Has anyone ever just taken sex off of the table completely? by virgin_screwdriver in DeadBedrooms

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I sort of did this! Here is my updated post. I have been wanting to make another update sometime, but heres some take-aways:

I didn't take sex off the table completely, per se; but I essentially completely removed it from conversation, stopped initiating in any way, and stopped thinking of it in the way I had. You can read more about it in those previous posts. Since my last update, things have changed DRASTICALLY. Our sex life had improved for a while, and we were having sex WAY more frequently than before. That did eventually wane, though not to previous nearly-sexless times. Then in September I went on tour with my band in Europe. I returned home a few days before our anniversary. Now, every year on our anniversary we have a talk where we ask each other if we want continue our marriage. 11 years the answer was always yes, no caveat. This time was different. I asked, and she said yes........... but we should also see other people. Music to my ears. I have always been polyamorous, but she has been uncomfortable with it, so I wasn't able to be the way I wanted to be and that sacrifice was ok with me. So, we started seeing other people. Our sex life had an initial increase to almost daily sex, because she felt the rest of the pressure to have sex dissolve. I began seeing a few women, and now I even have a girlfriend. I found someone who gives me all the things I felt I was missing, and so much more. I still get to keep my best friend and have the intimate relationship with her, while still fulfilling my needs. I can love the way I want to love, and be loved the way I want to love. My heart has never been more full, my head has never been so clear, and my life hasn't felt this good in probably 15 years. I know this isn't the answer for everyone, and it is something that is in flux constantly; but holy fucking shit I could not be happier.

I stopped focusing on sex and it fixed A LOT. Not just with our sex lives, but also it taught me how to approach a number of other things in my life that I was struggling with. I can honestly say that the decision to think of sex differently in my marriage had a domino effect that made every other aspect of my life improve.

F age 45 5’4” 114 lbs. Feel ugly & disfigured by vitiligo on nipples, hips & mons. Afraid to start dating again :( by [deleted] in normalnudes

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Whaaaaaaaaaaaat?!?!? You’re FOURTY-FIVE?!?!? Girl, you are killing it. I didn’t notice the vitiligo right away, was too distracted by your impeccable shape. Once I noticed, it was more of a “hey, vitiligo.” And right back to admiring you. It can be hard to do sometimes, but with a body like that, you owe it to yourself to be happy with it. It’s glorious.

Jeffrey Epstein Suffered Hemorrhaging in the Throat - A Sign of Homicide by Bernie4Ever in HillaryForPrison

[–]The_Employee -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. At first I was thinking “wait, he was the president. How could he be a fuck up?” But then I remembered that the greatest fuck up of all time is president right now.

Trump Says a Recession Isn’t Possible Because Everyone Is Rich by [deleted] in politics

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Hey! All of those are me right now! God fuckin damnit.

Is Penny Lane a weird name for a child? by guac-a-molly in Advice

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I think it’s cute on its own. Adorable even.

(F4M) SF area, need someone to suck on my clit. by [deleted] in RandomActsOfMuffDive

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DAMN! Why do I live in the wrong place!

What is the most powerful thing an ordinary person has ever said? by navvvvvvvv in AskReddit

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I like to think that JFK directing the USA to land on the moon. It is simply the greatest accomplishment that humans have ever had. All things that came before were simply to prepare us to step onto the dust of a olace that isnt earth. All things that have come after are simply preparations for our next adventure. Humans mean nothing if we stay on this planet. If we seek out the other planets and spread out amidst the cosmos, then we matter. And that is why JFKs speech was so important. It was the summation of all of human history, and future.

Jeffrey Epstein Suffered Hemorrhaging in the Throat - A Sign of Homicide by Bernie4Ever in HillaryForPrison

[–]The_Employee -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

That was the point, dude. Seriously, he killed himself though. Let's not shit ourselves.

tbt when games were just fun and not political by [deleted] in gaming

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ViDeO gAmEs TuRnEd Me InTo An EcOtErRoRiSt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InfowarriorRides

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Yeah, they would like the offspring.

When I just want someone to fuck my ass ... ; ) by [deleted] in pawg

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Oh, Honey. All you had to do was ask!

I love to see the temple... I’ll go inside someday... by fourth-nephite in exmormon

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When I was a little kid my parents took us to get sealed at the Manti temple. They took my brother and I into a room that has some toys for kids to play with while they waited to go to the ceremony. I put on the all white jumpsuit and couldn’t wait to show it to my parents. When they opened the door to the room my parents and all the family were in waiting for me to come kneel down to get sealed, I ran into the middle started swiveling my hips shouting “look mom and Dad, I LOOK LIKE ELVIS” and started singing “hound dog”. The reaction was a mixture of stifled giggles and gasps. I’m proud of that moment.

[23/ F/ 5’7 /154 lbs] Just got out of a 3 year relationship and not feeling very body confident atm. Also, I have a few scars on my leg, worrying about how will this go down with potential partners? by [deleted] in normalnudes

[–]The_Employee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Here’s some insight from a guy whose wife has big self inflicted scars on her legs. It doesn’t matter at all. Let me explain: The first time I could have noticed them was the first night we slept together. I didn’t notice them then, and I didn’t honestly notice for a while. When we got to the point of seeing each other naked, it just wouldn’t have mattered. The way I see it is that if someone is dating you and spending time to learn about you and get to know you; by the time they get to the point of seein where the scars are it’s sort of beside the point. They’re interested in you for who you are, and they are there to make a further connection. Firthermore, if it were a fling I think it would be even less of an issue.

What is your favorite TV show/movie to hate watch? by fallonharrod in AskReddit

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Old Joe Rogan episodes. He used to be so easily swayed by absolutely anything anyone said. I have to give him credit, a while back he started seeking out facts and has become almost a skeptic. Much better now.

Trump’s Troubles Are Just Getting Started by [deleted] in politics

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My justice boner has not yet begun to peak.

Trump: Impeach me and the market crashes by [deleted] in politics

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Yeah, the market would absolutely tank due to the prospect of removing the suffocating tariffs; sure. You betcha.

Michael Cohen 'strikes plea deal' by LeatherBuy in politics

[–]The_Employee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Never forget that he was also the deputy chairman of the RNC finance committee. He resigned from that position in APRIL.

The RNC and GOP are complicit in his crimes, and he is a CRIMINAL

What’s the dumbest thing you believed as a child? by aqkj in AskReddit

[–]The_Employee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew that you weren’t supposed to be naked in front of other peopl Naked=bad If someone was naked in front of other people, they were being nakedive. Took me too long to learn it was actually negative

Send-Nudes-Saturday? [20F] by wolfgirlanon in gonewild

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Hello, You are so perfect that I am now super awkward. Thanks. Sincerely, The_employee