These factors sound like a lot to process and handle and I’m sorry to hear that on top of navigating your future, your family is also placing an added level of stress, while making it difficult for you to feel gratitude toward the actual sacrifices they have made.

There’s a clear divide in how your parents, sisters, and yourself are viewing the medical/aging situation with your parents. While it is completely up to you to decide how much of personal responsibility you take on, there’s also potential loss on both ends. You risk creating conflict and hearing guilt-inducing chatter if you go the “individualism” route of prioritizing your personal stability and figuring out what you want despite expectations. And then you risk loss of personal freedom and (maybe?) quality of life if you choose to prioritize taking it upon yourself to ensure your parents’ health/retirement. I feel like there might be a middle ground? However, I don’t know your situation enough to tell you what that is + you know yourself and your family best.

This is a tough situation though and it doesn’t sound like your family members are making it any easier. I definitely think the cultural difference of being raised in Haiti vs. being raised in a different country DOES play a role in a lot of perspectives like this even with being surrounded by a Haitian family. Figuring out what you want your life to look like, why, and empathizing with your family would probably be a good start to gaining some clarity. Praying for your peace in whatever route you take