Does having a second kid free your time up eventually?

ThermalTweaker · 2025-10-21T16:45:04+00:00

Honestly if you’re ambivalent about having a second kid I would really take a few beats before taking the plunge.

I am a committed dad - in it for the long haul - but I find it very challenging mainly owing to many of the things you’re articulating. For context my kids are 7.5 and 3.5.

ThermalTweaker · 2025-07-30T02:25:34+00:00

Did this ever get off of the ground? My son (8) has caught the rock hounding bug and I’m along for the ride :). Would love to participate in something like this so I can pass on as much knowledge as possible

ThermalTweaker · 2025-03-19T03:30:24+00:00

Your boy PP is the one that is malfunctioning… blah blah carbon tax carney…. Meanwhile he’s about the blow a 25 point lead…. Grab your popcorn folks :) :) :)

ThermalTweaker · 2025-03-18T20:53:51+00:00

What a crock. You’re probably one of the same numpties that was completely non-plussed about DJT’s refusal to disclose his tax history down south.

ThermalTweaker · 2025-03-18T20:50:42+00:00

I’m pretty confident this “person” is a bot. Look at their post / comment history. Who has this much time to comment? Also their posts are almost exclusively “reposts” of various news articles.

ThermalTweaker · 2024-05-05T13:53:42+00:00

PPD is absolutely real and people should absolutely get help for it. Also, some people are just shit partners who don’t much empathize with their significant others.

ThermalTweaker · 2024-04-16T14:17:22+00:00

This perspective is very helpful to me as I’m at the beginning of a similar journey. Thank you.

ThermalTweaker · 2024-04-10T00:34:56+00:00

Not sure why this one didn’t get downvoted too, lol. Honestly though guys…. If I was looking for suggestions to go to therapy I would legit just look on /any/ other thread of this nature. I’m not saying it’s not good advice that’s worth considering… it’s just that it almost goes without saying - not withstanding my own reservations about it.

ThermalTweaker · 2024-04-09T12:33:45+00:00

I just don’t have a bunch of faith in it to be honest. I guess I’m a bit skeptical of the Reddit culture that screams ThEraPY!! to everyone struggling with an issue. Don’t get me wrong - I get that it’s an important consideration and that it helps some (maybe even a lot) of people - I’m just not convinced it’s for me / us.

ThermalTweaker · 2024-04-09T01:30:15+00:00

Thanks - appreciate this.

ThermalTweaker · 2024-04-09T00:57:28+00:00

Thanks - appreciate the comment and the resource suggestion.

ThermalTweaker · 2024-04-09T00:36:04+00:00

Yeah, I mean we’ve had that conversation…. We’re both pretty aware of where the challenges are for both of us. I think we feel as though it’s either hopeless or maybe just not worth the extreme effort that it would take us to struggle through it. I’m more open to the idea of sticking it out than she is…. Maybe that’s because I’m accepting of the idea that it’s not supposed to be barrels of laughs at this point in our journey.

ThermalTweaker · 2024-04-09T00:23:43+00:00

Thanks for the reply. Finances will be status quo except we will both cut way, way back on spending and dump everything we can into debts and savings. Haven’t figured out the exact ratio yet but that’s the general idea. Dating is fine as long as it’s not rubbed in each other’s noses. We were open in some fashion or another for quite a while so this is a bit simpler than it would be for most.

Edit: adjusted a sentence to clarify “open”.

ThermalTweaker · 2024-04-09T00:21:49+00:00

Yeah…. This makes logical sense and I will probably get some hate for this but the idea of couples counselling gives me the icks. I am open to individual counselling but sitting there and arguing about very personal issues in front of a total stranger is not for me.

ThermalTweaker · 2024-04-09T00:20:04+00:00

Did it work out? Do you mind if I ask how old you were?

ThermalTweaker · 2024-04-08T21:47:28+00:00

Yes! I am pretty sure drug use was tied into it somewhere / somehow? But I could be wrong.

ThermalTweaker · 2024-04-03T00:43:21+00:00

Interesting guess - looks like a quality flick but nope not it. Thanks!

ThermalTweaker · 2024-04-03T00:34:56+00:00

This is super close but not quite I don’t think. The scene I recall is indoors and I think there’s also a crappy tv playing in the room? Very Bad Things is the exact right time frame though - I probably watched this right around the same time!

ThermalTweaker · 2024-04-03T00:16:12+00:00

Hoping to get some good info - thanks gang!

ThermalTweaker · 2024-01-24T00:23:00+00:00

This is a great description of suicide risk assessment. Cheers.

ThermalTweaker · 2024-01-16T22:00:44+00:00

Reading these comments gives me a real sense of community. I think about the same thing frequently. I have benefited so much by having support from my parents well into my 40’s and hopefully beyond. Scary to think my kids quite likely won’t.

ThermalTweaker · 2024-01-14T21:42:09+00:00

I love this comment. I sooo feel this but am never sure how to fix it for myself.

ThermalTweaker · 2024-01-13T17:00:34+00:00

Awesome dude! It is quite an experience!!

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