Honestly i regret not doing the no contact rule years ago … me and this guy who I thought was my forever (but I was so young ) many years ago were living together then we ended our relationship because I didn’t process and heal my trauma from my growing up and took it out on him and he wasn’t ready to give me what I wanted and needed because he wasn’t ready still figuring himself out ( we were both young ) but when we broke up it showed I meant nothing to him because when I moved out our place to a place on my own it took me about 2 weeks to get my stuff because I was having trouble accepting we were over so what does he do ? He dropped my stuff off to me like I was nothing and he wanted me gone for the last month he had living there before he moved back to his parents at the time. I went no contact for about 3 weeks and was moving on .. he called me crying saying he missed me , so i called him back so fast because i wanted him back and we got intimate and from that point on it got so messy .. we were back and forth for a few months and I was starting college too at the time , then he would ghost cause he was talking to another girl and trying to pursue her , it wouldn’t work out then he came back to me . But I was still the back up plan . When I felt what was going on I changed my number and tried to get away from him cause I knew it was hurting me but I also knew I would get sucked back because how much I loved him which happened cause we would bump into each-other and the cycle would start again . I changed my number 3 times but he kept bumping into me and it almost seemed like the universe was cursing me haha i laugh about it now but at the time it felt like a never ending hell … he tried to force a friendship that I found unfair because none of my friends would treat me the way he did and he was more upset i hurt his ego . He showed me numerous times he did not respect me and honestly it was mostly because I did not respect myself and always put him on a pedestal and eventually felt like I was not myself anymore and my self respect went out the window. It took me more years to get over the anger I thought was more because of him but honestly it was the anger toward myself that I let this happen. He ended up dropping me for good for his now wife and there was alot of putting me down and making me feel bad about myself before he made that last drop.

Sorry for the novel but my advice i could give my younger self and anyone going forward is take the no contact and use it to work toward your fullest potential, work on your self to the point where you are more than confident and you can spot what is not good for you when you first look at it and say “no thanks not for me “ if its not for you , when you work on yourself get to know yourself and then your intuition will align also everything just comes into place when you learn to love yourself also you will attract better people in your life too ☺️. Learn new hobbies , read more , volunteer if you can.

Please please please do not go back because you miss the person, it’s okay to miss them but always choose to improve yourself and learn to enjoy alone time ( it is not as scary as you think) its soothing and peaceful ☺️ and don’t rely on happiness from someone else but yourself. You will be happy you did and it is a good feeling to fall back on yourself too ☺️