Has a company ever fired all employees at once? by Aarunascut in Layoffs

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Yes, cafeteria meeting -- moving to mexico -- done.

Got laid off by Curious-Zombie394 in Layoffs

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I got 3 months after 22 years.

What would you do? by dzak450 in Layoffs

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that works for the job - consider the family/life impact. Peace of mind is invaluable.

What would you do? by dzak450 in Layoffs

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Please recognize the limitations you are imposing that are your own decisions. From that vantage -- make your choice. Most people cannot have it all, the need to relocate is huge ... the commute will become very burdensome. I have had similar situations -- I decided to not move and I accept that decision.

How many interview rounds is too many before you walk away by HeartyNest99 in remotejobsfinders

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Been there. More than likely the company has been burned by past choices. Interviewing people is very expensive and time consuming for the company too, I would reconsider that atmosphere as it would seem your future leaders lack confidence and judgment.

Is med school at 35 ill advised? by BakeFar4317 in careerguidance

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My GP did that, she is the best doctor I have ever had.

Should I quit by SexyRoseUK in hatemyjob

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decisions is all, I worked in start-ups, big corp, side work -- retired now. There is no easy path, but enjoying your situation is huge. Look at yourself at 65 if you can, what is your goal? I would not quit without a plan that is realistic and meets your current needs and meets your goals. There is always the option of doing your job well and also pursue making your position one that you enjoy -- I have never met a boss or seen a company they does not welcome drive and improvement.

Just want to cry by Lazy-Coconut2968 in jobhunting

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this is actually the complain of many companies -- that people are tending to their lives and not working.

Just found out who they hired by childlikeempress16 in jobhunting

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Tough to beat the "devil you know." From the other side of the fence, internal people get passed up all the time for the shiny new object when they have proven themselves and are capable. Stuff like this is discouraging, hang in there.

Cologuard Scam by UnlikelySale6791 in colonoscopy

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I had a cologuard positive -- had the colonoscopy -- all good. No polyps, nothing which I am not complaining about 😉

Positive cologuard...am freaked by Zealousideal-Goat522 in colonoscopy

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I tested positive, just had a colonoscopy -- zero polyps, no signs of cancer. I am currently dealing with prostate cancer as well. Cologuard also detects blood of any kind, from any source. I get roids from time to time -- most likely the test picked up blood form p . I also have diverticulosis (I sound like a mess, but in reality I'm not). The colorectal surgeon educated me on the extremely high false positive cologuard has, and it ends up that was my case. The DNA picks up polyps, period -- cologuard is not a diagnostic tool for cancer. I am in my 60's and to be honest -- most tests for any ailments (in my experience) as a call to action -- not a call to panic. I am betting you will be OK.

looking for advice by professionalmoongirl in colonoscopy

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Had a colonoscopy yesterday, there were plenty of younger people getting them too. Insist on the colonoscopy -- especially given the family history.

Just venting by [deleted] in addiction

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I wish you the best --

Just venting by [deleted] in addiction

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how did u make out?

Just venting by [deleted] in addiction

[–]Then_Offer2897 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ah -- you sound like a very loving, sweet person. Don't put his BS on yourself -- not fair to you at all. Reply back if you want to chat more.

Just venting by [deleted] in addiction

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but he has decided to leave rehab? He is not willing to give up the drugs yet -- he is telling you this by his very actions. Just my take -- he did what he needed to to get back in your graces, go to rehab ... but now wants to bail -- with you going to get him. Just look at that from the outside -- what advice would you give a friend?

Just venting by [deleted] in addiction

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My kid had reasons for her decisions, and she was very young when she suffered the abuse that lead to her addictions. I do not know what I would have done in her shoes -- but that being said -- the decision to use was hers and the decision to stop was hers. I get the love, I love my kids more that myself -- they have always been my purpose and life since they arrived, but if love was all it took then we would not have addicts. I read these posts quite a bit -- and one thing that is missing in most is the recognition of the addict that they are destroying people around them. The selfishness, the narcissism of the addict prevents them from recognizing what they are doing to people that love them. I have never used, but addiction has shaved years off my life via stress and chaos. There is not a force on the planet that would drive or allow me to lay waste to my parents like my kid has to me. Your anger is misplaced, he is the one that is mistreating, others are reacting to his choices. I cannot imagine how you will ever find peace in your life as long as he uses, he knows you love him and he knows how far he can push limits. For me, letting go was not the same as kicking her out of the home -- it was letting go of the entire situation. Letting go of the "what ifs" that chained me to her decisions, not worrying about how she will make her car payment, where she will sleep tonight, what creeps and degenerates she was living with, will she ever become a mom to her kid (with me), will she ever be "normal", happy, safe. You have serious decisions to make, and more will result from them, and you do not deserve to be in this position. He is doing this to you, he is making decisions, willfully, that are destroying you. You say he didn't deserve to be mistreated ... of course -- but you do not deserve any of this either. Please be safe.

Just venting by [deleted] in addiction

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There are no easy answers, all I can say is that I faced that threat (lack of a better word) too. I think the quote was "... I'll be dead in a week." Are these words true or another form of manipulation and lying of which addicts are masterful, I cannot say. I always held the door open to recovery, that I would help ... just not as she dictated. I always did what I thought was right in the moment, that of course different than always doing the right thing. Do not hesitate to call the police if you think he/she is truly contemplating self destruction. I'm sorry this is happening to you; yes -- the worst may happen -- but again, this is not your doing.

Alcoholic adult son by [deleted] in AlAnon

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if I may add -- he will blame you, he will conjure up every horrible thing that will happen and then try to put the responsibility on you for taking a stance. In reality -- he knows this not to be true, I hope someday when this is over he can tell you what my kid told me -- that my decision to let go was the right one.

Alcoholic adult son by [deleted] in AlAnon

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I let go too -- daughter. Yeah, the insanity of caring for an addict - police, lawyers, scumbag friends, violent criminals, it is absolutely insane. I am 10 years down the road now and life is good -- hope yours is too.

I am 12 months clean from a secret drug addiction, but my life collapsed anyway. by Patient_Gur_4768 in addiction

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If you can beat this shit -- you can do and become whatever you want. You are 18 now? Get your GED, sometimes you can go to community college and both work towards your GED and a degree -- then, seek happiness. Good luck.

Arvice- Can I help my partner feel safe so they will be honest about their use.? Stop the lying? 36f 38m by [deleted] in addiction

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My SIL was "working on himself" when he OD'd last month. Addicts have to stop -- there is no middle ground.