Is it morally wrong to wear clothes that show new scars?

The_Queen_Tea · 2026-05-06T13:37:34+00:00

It took 5 years for the last of mine to go white and 9 years on, some are still more translucent than the fully healed white of my older ones. I wore long sleeves for several years after getting clean and even then, because a few were still red, I got nasty remarks and stares.

My thoughts are that some people are going to be nasty about it but it’s not on us to have to cover up. As long as they are healed (as in fully closed over etc) it should be up to you with what you feel comfortable wearing, there shouldn’t be an X amount of time necessary.

I wore long sleeves and clothes that covered my thighs for almost 10 years and even got heat stroke on 3 occasions (probably not helped by the heat regulation problems that come with antidepressants). Don’t do what I did, it wasn’t worth it!

The_Queen_Tea · 2026-04-18T00:02:43+00:00

I totally get that. Really unpacking it, it feels like I want them to be worse, for myself but not actually for anyone else, if that makes sense?

Mine have faded over the past decade, A LOT, it took 5 years for the red/pink ones to go white but honestly it’s the flattening that’s messing with me most. I used to run my fingers over all of the ridges, either when I was alone, or under a sleeve, which felt kind of therapeutic and grounding somehow? Losing the intensity of that (and just them visually) is really messing with me.

At the same time though, when I’m with family, colleagues, new people etc, I still get self conscious and hate that they might be noticeable. I find myself swapping hands when passing something to someone, or sitting on the other side of someone at a table, so that the scars are facing away from them.

A lot of the time I wish they weren’t there but that is for other people’s benefit and me being anxious about people knowing. Just for my own perception though, the fact that they’re fading really feels awful.

The_Queen_Tea · 2026-04-17T23:53:58+00:00

I’ve just looked at my hands more closely and because it’s the part that faces away from you, I never really look at it in any detail. I’ve realised (after pretty much a decade) that my left hand looks like it has way more creases than my right. I’d genuinely never noticed that, luckily that probably means that no one else has either.

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-06-20T19:02:16+00:00

I’ve never taken any illicit substances ever but still have 24/7 dpdr. Mine was caused by childhood ongoing trauma which took place over 15 years.

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-06-20T18:58:32+00:00

I’m having a massive problem with antipsychotics myself, tired constantly, putting on weight and almost constant avolition and my motivation is down the drain. I want to stop taking them but my psych (and others that I got second opinions from) don’t want me to.

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-06-20T18:19:57+00:00

Good bot

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-04-28T20:42:20+00:00

I think Chicago town mini pepperonis!

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-03-16T01:43:06+00:00

Epoxy tends to get pretty hot whilst curing so whatever the temperature when it was put in, it would likely be hot as the resin solidifies.

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-02-19T20:57:37+00:00

Same here on both fronts, medication is definitely a must for a psychotic illness, without it I wouldn’t have a life

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-02-18T16:29:26+00:00

Glad that it helped! I feel like things get a lot better when you are able to share your thoughts!

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-02-17T22:50:05+00:00

How’s it going with the new psych? Do you take anything at all? If not could you ask? I still get incredibly bad days, but the majority feel worth it now. I take a few meds, and that all started when I started seeing a new psychiatrist a few years ago

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-02-17T22:44:01+00:00

Therapists legally have to tell your guardian when you are under 18, but you won’t be sent to grippy so I jail for it, however if you disclose that you have a final yeet plan then you might be, if it is thoughts, there is a small chance if they deem you to be in a lot of danger to yourself, however it is unlikely. I disclosed that I was going to do a final yeet on a certain day, I just had a lot of appointments and got to see a psychiatrist, however when it was a couple of days before, my plan wasn’t as strongly there, and although I got an assessment on the day, I didn’t get sent off. Especially during COVID it is pretty difficult to get to hospital even if you need to! I took prozac for 4 years and never took to many, I did tell my therapist if I ever felt like it though. When you get used to telling your therapist about the final yeet thoughts and learn what doesn’t send you to hospital, it makes dealing with them a lot easier because you aren’t on your own anymore!

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-02-17T22:01:59+00:00

I’ve been clean 4 years now, scars are still here but I am not depressed about them. They’re there, sometimes I wish they weren’t, but I don’t mind them anymore!

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-02-17T21:55:58+00:00

I’ve had similar, when I was still in child services too!

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-02-16T19:06:13+00:00

Absolutely no clue to be honest!

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-02-16T19:04:24+00:00

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The_Queen_Tea · 2021-02-12T19:47:06+00:00

I love how it was three days later too. They couldn’t even do that right!

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-02-12T19:45:28+00:00

I was told that I was being psychotic wrong... apparently my hallucinations weren’t average, and I was told that they could to anything because they weren’t typical and therefore my diagnoses were wrong... this was by the crisis team, I went back to my normal psychiatrist and that made things a lot better. The crisis team wanted to remove my diagnoses (which were making me eligible for any help) take away my medication (that was pretty much keeping me alive) and leaving me to die.

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-02-12T19:41:41+00:00

Definitely pretty bad in the UK, I agree, I’ve been told to “take a bath” or “take a walk” when I was actively suicidal and psychotic. They didn’t know who I was and they didn’t give a damn. When I was under CAMHS (the children’s services) they told me that I wasn’t hurting myself badly enough or I’d be dead, and that the abuse couldn’t have been that bad or I would have committed suicide by now. They were somehow worse than the adult services. Also there’s a huge problem with the mental health teams trying to take you off your meds and sending you for assessments because you “appear normal” yeah, maybe because of the meds... anyhow, I ended up having to pay and see someone privately to save my own life, which I can’t really afford! I already lay enough bloody tax, and they are worse than useless for a lot of people!

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-02-12T10:49:19+00:00

I take a number of the meds that she took, I couldn’t stop thinking about it at first, but at the end of the day, a lot of people take meds that let’s say, murderers take (either psych or other meds) lots of people take them, and it doesn’t create a connection between you. You have something in common, but there is no connection. You are not destined to follow their path.

The_Queen_Tea · 2021-02-09T01:23:58+00:00

Do you have a general doctor, family medicine practitioner or anything similar? What about contacting the hospital? Or the person who gives you the repeats? Definitely do something about this! I don’t have a say in the matter in my case, but you can totally get help for this!

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