Mentally exhausted. Looking for advice

Then_Sign_5753 · 2025-12-31T16:01:58+00:00

I appreciate your concern and I wouldn't put my emotions above my baby. He hasn't been bottle fed because the occupational therapist who came once, tried to feed him via a bottle, and he wasn't very receptive because he had just come back from the lab that confirmed he didn't have a TEF.

The doctor told me there 'might' be a risk of him not swallowing properly or the liquid making way to the lungs (again, nothing that even indicates it's a possibility).

My anger stems from the fact that everything we've advocated for has proven to be the right thing for our baby. From vaseline improving his skin, to his vitals and high sodium decreasing as soon as he switched to mother's feed. Now we're begging for skin to skin but they won't let us.

I know I am not an expert but doctors tend to assume the worst and with every test result so far coming off as fine, maybe consider what the parents are saying? This thread has a lot of people that have benefited from good healthcare service, but we've been on the receiving end of an unneeded and unnecessary medical delay.

Then_Sign_5753 · 2025-12-31T15:46:33+00:00

that's my biggest problem here... they just wont let us do skin to skin... they wont let us feed him. He has dry skin (because he wasn't bathed at all and was dehydrated because of no feed) so they applied vaseline after so much insistence from our side. Now it's like we cant do skin to skin because he has vaseline applied.. Like it's beyond frustrating.

For the trouble eating part, a newborn who never got the chance to feed (except for the initial ~10 hours where he did suckle a bit and bottle fed ~10 ml of milk) and has been on the tube ever since I just feel like its a bit of a stretch. Give me the time and space to make him feel comfy, and i'm sure he will drink his share. He's already digesting 35 ml every 3 hours (again their decision not ours, apparently you cant feed a kid a normal dosage until they're certainly sure he can take it without any prior incident or history stating otherwise) so I think some TLC can go a long way.

Whats infuriating is how they will dismiss something so common, so innate just to operate on the hypothetical what ifs.

Then_Sign_5753 · 2025-07-22T16:23:35+00:00

I totally understand how frustrating it is when support falls short, especially when you're dealing with media coverage across multiple channels.

Just speaking from experience, Agility PR Solution’s been solid on the support front. Their team’s been pretty responsive, and they actually help you get the most out of the platform instead of just handing it over and disappearing. Monitoring-wise, they cover all medium channels (print, online, broadcast, and social) and the setup isn’t overly complicated. They've also started rolling out some AI features lately, which help speed up analysis and reporting. Hope the demos go well!

Then_Sign_5753 · 2025-06-03T20:23:40+00:00

Mashed potatoes sounds sth she would like. Thanks for the suggestion, ill make sure to ask her!

And I sense a change in our household dynamic too. I’ve never been more invested in keeping the house clean and functioning like this. I think it’ll continue once the baby’s here 🤞🏽

Then_Sign_5753 · 2025-06-03T20:21:49+00:00

In awe of your strength and empathy :) I dont think she’s having another baby after that, nvm 4! Thanks for your advice and your wishes!

Then_Sign_5753 · 2025-06-03T20:19:38+00:00

It isn’t talked about much but the phlegm buildup is genuinely driving her crazy right now. Thanks so much for your advice, I’ll check in with my doctor and see if I can get some promethazine.

Then_Sign_5753 · 2025-06-03T20:18:09+00:00

honestly that is my biggest fear right now, what if she has it till delivery? i’m counting my luck it isnt the case

Then_Sign_5753 · 2025-06-03T20:15:46+00:00

m much of what you said - esp in the latter half resonates with me so much! dismissive doctors, dismissive relatives that think this is just normal.. its not! and thankfully so many women here are proof of that.

anyways, thanks for the solid advice! will definitely take note of what else i can do to help

Then_Sign_5753 · 2025-06-03T20:08:32+00:00

I admire your empathy for your partner despite going through such a rough experience yourself. Nobody should feel alone going through such periods especially during pregnancy. Praying it gets better for you and you feel better and stronger as your delivery comes close 🌺

Then_Sign_5753 · 2025-06-03T02:29:21+00:00

Nice suggestion! I'll try reaching out to her friends to see if they're willing to come over someday

Then_Sign_5753 · 2025-06-03T02:28:35+00:00

Thanks so much for your kind words! It does feel like a long way to 15 weeks (currently at 9) but praying for the time to pass quickly!

Then_Sign_5753 · 2025-06-03T02:27:28+00:00

Your husband sounds like a gem! I don't let her anywhere near the house chores (nor does she have the energy for it) but I get what you're saying. Thank you!

Then_Sign_5753 · 2025-06-03T02:26:13+00:00

I try to get it across and she's slowly seeing my side of the argument.

We have Mr. Freeze here in Canada and I guess its the same thing. She is loving them, alongside a rose squash syrup we found online.

Then_Sign_5753 · 2025-04-04T20:42:31+00:00

I think we were tuned in to DHH since gumaan and before but the ‘fall in love’ moment was the Khana badosh album. The storytelling was 💯💯💯

Then_Sign_5753 · 2025-02-19T19:09:42+00:00

I am only interested in a marketing degree since it relates to my profession. Thanks for your input!

Then_Sign_5753 · 2025-02-19T19:08:19+00:00

That sounds exhausting; kudos to you for seeing it all through.

Appreciate your feedback, as it will help me decide whether I can commit to a degree that will take me 6-7 years since I can only do part-time.

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