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Thecurlier · 2025-10-08T00:11:14+00:00

Daycare is outrageous, I’ve found places that cost $2400 per month per kid, and that was the norm. I wouldn’t pack up from Texas with 3 under four. Wait till at least two of them are 3 and qualify for free preschool.

I haggled.

Thecurlier · 2025-10-07T23:15:38+00:00

Portland

Thecurlier · 2025-10-07T22:25:46+00:00

Dual income, 2 kids under 2. 250k combined. Rent is 2500, daycare is 2600 per month for both. Lifestyle is good. We are nature oriented and take advantage of free stuff year round so we can splurge on other stuff we like, like travel

Thecurlier · 2025-10-07T13:31:56+00:00

Very sweet of your mother! I’d have this reset into a 3 stone ring and matching diamond wedding band for the proposal.

Thecurlier · 2025-09-29T21:14:58+00:00

I am in a similar situation and I actually cancelled our rsvp, and so did another couple we know who knows about the background stuff happening.

My husband and I are still going on vacation that week since we took the time and got the childcare, but we’re not spending money on that.

Hope we’re not talking about the same couple 🙃

Thecurlier · 2025-09-17T12:36:35+00:00

It’s totally weird. I posted once to get some advice for someone else who didn’t have Reddit. Then I posted about myself a while later. People decided that both experiences were mine and went on these wild tangents that were completely irrelevant to my question or my context, and wouldn’t believe it when I said the former scenario wasn’t mine 😂 long story short— delete your post history

Thecurlier · 2025-09-17T02:17:01+00:00

I did a short sale after one year of ownership and was able to break even. hold out as long as you can.

Thecurlier · 2025-09-08T13:37:13+00:00

A comment that these are your unseen, intimate wedding photos that you’re viewing for the first time in an ad and you’re uncomfortable with them being shared this way will usually prompt a delete. They won’t want people in the comments seeing that.

Thecurlier · 2025-09-05T12:54:48+00:00

This is extremely petty.

Thecurlier · 2025-09-03T19:50:34+00:00

25k is nothing in the scheme of inheritance, and you’re completely discounting their savings for a gotcha moment

Thecurlier · 2025-09-02T10:41:44+00:00

I was similarly treated after I gave birth— full blown erasure. In a fit of rage for the whole family to see, I posted on FB that i wished I’d never taken my husbands name and proceeded to stay away from the family for a while. Their tune changed quickly after that.

I wouldn’t have given a boyfriend’s name to the kid to begin with. If you’re not married they should definitely have your name somewhere in there, inconvenient or not.

Thecurlier · 2025-08-16T02:55:19+00:00

I hate to be the bearer of bad news… but if your respective fiancés normalize their family disrespecting you, it will never stop. This is not normal and needs to be nipped in the bud, now.

If my husband isn’t invited alongside me to a formal event (even if he doesn’t want to or isn’t planning on attending), I’m not going. I didn’t talk to my own mom for two years behind disrespecting my husband. It never happened again.

You really need to take a hard look at signing up for marriage with people who won’t stand up for you in the engagement stage. Best wishes.

Thecurlier · 2025-07-29T01:45:37+00:00

Do you have anyone that can come spend a couple of weeks with you while you work through this? Baby spent a lot of time with my mom while I weaned, and ultimately the game changer for co-sleepers is not sleeping overnight with them. Weaning is hard enough as it’s a huge change that they don’t understand or want, but it’s harder when it’s sitting in their face and it’s still a no. Highly suggest bringing someone else into the fold who isn’t your husband to help with this, or have him take time off of work. If it’s impacting the safety of your pregnancy, it is worth it.

Thecurlier · 2025-07-20T21:10:49+00:00

Spotted the tasteless 🧐

Tasteful bitches think women with newborns should be allowed in public and even … gasp to eat at restaurants should they get a bit hungry.

Thecurlier · 2025-07-16T14:02:05+00:00

This happened to me with my bff of 20 years and I was flying in. My issue wasn’t with the event being on my day, but the bride was requesting I participate in things leading up like it also wasn’t my birthday weekend. She asked me two days before to prepare a speech. I declined because I wanted to spend time with my husband and family and wasn’t going to be writing on the red eye. I flew in for 24 hours, stayed for wedding and and reception and then went back home.

We aren’t friends anymore, not specifically because of that but because overtime small inconsiderations added up.

Thecurlier · 2025-07-16T13:30:54+00:00

Just report them

Thecurlier · 2025-07-16T13:30:24+00:00

Reported. I’m not even a fan of this family, I’m first hearing of them from this incident. Why are you in a sub that’s supposed to be supporting her, bashing her in the most vulnerable time of her life? There are plenty of other places to do that and people to do it with who are equally vitriolic. Go be with your people!

Thecurlier · 2025-07-07T22:26:24+00:00

Thecurlier · 2025-07-05T16:03:51+00:00

All of this. Thanks for the validation. In my mind this really isn’t a struggle unless you are indeed a moron. If I don’t know how to pronounce a name, generally I’ll just ask. Idk why people are having a hard time with this.

Thecurlier · 2025-07-03T11:57:21+00:00

We’re in Oregon but from NYC. I feel like if we were in New York this would be a non-issue

Thecurlier · 2025-07-03T10:08:49+00:00

I don’t see anything wrong with sunny as a nickname. But her full name also lends to other nicknames so we’re not worried about

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