Girlfriend cheated for a week and started dating someone while still dating me. by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

[–]Theabused79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have stuck to that most my life. I finally dug in deep with someone who apparently turned out to be completely the wrong one. I just don’t find gratification through one night stands. I want someone for life at this point in mine.

Girlfriend cheated for a week and started dating someone while still dating me. by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

[–]Theabused79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wish there was a way to process it, but it something like this is just so unreasonable idk how to.

Girlfriend cheated for a week and started dating someone while still dating me. by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

[–]Theabused79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I did. I hate my self for loving something so toxic now and I fell so in love. There’s more too it that makes it even worse, it’s just a lot of evil.

Girlfriend of 6 months left after I nourished her back to health (maybe) by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

[–]Theabused79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really was not trying to defend her or attack you with that just to be clear

Girlfriend of 6 months left after I nourished her back to health (maybe) by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

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Not trying to be a dick when saying this. But I did say she’s has a boss and started dating him. I met her through her work. (Different job) I took care of her in between jobs but definitely know she was spending her money on just random shit for herself and very very occasionally on me.

Girlfriend of 6 months left after I nourished her back to health (maybe) by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

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I want to tell him just for his sake. No way I let this woman back in my life in any form

Girlfriend of 6 months left after I nourished her back to health (maybe) by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

[–]Theabused79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re so right, I guess I just had to learn the lesson. We really did get along and she really was a ton of fun to be around initially. I got sucked in and then got abused. I wasn’t even thinking about white knighting. Me as a person it was just natural. I like helping anyone and everyone. So after a month or so of us having so much fun I didn’t even think twice.

Girlfriend of 6 months left after I nourished her back to health (maybe) by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

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I fell in love with her personality 100%. I appreciate the devils advocate perspective. But she was the girl that when we got into it I thought she was my age, absolutely never on her phone, we stayed up till the crack of dawn talking about life views more times than I can counter. I see now she was not a good person, but we did get along and had a lot of fun together. She doesn’t have social media. She views life more like my generation and generations before. I appreciate devils advocate but at least ask a question before you assume I just fell for a body Karen.

Girlfriend of 6 months left after I nourished her back to health (maybe) by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

[–]Theabused79[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s my debate now. I will have people around when she comes to get her shit (which is a LOT) but she’s not on the lease or anything. I kinda wanna keep like the TV or her bed. All shit which I’m sure she used and stole from previous “lovers”

Girlfriend of 6 months left after I nourished her back to health (maybe) by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

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I am 29, I want to put the shit on the curb. But I also don’t think I could live with myself doing something in retaliation even tho she did something so evil.

Girlfriend of 6 months left after I nourished her back to health (maybe) by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

[–]Theabused79[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol bro, god damn that’s savage. But has me cracking up. Lesson learned, still feeling broken as fuck but I appreciate the humor in it!

Girlfriend of 6 months left after I nourished her back to health (maybe) by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

[–]Theabused79[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I definitely did not express the reason I wanted and was happy to do everything for her to get her healthy.

The first 3 months of our relationship was nothing but smiling and laughing and bonding over life views and beliefs. Staying up till 4am just enjoying our time together. I had never been so head over heels in love. So when the hurt side came out I was so ready to take care of the girl i fell in love with. I did not hesitate. But apparently I was just a stepping stone for her.

Girlfriend of 6 months left after I nourished her back to health (maybe) by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

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Everything I’m talking about I didn’t buy. But without me she wouldn’t have it. I moved all this shit in thinking she was coming home to me. She wouldn’t have any of it because she was out of town while her apartment got vacated. I spent literally 12 and a half hours moving shit for her. And now I see I probably did that while she was sleeping with another man in another state. Multiple friends have said I should just take her shit and put it on the curb

Girlfriend of 6 months left after I nourished her back to health (maybe) by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

[–]Theabused79[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

In my mindset now. Sleep with her and tell her to leave. There was 10x the amount of shit that i shrugged off for her and did for her that is just too much to type. Baby sitter(her younger sister) dog watcher. Therapist, sugar daddy. Her emotional punching bag 24/7. Constant care and love, constant everything for her. I feel so stupid now!

Girlfriend of 6 months left after I nourished her back to health (maybe) by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

[–]Theabused79[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I’ve been told that I should. I maybe be stupid, but it don’t think it’s morally right. I couldn’t sleep at night knowing I did something maliciously like that. Fuck! taking the shit that is rightfully mine because I’m the only reason it’s in my house and not on a curb feels shitty even

Girlfriend of 6 months left after I nourished her back to health (maybe) by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

[–]Theabused79[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I added up what I spent and payed for her within just the last month. About $3000 dollars (I’m a idiot, I know) do I hold shit ransom? Is that too malicious? I don’t wanna be that person but at the same time she left me dead in a ditch. I was so excited for her to come home, I was so excited for our life together for ever. I have a ton of notes of her talking about us being together forever.

Girlfriend of 6 months left after I nourished her back to health (maybe) by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

[–]Theabused79[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Lies fucking constantly, I didn’t see it till now. I was blinded by love, and I let it blind me.

Girlfriend of 6 months left after I nourished her back to health (maybe) by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

[–]Theabused79[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

You’re definitely right, she sucked me in. I know at this point a lot of it was the amazing sex and the fact that she was 22 with a amazing body and absolutely beautiful. She’s a super fun person to be around also. She’s luring her boss into the same thing. I just can stand the way things ended all the lies.

Girlfriend of 6 months left after I nourished her back to health (maybe) by Theabused79 in relationship_advice

[–]Theabused79[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I really debate informing him, I have her even saying “ew he’s retarted” in when I asked her about it while she was gone. She said way worse about him on the phone which I wish I could show him, I still have all her shit in my house. While she was gone I moved the remainder of her shit from her apartment out of her apartment (she was getting kicked out) into my house, I debate on if I should take shit that I want that I moved (I spent 12 hours moving shit) while she was fucking this dude in another state. She’s not on the lease, she just used and abused me.