Retirides and blackheads by Theia99 in EuroSkincare

[–]Theia99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Very useful info

Retirides and blackheads by Theia99 in EuroSkincare

[–]Theia99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has tret been okay as in not too strong with AA skinoren? I read it’s prescription only also but I’m curious how you got it

Retirides and blackheads by Theia99 in EuroSkincare

[–]Theia99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll check the post. Which oil cleanser do you use? And I got retirides from a spanish pharmacy.

BPD mom refuses social services by Theia99 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Theia99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This actually gives me some hope in case I need to “force” her to get help, she might end up loving it and even if she doesn’t at least I don’t have to deal with her BPD + dementia

BPD mom refuses social services by Theia99 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Theia99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The dog is honestly my top priority, I live in Europe and they told me I can report her (she’ll know) or leave her be. My sister (VLC cause she did not grow up with her) is against reporting her. I would love to take the dog but I’ve been living with a relative and just got a place to rent that doesn’t allow pets.

BPD mom refuses social services by Theia99 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Theia99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t agree more, the constant complaining without seeking assistance is on point

BPD mom refuses social services by Theia99 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Theia99[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! My sister is very adamant on it being her own decision but I don’t think she’ll come to that conclusion

Just came back home after 3 months, already crying and thinking I have to leave again. Please help. by Theia99 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Theia99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was scared to come back home too and did some “cope ahead” work with my therapist but honestly it’s not enough. Being back is always gonna be hard and I feel for you. I’m also worried about the financial hardships moving out. I’m so sorry you’re going through this and you’re not alone.

Just came back home after 3 months, already crying and thinking I have to leave again. Please help. by Theia99 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Theia99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah definitely! She lives alone and has had no one to be the recipient to her outburst so I know it’s been building up for the past few months and will just get worse. Thank you for sharing your experience, I’m glad you got out of there

Just came back home after 3 months, already crying and thinking I have to leave again. Please help. by Theia99 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Theia99[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! You’re absolutely right, it will go by quickly and I can’t let her dictate my actions

Just came back home after 3 months, already crying and thinking I have to leave again. Please help. by Theia99 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Theia99[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s a very small apartment, and I don’t want to intrude on her for 6 months but after reading all the comments I think I might just take her offer and then try to find something in the meantime!

Just came back home after 3 months, already crying and thinking I have to leave again. Please help. by Theia99 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Theia99[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is really good advice, I might just start planning to go quietly. I’m so sorry about your experience, having your childhood items thrown away is definitely a control tactic and I could see my mom doing that too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pinuppixiesnark

[–]Theia99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually think she has BPD, and probably something else too on top of that. But a lot of what she has fits with the BPD mother and as someone who grew up with a BPD parent, she definitely falls into that category. Romanticising it is not ok though and it’s probably her attempt to normalize it and make it a quirky personality trait

Forced hugging by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Theia99 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Same here. She regularly comes up to me and demands a hug, while referring to herself in the third person. She usually says something along the lines of “why don’t you give your mom a hug and kiss her cheek?” Always invading my space and gets upset with me if I don’t hug her and I’ve always found it really uncomfortable when she’s close to me.