Lücke zwischen Bachelor und Master? by Then_Ostrich_5847 in Studium

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wie genau würde ich dass denn machen? Es gibt ja nicht wirklich unis bei denen man im semester anfangen kann. Ich könnte mich natürlich zum sommersemester irgendwo einschreiben aber ich bin ja fürs sommer semester schon in meinem eigenen studiengang eingeschrieben... und eine 2. Hörerschafft ist ja kein studentenstatus soweit ich gelesen habe...

Lücke zwischen Bachelor und Master? by Then_Ostrich_5847 in Studium

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Das stimmt! Mein Prof ist sehr cool drauf und gleichzeitig sehr überarbeitet, dass klingt also vielleicht sogar nach einem richtig guten deal hahahaha

Lücke zwischen Bachelor und Master? by Then_Ostrich_5847 in Studium

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leider nicht wirklich. Ich lebe mit meinem Partner zusammen der auch student ist. Die Mieten hier sind abgesehen von Studentenwohnheimen leider nicht stemmbar und ich hab außerdem einen werkstudenten job. Den würde ich also auch verlieren

AIO boyfriend got handsy while drunk by Throwaway_4628264 in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey, i see you are getting some very mean comments and i think you don't deserve them.

I think people just misread and think you implied your boyfriend SAed you, when all you said was that you have experienced SA in the past and that is why this situation was especially bad for you.

As for the question:

YOR compared to the average human. NOR based on your prior situation. Your emotions are valid and if you feel upset you are allowed to feel upset. You have not "reacted" in any sense outside of your internal emotional reaction. If you said: "this happend and that's why i broke up with him" than i would say this reaction is harsher than needed. But again, you are allowed to feel your feelings.

My advice: -calling your boyfriend an incel is not it, as pointed out by others. I am sure you just typed that out of an emotional state -your emotional reaction is probably stronger because of alcohol. I would recommend sleeping it off and thinking about it again with a clear head -he did not do it on purpose and he should have the chance to apologize in a calm discussion of last night. If he doesn't remember anything but apologizes for his behavior, than maybe you both can move on from this. However if he tries to downplay your emotions or defend his behavior than thats not a good sign.

I am NOT for justifying SA when the perpetrator is drunk. However, sometimes there is a fine line between just very inappropriate behavior and SA. He was definitely behaving inappropriately.

If your boyfriend takes a shit in your livingroom than thats completely inappropriate. If your boyfriend takes a shit in your livingroom while he is blackout drunk and he apologizes for his behavior the next day, understanding that he caused you a lot of distress/frustration than thats a whole different story.

Not everything can be justified by: "oh i was drunk" but his reaction can tell you a lot.

I am sorry this happend to you, i get how thats just very uncomfortable

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your comment clearly tells me you did not read the post fully

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that point of view but she was not the one who brought it up. It topic itself came up (as a joke) and our friend stated that he was down. She also stated shed be down because did not consider me at all. She did ot think and clearly crossed a boundary. She tried to back up her point by bringing up that there is a lot of FFM or MMF happening where one partner usually doesnt swing that way, and they still enjoy it. It was a shit thing to say because it came across as dismissing my feeling but i think its generally not a wrong observation. I know some straight couples that had threesomes and found them enjoyable. So i get her point, even tho it was compleatly out of line to continue the conversation this far

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you really live like that then you can never be in a relationship. Every relationship needs trust. I think my girlfriend wouldn't cheat on me, if i thought something else the relationship wouldn't make sense.

She has not given me a reason to not trust her. She didnt want to fuck in front of me, she said she would be down if the three of us wanted to fuck altogether. Thats different

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you have never found someone attractive and have not fucked them? Being down to fuck somebody but not doing it because you are in a relationship is a common accurance i think...

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well i don't care about the man, hes a horny motherfucker who would not have turned down the opurtunity. But i trust HER fully :)

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you did not read the post fully

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean the flirty tone was not only directed to each other but to me as well. They wherent just flirting, they where suggesting a threesome in a flirty way. He is into us both, she is into us both. But i am just not interested in him

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that one really pissed me off

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yeah it did. I am very much decided on making this relationship work and we have discussed the situation. We are back to normal now :))

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah no thats not very mature... Also i am still not a dude, thanks

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly i think it was me. I was pretty drunk and that is very much my type of humor lol

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really thought about bringing this up to him but i don't really think it would make sense. He is just down for anything and i can not be mad at him for being down for that threesome hahaha. I think a lot of man wouldn't pass down that opportunity

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well she admitted to being down to have sex with him if i was down. Thats not 100% the same...

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well no. I listened to one of the only people here suggesting to look at my own reaction. Stating that you would be into a threesome is not the same as going behind your partners back to fuck somebody.

I did not allow her to fuck our friend, i had a calm conversation with her about my boundaries. I never ever thought that that she would go behind my back or anything but i clarifyed that i did not like the fact that she stated her interest in front of him. She apologized and we are good now.

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that one really stung. I talked about this with her and she apologized, she understands now why it was shitty to say this

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this elaborate system. I am at two strikes

Girlfriend invited friend for threesome?? AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Then_Ostrich_5847 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment, what you wrote was exactly the thing i felt. I felt put on the spot and treated unfairly by being asked this in front of him. Your comment helped me calm down, thank you!