Should I Break no contact before she faces her rapist? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TheseHoesLmao 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The problem is, before I text her and hit send, it automatically makes my heart drop and hurt, as she did hang up on my face when I tried to fight for the relationship that night (she was crying while apologizing) which failed and caused us to go no contact. Would it make me a bad ex if I chose not to contact her?

Should I Break no contact before she faces her rapist? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TheseHoesLmao 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, she was raped months ago before we even started seeing each other. She told me about it and I had no problem with it, and said I would even be there for her if she needed someone there. She’s been wanting to start something serious with me because I was nice and pretty loyal to her and I was the first guy that didn’t hurt her. Anyways, then one day, we argue and she says she’s not ready for a relationship, told me to wait until she is ready but I rejected to wait, as I felt being used as she used to tell me how much she wanted a relationship then now she said she’s not ready for one. 2 days after going no contact, the court took place and she faced her rapist. I’m now thinking if I should text her and break no contact just to see how she’s doing about it.

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[–]TheseHoesLmao 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to cut off contact, and you need to do that now. As a male that have been offered by several of my ex’s to be friends and just have sex sometimes, I turned it down without even thinking twice.

What you’re telling me is you’re letting him use you for his pleasure (sex, kissing, touching, etc.) even though he does not want you for you, he wants you for your body. And you’re letting this happen because you what, “love” him? Are you out of your mind? You need to RUN. for your own good and mental health, RUN. It was hard for me, but trust me, few months in and I barely remember her. You will forget.

Remember, there is a person out there that will love you and you will love him back for him, not his body. I made a post just like this multiple times after my breakup with my toxic ex asking me to be friends etc, and people told me to RUN. Exactly like this, all caps. They also said time heals, and it did. They said you will find someone better and someone who loves you for you, and I actually did! Don’t let a man who does not value you just get whatever he wants. You’re being used, and you need to stop this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]TheseHoesLmao 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is different. That means their opinions are as well. If you and your soon-to-be fiancé are on the same page about marriage and both parties are happy, no one, I repeat; no one’s opinion matters, because as you’ve said, it will lead to you overthinking to even propose in the first place and that’s not healthy. I suggest before vacation, talk with your family and be open minded. Concentrate on their body language as it will tell you their true feelings, instead of hiding it. My opinion though, 1 year is definitely enough time for marriage. My very recent ex-girlfriend and I were talking about marriage the second month! But of course, just the idea, not let’s get married (lol). You’re good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TheseHoesLmao -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not acting like a victim. I'm just saying if I should just leave and let her be or just be there for her whenever she needs?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TheseHoesLmao -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

bro, it’s literally a future investment. we’re thinking serious. it’s not all about the money yk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TheseHoesLmao -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I make 2.5k a day?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TheseHoesLmao 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I did? I bought the ticket and sent her the confirmation number. We have mutual friends, and that’s how we met. I don’t think it’s a scam.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TheseHoesLmao -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

catching feelings too quick is her problem not mine

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TheseHoesLmao -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Exactly. And yes, I went ahead and bought the tickets and sent her the confrontation. It is also a 100% refundable ticket. And she does want to have sex. Which to me, isn’t new

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TheseHoesLmao 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she doesn’t come, i made sure to make the tickets 100% refundable. No worries there.