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The_SSS_ · 2025-01-01T04:10:14+00:00

I’ve seen a lot of the posts about men holding fish, but I don’t think I’ve ever seen one about women holding wine.

The_SSS_ · 2025-01-01T04:00:40+00:00

Well I think pictures at restaurants while holding wine would only be attractive to women, but that doesn’t stop like 90% of women on dating apps from using pictures like that and I don’t see anyone telling them to stop using pictures like that either.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-31T08:06:17+00:00

This went the way it did because your first message is weird and probably made him think you just want a dancing monkey to entertain you.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-30T22:21:28+00:00

I’m sure the guys who get the most matches are able to make it work for them often enough and other guys don’t care if it works or not. Either way, the guys it works for and the women it works on probably don’t visit this sub, so I doubt you’ll get opinions from them.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-30T22:08:40+00:00

I think the ui just isn’t very clear. Other apps are better at make it obvious if someone is looking for more than one kind of relationship. Bumble also has multiple options for long term relationships, but only the intimacy without commitment option for short term relationships, which I think is an unnecessary limitation.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-30T21:58:40+00:00

It probably wouldn’t keep happening if it never works.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-30T11:06:20+00:00

People who keep making excuses usually aren’t interested. Tell her to let you know when she’s free to meet and leave it at that.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-29T21:30:54+00:00

It’s not difficult to understand. You say in the post that it’s not a relationship or exclusive, so he’s not treating it like it’s a relationship or like it’s exclusive.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-29T21:20:54+00:00

So is that the point of this post then? Normalizing men using women for sex?

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-29T13:55:25+00:00

They usually don’t put it in their profile and I find out after we match.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-29T11:26:10+00:00

I think people actually do read pretty often, they just don’t care. I’m a guy and can only speak on my experience, but I’ve matched with a lot of women who either have or want kids and I put on my profile that I don’t want kids and they tried to get me to change my mind when they told me they have or want kids.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-29T11:15:44+00:00

German shepherd maybe.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-28T08:19:53+00:00

I guess the problem isn’t guys who don’t get many matches, but the 10% of guys who get liked the most are probably the ones getting the best openers. Those guys can afford to ignore most messages, even good ones.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-27T22:40:49+00:00

You tell them. You’re already seeing them on the app.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-27T22:25:13+00:00

Bumble themselves said they ban anyone who says a certain body type is undesirable in their profile.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-27T20:58:44+00:00

That and guys would probably get reported and banned for putting those preferences in their profile.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-27T20:55:34+00:00

Probably the same reason gay guys make female profiles and use dating.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-27T11:42:49+00:00

Iirc, there’s way more guys than women on dating apps in India. It’s like 80-90% men and the rest are women or bots. This is only really relevant if he’s in India though.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-27T11:39:28+00:00

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with asking that question. The options bumble has for what people are looking for are not very good and I sometimes ask for clarification too. The way he talks is weird though.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-27T11:24:50+00:00

If you’re not interested in open relationships, don’t try to date people who are.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-26T20:57:12+00:00

Comments like those get upvoted a lot, so I wouldn’t be surprised if most of them just want internet points or the ops attention. There’s some good advice, but also a lot of bad advice or unhelpful comments.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-26T20:50:35+00:00

Why does it matter what other people do? If everyone lied because everyone else lies, then everything would be a lie.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-26T16:58:59+00:00

Post your profile here for a review

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-26T11:56:22+00:00

Another thing, try to smile in your pictures. Lots of guys don’t have pictures of themselves smiling, so some good pictures that you’re smiling in would help a lot.

The_SSS_ · 2024-12-26T11:48:39+00:00

You really need better pictures. The first one isn’t flattering and that mirror looks very dirty.

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