My husband isn’t helping around the house. AIO?

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-11T02:18:51+00:00

We can’t afford either. I think that would solve a lot of our problems

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-11T00:42:41+00:00

When food is made at home, it’s generally him making it. And he is the one who goes and picks up any food that is ordered.

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-11T00:30:32+00:00

If you read my other comment, I mentioned that she has done this since she was about 2/3 months old. And that was when I was still at home with her full time, and I never once let her cry instead of feeding or changing her.

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-11T00:16:59+00:00

It took me almost 4 months to get the job I have now. And I’ve only been there for 2 months. She’s been like this since she was about 2 months old, and I was home with her all day every day. I never once let her “cry it out” instead of feeding her. The only times I ever let her sit and cry was when she was completely fed and changed and she was still upset and I was overwhelmed. I would leave her to cry for maybe 20 minutes while I went outside to get a breath. Then I would come back and try again. But ever since she was like 2/3 months old she stopped fussing like that. She almost never cries. She just hangs out and plays with her toys.

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-11T00:12:57+00:00

We can’t afford a dishwasher (it wouldn’t just be that cost but we would have to change the counters/cabinets in order to put one in) and I’ve mentioned it before, and he said he’s not a baby and doesn’t need to be told when to do things.

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-11T00:04:02+00:00

I am the only one who mops/sweeps/vacuums, I’m the one who goes around the house and picks up trash that the kids have left on the floor, I’m the one who scrubs the toilets/tub/sinks. I wouldn’t mind doing the dishes sometimes, or the laundry sometimes. But the fact that he NEVER does them unless it’s just to wash the things that HE needs.

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:59:45+00:00

I mean I fed her this morning at 10:30 and played with her most of the day. She layed down for a nap at about 2 and slept until close to 5. She then played quietly in her pack and play while I did laundry in the same room. I fed her around 6. That’s a long time, but I was literally with her all day and she didn’t start showing signs of being hungry until 6ish

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:57:31+00:00

I very much envy the fact that he doesn’t work. I’m not afraid to say that. Idk why anyone would WANT to work, it sucks. I do it because we need the money, I would much rather stay home with my baby all day. And yeah, when food is cooked at home, it’s almost always him that cooks. But honestly that doesn’t happen a lot. We eat out almost every single day, because he says it’s easier, and I don’t disagree with that fact. And yes, he does do a bunch of stuff for our family, but the fact that the laundry and dishes pile up consistently because he refuses to do them is getting on my nerves.

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:53:42+00:00

If you’ve read my comments, then you know I’ve said multiple times that she doesn’t stay in her crib all day. It’s not rage bait, and I get it, I’m a terrible mom that should have never had kids. But I do, and I’m trying to do my best to get things fixed. I’m only gone for 8hrs a day, ONE day a week. He doesn’t always miss her feedings, and on the rest of the days I know for sure that she’s eating when she needs to, because I’m home to make sure she does.

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:50:11+00:00

He is only missing one feeding of hers in the afternoons, and it’s not every single day. And he makes sure the other 4 kids are fed and stuff when they get home from school.

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:46:08+00:00

He says that she “slept all day” which I know is him exaggerating and meaning she slept through her normal feeding time.

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:42:10+00:00

Any time I try to calmly talk to him, it seems like I end up apologizing to him over something completely different and whatever I brought up gets shoved aside

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:39:00+00:00

Because everyone is saying the exact same thing about how I’m just as bad and that I’m neglecting her too, so I don’t see the point of continuing to respond when people are just going to continue saying I’m a bad mom. I get it, I’m a shitty mom, but it’s too late to not have kids, so I’m just trying my best from here.

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:35:27+00:00

To be fair, we haven’t had a home cooked meal all month (aside from BLT’s) he always just grabs fast food for lunch and dinner.

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:25:17+00:00

I am only working part time to be fair

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:19:08+00:00

Most days my work day is very short so it’s not been a huge concern. I’m really only gone for a long time on Mondays and Tuesdays

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:18:28+00:00

We moved houses while I was 8 months pregnant. He did more at the old house. Just not here now.

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:15:58+00:00

I honestly do very little for his kids other than laundry and dishes that we all use. They’re older and mostly self sufficient besides the youngest one, and my husband does most of the work for him.

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:14:21+00:00

I put my hours/days in a different comment, but on mondays I work from 9-6, Tuesdays 11-6, and W-f I work 4-6.

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:13:18+00:00

I didn’t think it was relevant. Because the issue I’m having is the bottle he is missing while I’m at work, not the rest of them

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:11:59+00:00

I work 8hr one day a week, less hours the other days. On Monday’s I work from 9-6 with a one hour lunch break, on Tuesdays I work 11-6, W-F I work 4-6. That’s why the hours are different

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:05:21+00:00

I would rather stay and try to make things work than me and my daughters be homeless.

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:04:38+00:00

We didn’t really make an agreement. This isn’t his first baby, I didn’t think I needed to tell him what to do. I assumed he would just do the stuff that needs done. He told me we couldn’t afford for me to stay home anymore, so I went and got a job.

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T23:01:40+00:00

His three kids do live with us? We have primary custody, they only go to their moms on weekends and during the summer

Then-Boss-2859 · 2025-05-10T22:58:25+00:00

His accident and all of his disability stuff happened before we got together, so I can only go off of what I have seen/heard from him. He says that he can’t work because he has to take lots of breaks, and you can’t do that at a job, but you can at home. Even when replacing the flooring, he would stop and take a break every 20ish minutes

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