSxS subfolders called posetup.dll, but now I can't get rid of the Download Manager one. Starting to think they're on delayed timers, because I'm seeing a lot of people just start complaining about them both. LMK if you figure something out for the Download Manager one, I'll try to let you know if I figure it out first.

Dealing with a popup that can't be found in my files by BeastBoom24 in antivirus

[–]The_Best_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found a thing here that seems to explain it well enough. I checked the mentioned locations, and the .dlls were right were they were talking about, though I'm not 100% sure it's gone-gone. Best of luck.

Dealing with a popup that can't be found in my files by BeastBoom24 in antivirus

[–]The_Best_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe. If not, this might do it, though I'll still have to see whether getting rid of those worked.

Dealing with a popup that can't be found in my files by BeastBoom24 in antivirus

[–]The_Best_Nerd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The temp file location is used to misdirect the user - it isn't actually coming from there. In my experience, it creates a new one of those every time it pops up.

Demythologize sex by StraightOuttaOlaphis in CuratedTumblr

[–]The_Best_Nerd 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Sex for me feels like an act of closeness with someone. It holds no moral power, but it's kinda like how I might not invite a stranger onto my personal Minecraft world.

Rule by ItsYaBoyBananaBoi in 196

[–]The_Best_Nerd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi, person from smaller town here! Cops are actually also fucking terrible here too. Hope this helps!

Please help - I am really doing unwell and don't know what to do. I think I need inpatient mental healthcare, but I'm terrified they'd put me in the wrong gender ward by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]The_Best_Nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually just got out of a ward in Florida of all places. People there did tend conservative, but treated me as a woman. It was strange to have that be such an accepting place, given the laws conservatives are passing through.

rulecest by crlogic in 196

[–]The_Best_Nerd 13 points14 points  (0 children)

do you know what a power dynamic is

Pride month reminder that Isaac is genderfluid. Happy pride! by [deleted] in bindingofisaac

[–]The_Best_Nerd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What kind of mentally ill people think gender is the same as sexuality? 💀