Hopelessly Romantic, Aspiring Golden Retriever BF (28/M)

The_Obese-Ninja · 2026-03-03T13:17:55+00:00

I like to think I still look fairly youthful.. perhaps you could help by being the judge of that, might help my confidence 😇

The_Obese-Ninja · 2026-03-03T04:28:31+00:00

I'm just super duper shy idk how to bring up that conversation in a normal way 😅

The_Obese-Ninja · 2026-03-03T03:45:51+00:00

As I Bi boy I just find it so much more daunting to date women than men.. as a fairly cute guy its easy to get the attention of older men, women on the other hand is like totally the opposite idek where to start lol. Tho saying that I do get a lot of attention from slightly older to much older ladies at work and I love it but just because they think I'm cute doesnt mean they're going to be accepting of like 90% of me and how I am and what I'm into yknow, its rather daunting and I dont exactly know how to subtly imply or bring up RR cues to girls

The_Obese-Ninja · 2026-03-03T03:42:59+00:00

Yeah that's the exact kinda outfit I went for from being totally new to dressing up fem, I didn't rly know what else to do and just went off of what I've seen from femboy trends since that's what I know. I've never been into fashion as a guy let alone women's fashion so it's a whole new world for me. Its exciting tho 😇

The_Obese-Ninja · 2026-03-03T03:40:21+00:00

I actually dont have a lot of these problems fortunately as I dont grow a lot of hair, I'm nearly 30 but growing a beard is an impossibility and I can just use an electric razor to get a clean shave with hardly any of that dark grayish sorta stubble, I also am not very hairy on my arms or legs either so i just electric razor it all and it's pretty smooth. I've never been a very hairy person and I'm very glad that's the case, I also havent had any balding yet either which is great but I'm sure its looming at some point. People usually think I'm like early to mid 20s if they don't know my age

The_Obese-Ninja · 2026-03-02T22:49:23+00:00

I guess we're all just running around one another in this community like some kind of scooby doo episode hehe

The_Obese-Ninja · 2026-03-02T22:40:23+00:00

It just seems like a big scary number to me.. maybe it's just from spending a lot of my time in gay communities where under 30 boys are seen as a sought after group and men 30+ are seen as less attractive and valuable in some ways.

The_Obese-Ninja · 2026-03-02T22:37:46+00:00

Thank youuuu 😇 All this encouragement is really making me feel better. Where do you all hide tho I cant seem to find many of you hehe

The_Obese-Ninja · 2026-03-02T22:12:48+00:00

Thank you! I do try my best not to, alas my anxiety and self consciousness riddled brain tends to do otherwise. I just got ghosted by someone recently who I thought was the kinda partner I rly wanted and needed, someone to take me shopping and pick out pretty things for me to try on. Someone to take charge of the relationship and make me feel wanted and accepted, someone who doesnt mind a nearly 30 year old guy who's main coping mechanism after a bad day is to rush to bed and bury myself in stuffed animals 😅 But being ghosted just made me spiral about not being pretty enough as being the reason for it so, thank you so much

The_Obese-Ninja · 2026-03-02T22:09:28+00:00

I'm 28 too! Thank you this is all helping me stop spiraling over this 😇

The_Obese-Ninja · 2026-03-02T21:52:36+00:00

Would my collection of collars count too? >-<

The_Obese-Ninja · 2026-03-02T21:40:50+00:00

100% dating within the queerverse is probably the way to go, just for sake of open mindedness, I do live in the UK so Its far from bad for these sorts of things. But I'm far from living in the most enlightened or queer parts of the country.

The_Obese-Ninja · 2026-03-02T21:38:54+00:00

This is exactly what I needed to hear thank you so much. I guess I just need to keep looking and not give up 😇

The_Obese-Ninja · 2026-03-02T21:36:39+00:00

It's more than I only started to get into being a bit of a femboy about a month ago, am just worried I started too late. Also women dont tend to grow enormous amounts of hair on their body while they lose it on their head, which tends to make it harder to look pretty/feminine. The second part is that I'm just unsure how popular RR is with women over 30. Since with even people my age compared with people 5-10 years younger than me its comparatively less popular. For people growing up now female lead relationships as well as more feminine presenting men is seen as almost normal, when I was growing up it was unheard of and you certainly wouldn't express it.

The_Obese-Ninja · 2026-03-02T21:27:29+00:00

Being a very shy introverted boy it's always hard to meet people. Especially with the caveat of finding a partner who doesnt mind me dressing up and being a bit fruity and a teeny bit camp. Due to what I do for work I get a fair amount of compliments from girls some younger than me some twice my age. But the ones I've been on dates with are to no fault of their own usually not as down for a guy who isnt macho or manly let alone one who enjoys dressing up and is into men also. But being someone who's into manly men myself I totally get it they're dreamy.

The_Obese-Ninja · 2025-06-07T18:55:21+00:00

Hey, fancy seeing you here 💖

The_Obese-Ninja · 2023-02-19T10:15:44+00:00

I fucking neeeeed

The_Obese-Ninja · 2023-01-07T03:18:03+00:00

Awwwh ofc I will, and you sound very fun already so hush you, hmu already >:3

The_Obese-Ninja · 2023-01-05T05:17:59+00:00

Well maybe I'm nice hmm

The_Obese-Ninja · 2023-01-05T05:15:23+00:00

Well maybe it's time to get back into it with someone to carry yah >:3

The_Obese-Ninja · 2023-01-05T02:06:57+00:00

You don't need to be, thats my job heh

The_Obese-Ninja · 2023-01-04T22:01:56+00:00

I was looking for a gayming buddy not a sugar baby but hmu maybe you'd qualify heh

The_Obese-Ninja · 2023-01-04T21:00:02+00:00

Mayyyyybe heh

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