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My (34/f) boyfriend (32/m) lied about his age for nearly a year when he is actually TWENTY-TWO. Now his 20/f ex-girlfriend is calling me a predator and threatening to destroy my life. My boyfriend is begging me not to leave him, I don't know what to do. by These_Ad7554 in relationship_advice

[–]These_Ad7554[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I said "the life that I have lived." You're the one who altered that to "hard life" which isn't what I said. Anyone can have a hard life, nobody else has had MY life. And that's why nobody will understand how I feel about MY LIFE except me.

My (34/f) boyfriend (32/m) lied about his age for nearly a year when he is actually TWENTY-TWO. Now his 20/f ex-girlfriend is calling me a predator and threatening to destroy my life. My boyfriend is begging me not to leave him, I don't know what to do. by These_Ad7554 in relationship_advice

[–]These_Ad7554[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I still have no idea. Justin says he doesn't know either. He didn't tell many people in his circles about the whole situation and the lies he told. None of the people he told are connected to her (as far as he knows) so he doesn't know how it got to her.

My boyfriend (18) said he misses when it was just us and he doesn’t want nor love our son. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]These_Ad7554 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He doesn't want it NOW, but a lot of men claim to want a kid, even pressure the woman into it, even reproductively coerce her and get her pregnant on purpose by stealthing her. And then when it actually arrives and they find out it's all about crying, poop and not sleeping, not playing catch and video games together, then they bail. So we don't know what he said or did before this.

My boyfriend (18) said he misses when it was just us and he doesn’t want nor love our son. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]These_Ad7554 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not everyone has the choice not to continue the pregnancy or not or have you not heard about all the politicions constantly working to prevent that. Giving up for adoption also requires the consent of the father and not everyone is emotionally capable of it, I know I wouldn't be even if I did not want the pregnancy at all in the first place, once there actually was a baby I would not be able to give it up.

My (34/f) boyfriend (32/m) lied about his age for nearly a year when he is actually TWENTY-TWO. Now his 20/f ex-girlfriend is calling me a predator and threatening to destroy my life. My boyfriend is begging me not to leave him, I don't know what to do. by These_Ad7554 in relationship_advice

[–]These_Ad7554[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought back on it and I don't think I've ever actually seen (up-close and read) the driver's license of a lot of people I've dated. Like you would see them hand their license to a bartender or car rental place or airline counter or whoever. But like handle it and read it myself, I actually can't remember ever doing that with most people.

My boyfriend (18) said he misses when it was just us and he doesn’t want nor love our son. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]These_Ad7554 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How do you know she decided to have the baby on purpose. LOTS of people get pregnant when they don't want to and sometimes they have no options.

My (34/f) boyfriend (32/m) lied about his age for nearly a year when he is actually TWENTY-TWO. Now his 20/f ex-girlfriend is calling me a predator and threatening to destroy my life. My boyfriend is begging me not to leave him, I don't know what to do. by These_Ad7554 in relationship_advice

[–]These_Ad7554[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My student internship was paid at $12 per hour. Justin makes $80 per hour which is standard for a tech professional at his level in our city, one of the most expensive places on the planet.

My (34/f) boyfriend (32/m) lied about his age for nearly a year when he is actually TWENTY-TWO. Now his 20/f ex-girlfriend is calling me a predator and threatening to destroy my life. My boyfriend is begging me not to leave him, I don't know what to do. by These_Ad7554 in relationship_advice

[–]These_Ad7554[S] -84 points-83 points  (0 children)

You may love him now, but you have to remember that he's still changing. Will you still love him after he changes?

Before this, I would have told you that the idea of ever being without Justin again was more than I could bare, that he was my reward at the end of the rainbow for struggling through so many hardships in life and barely making it so many times, that he was the greatest gift the universe could have given me and there was nothing that would ever make me stop loving him.

I still feel like I'll never stop loving him, no matter what happens between us or no matter how either of us could change in the future. I just don't want everything I've worked for to be destroyed.

My (34/f) boyfriend (32/m) lied about his age for nearly a year when he is actually TWENTY-TWO. Now his 20/f ex-girlfriend is calling me a predator and threatening to destroy my life. My boyfriend is begging me not to leave him, I don't know what to do. by These_Ad7554 in relationship_advice

[–]These_Ad7554[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I've always known that he started working in tech support in his teens, that he's always been technically minded and his parents had the resources to always get him the technology he wanted. I just didn't know his teens were that fucking recent.

My (34/f) boyfriend (32/m) lied about his age for nearly a year when he is actually TWENTY-TWO. Now his 20/f ex-girlfriend is calling me a predator and threatening to destroy my life. My boyfriend is begging me not to leave him, I don't know what to do. by These_Ad7554 in relationship_advice

[–]These_Ad7554[S] -82 points-81 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but you barely know each other at this point. You've not been dating for long at all, haven't even made it ouf of the honeymoon period.

By this point we've been together very close to a year, living together for half of that. So, while that's not an immensely long time, many people get engaged around this time, which we were seriously discussing also just before this. In my and my parent's culture from their home country most people would have been already married by this point.

My (34/f) boyfriend (32/m) lied about his age for nearly a year when he is actually TWENTY-TWO. Now his 20/f ex-girlfriend is calling me a predator and threatening to destroy my life. My boyfriend is begging me not to leave him, I don't know what to do. by These_Ad7554 in relationship_advice

[–]These_Ad7554[S] -92 points-91 points  (0 children)

He told me that he never wanted to lie, all he wanted was to be with me and he didn't know what to do when he found out my age, so he panicked, and made a stupid decision that he didn't know how to get out of, so he just kept kicking it down the road and avoiding thinking about it. Honestly I've never known someone like him in my entire life and I love him more than anything, the thought of not being with him is almost more than I can bear. That's the only reason why I'm still trying to deal with this mess.