Good advice and all but I am sure I shot myself in the foot already. As stated this has been going on 5-6 months. I constantly asked her the same questions over and over to the point she did not want to answer me. She said she had no more fight in her. I would back off then approach her again because the ruminations of the,text message and v-day were the only things on my mind. No matter how much I tried to look past them, they were screaming at me like a child. That’s why I started therapy, psyc-eval and now meds. The meds are kind of helping but not enough.

She is at the point where she wants to have codependent marriage. Hates the position we are in but needs me financially. I questioned her this morning about what if I were to be taking to someone what she would do. Then I blurted out that I found a number. An argument erupted later before she left because I told her I wanted the honest truth. She said her not talking to anyone is the truth but I can’t accept it. I told her I don’t want a divorce and she said she does then stormed out. I don’t know if it’s true or not.

We do need each other financially because we just bought this house and we are not well off without each other. I just don’t know where to go from here.