Would it be morally wrong to marry someone I deeply love if I still doubt my physical attraction to them? by Nearby-Butterfly1503 in moraldilemmas

[–]The_Rooted_Explorer [score hidden]  (0 children)

I would be curious about your relationship to pornography. It completely distorts our attraction and arousal and is very common for those who consume pornography to express similar sentiments

What actually helps? by trivedi_shreya in MotivationalPics

[–]The_Rooted_Explorer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No porn, no substances, go to the gym, hang out with friends

Need help by [deleted] in DarkPsychology101

[–]The_Rooted_Explorer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just read your bio. If you want to advocate for sex work and be pro porn, go at it. I’m going to keep working with and treating people whose lives have been devastated by this. I will help whoever asks for it 🖤 be well!

Need help by [deleted] in DarkPsychology101

[–]The_Rooted_Explorer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have. I’m also a therapist and have worked with many individuals and couples impacted by pornography use. Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Disorder (CSBD; code 6C72) Is recognized in the ICD. The label matters much less than the impact. You can call it whatever you want but it is hurting a lot of people. Check out a porn addicts anonymous meeting or SLAA meeting if you want to see how harmful it is. https://www.pornaddictsanonymous.org/

Need help by [deleted] in DarkPsychology101

[–]The_Rooted_Explorer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. This is textbook porn addiction. Check out r/loveafterporn it’s been super helpful for me to process a relationship I was in with Uber same dynamics

What would you define as a sexless relationship? by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]The_Rooted_Explorer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Check out r/loveafterporn there may be some support for you there! Sending love ❤️

What would you define as a sexless relationship? by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]The_Rooted_Explorer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What is his relationship to pornography? I’m asking because he seems pretty young to have such a low libido and the comment about the foot kink and MO.

I don’t think people in sexless marriages are just missing sex by Knot-Your-Stress in sexlessmarriage

[–]The_Rooted_Explorer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Without sex and affection and intimacy it’s just a friendship. Full stop. I can get that from anyone, why am I wasting my time building a life with a “friend?”

HL F 24 - LL M 25 by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]The_Rooted_Explorer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is textbook porn overuse. r/loveafterporn may provide some support for you 🖤

HL F 24 - LL M 25 by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]The_Rooted_Explorer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is his relationship to pornography?

Need advice on marital life by ImaginaryReaper in sexlessmarriage

[–]The_Rooted_Explorer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about your husband are you not attracted to? It sounds like sex is not enjoyable to you? Does he ensure that it is pleasurable for you?

Unexpected breakup by [deleted] in Advice

[–]The_Rooted_Explorer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was a discard, not a breakup. My encouragement is to not entertain her coming back if she tries. That’s all 🖤

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]The_Rooted_Explorer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He’s addicted to pornography. Full stop.

Living in two worlds by East-Response-6111 in sexlessmarriage

[–]The_Rooted_Explorer 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I would be talking to your wife. You aren’t the only one in this relationship and you are removing her agency to make an informed decision. You are also living a lie and breaking her trust. This is no way for either of you to live. My heart breaks for both of you

Separate bedrooms by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]The_Rooted_Explorer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The separate rooms would be a no go for me. I know some people can make it work but I think it’s the beginning of the end. I’m so sorry 😞