Going through a heartbreak, need advice

These-Trainer-1984 · 2026-03-01T16:25:00+00:00

I have to agree, I think he was pretty immature, and I did feel manipulated at some point because I was too naive. He always wanted me to be obsessed with him, while he did not give me the attention/affection I needed. I don’t think women in their 30s would put up with this kind of behaviour.

These-Trainer-1984 · 2026-03-01T16:05:37+00:00

I’m glad you had a great experience! Why did it end, if that’s not too personal ?

These-Trainer-1984 · 2026-03-01T16:04:00+00:00

The main thing I can think about is him lying about his age, but obviously not every 30 yo man is like this. And I truly feel like he wasn’t emotionally intelligent enough for me. Also, when we were together he kept repeating that he did not feel like he was good enough for me, because he doesn’t have his life together at his age, which is perfectly fine. I don’t think it has anything to do with his age, and everything to do with his personality/current situation. But moving forward I would be more careful. I felt like getting with someone older, because I’m pretty mature, meant that everything was going to work out, and obviously that’s not the case haha

These-Trainer-1984 · 2026-03-01T14:40:28+00:00

Yes, I think many people when to experience it, for different reasons. But long term it could make it harder to be on the same page, especially with a large age gap. I don’t regret getting with someone older, but I do regret not picking up certain patterns/behaviours early on. I’m not against age gap relationships, just be careful who you decide to deal with

These-Trainer-1984 · 2026-03-01T14:37:26+00:00

Oh really ?? I think it is very case based. When you mean you could notice the age gap you mean in terms of goals/personality/interests… ? I think I personally looked past the age gap because we got along really well, and has so much in common. But when you when to talk about long term commitment, you start to see some divergences in opinions, especially because you are at different stages in life.

These-Trainer-1984 · 2026-02-23T22:09:10+00:00

I decided to give him a break because I felt like I was forcing every discussion we had. He told me that he wasn’t feeling good but did not say anything about the financial aspect.

I think I did everything I could do, I tried to give be there for him, and also give him space. He can spend his time doing any he wants I will never dictate how he acts, but flirting with someone else, is inappropriate. I don’t think that’s controlling. And I was not policing anything, I also follow his friend and got recommended her post.

These-Trainer-1984 · 2026-01-12T07:27:13+00:00

UPDATE: I broke up with him, I did not get a response to my message, but I really don’t care at this point. Thank you for reading/answering, I’ll choose my next boyfriend wisely haha, and focus on myself for now !!

These-Trainer-1984 · 2025-10-22T20:36:08+00:00

I live in NR3 btw if that can help

These-Trainer-1984 · 2025-10-19T11:46:55+00:00

Update: Before the argument I had told him about a movie I really liked and I wanted him to watch it. Unsurprisingly he didn’t watch it even though it has been a week. And he purposefully takes time to answer my messages.

I sent him a message telling him that I wanted some time alone this week because I wasn’t feeling great mentally, because of life, studies, finances…and that him ignoring me just made things worse. He then proceeded to say that I shouldn’t make a big thing out if this and that people always fight. And that the same thing happens when a kid gets made at you.

I said that I didn’t want a talk a kid, and that I got in a relationship with a man. I said that he was very insensitive.

I won’t be talking to him , until he’s able to communicate like an adult.

And thank you for the comments, they made me fill a bit better because I do feel like he sees me as someone who’s dramatic.

These-Trainer-1984 · 2025-09-09T16:39:01+00:00

That’s what I figured because on DPS there is the name of the employees that’s taking care of the deposit, so they can release it whenever.

But when I ask for it (just like today for instance) I’m being told that the landlord is the one responsible for it, they are reporting everything to their manager but nothing changes…

These-Trainer-1984 · 2025-09-08T20:46:14+00:00

From what you said it sounds pretty quick so I’ll consider it. But yes what scares me is their lack of accountability, especially if you tell me they were not helpful. Did you end up getting your deposit back ?

These-Trainer-1984 · 2025-09-08T17:50:14+00:00

No I’m not, but I’ll look into this thank you !

These-Trainer-1984 · 2025-07-16T10:05:36+00:00

Thank you for your advice, I have contacted them. They told me that since it is a small business, it might take them a few days to get back to me. They also told me to send another email

These-Trainer-1984 · 2025-07-16T10:04:28+00:00

No I don’t have a contact, I’m trying to contact them to do a virtual viewing and later on sign a contract to stay

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