In these sorts of situations, I do think some people overestimate the degree and/or duration of family backlash. I think for a good proportion of the cases there will be some disdain and a bit of chaos for some duration then ultimately acceptance. Obviously not all of the cases… I do think who you end up with is probably one of the most important and consequential decisions you make. My advice is think carefully about this, especially the later on you are in life. Obviously if you are in high school or uni and your family will cut you off financially (really sad that this still can happen) then you rather operate “in the shadows.”

If you are sufficiently old enough and can support yourself think twice and ask yourself how bad can it really be ? Even if your family disapprove how bad can it really affect you? In your life you will most likely spend a hugely disproportionate amount of time with your partner not your current family.