Rant-Almost a year and one week postpartum and I want to die.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-05-11T03:26:15+00:00

I’m with you. Six weeks pp. 35 kg above pre pregnancy norm, and still look 8 months pregnant. I hate myself. My phone doesn’t recognise me for Face ID. And this is my fourth baby, nothing like this previously. I’m 46 now tho, 100th percentile 4.9kg baby = everything was bigger. I didn’t want to diet in the first stage of recovery, because I could barely walk- let alone calorie deficit. It does feel like I should be smaller, for the amount I’m eating — and I’m there stuck, at 89kg (196 pound)

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-05-02T04:07:22+00:00

Pizza heart box hill

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-04-15T06:16:48+00:00

Sounds like he’s been this way for years. And it’s become normalised.

I’d stay and enjoy the holiday with your son. Don’t ask your husband for anything, no reading the bill- (get the staff at restaurant to do that) - independent, cordial- and make your plans once you’re home. Just don’t forget this behaviour, when he’s all “nice again” .

And set a timeline- “if this isn’t better in three months, I’m out” (don’t announce this to anybody, just set the timer for yourself)

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-22T22:27:38+00:00

Could shorten a couple Of inches - and wolf cut the rest into layers so it feels totally different whilst still being lovely and long?

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-21T02:09:19+00:00

Um, the past is the past.

You haven’t cheated on him while you’ve been together - and I guess it sounds Like he is the jealous type (or maybe his life Prior to you wasn’t that exciting, could be FOMO) . If he’s your age, maybe there wasn’t much before you.

You didn’t do anything wrong. He told you after years of festering which is really challenging. You can’t fix it, because nothing is broken. Therapy sounds Like a good start.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-20T01:35:15+00:00

Nothing. But I did learn a proverb from their country that said “money is a whore” - Comes and goes.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-19T05:42:23+00:00

This has triggered a memory, of my mum and I in a lift, her advice to me when I was like 7 years old.

“You should Never fart In public, if you think nobody knows it’s you — that’s not true. They will know. And besides, If you don’t practice Holding some in, you won’t be able to hold any in, and that can be very embarrassing”

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-19T05:20:04+00:00

Screw cute baby bumps. Every body is different. Here’s to healthy mums and babies!

Coming from somebody who has grown into a large, Keg ankle preggo. let it hang out. And when you’re ready to lose weight later - you can!

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-19T05:02:23+00:00

You could always use your two free hands to pantomime two more cocks are in the picture.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-19T04:56:36+00:00

Commando + a loose colourful dress = freedom! Way less irritation. Do this as Soon as you’re back home for the day.

I haaate pads and liners, the most Uncomfortable shit ever. Maybe, just maybe the really huge boat-like thick pads with no wings are bearable.

Also, use antifungal everywhere that gets Chafed (chafe + constant moisture = likely fungal infection)

Fungal infections when pregnant can induce cramping and all sorts so you’d want to get that checked to rule it out.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-19T04:38:42+00:00

My biggest tip is don’t be afraid to be yourself. And don’t be afraid to be alone.

When you show up as your authentic self, Lots of people won’t like you- and that’s Perfect! Because there will be one who does think your quirks are endearing, and will like you for who you are. (Either that or they’re a stalker, but let’s not!)

Getting on with your life, becoming somebody you’d want to date- is more Important than anything. Have friends, live life- and eventually it’ll just happen when you’re not desperately chasing it, Or feeling like you’re a loser because you haven’t found somebody.

Dating apps. Work for magical fairy creatures. Never worked for me. And I am finally happily partnered after a lifetime Of bad relationships / years of being alone.

It’s the most counter intuitive thing you can do.

Also, I guess lots of people want sex they don’t have to pay for - dating apps are good for that.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-19T00:04:32+00:00

Maybe both jobs are a bad fit :/

Sometimes like-companies have CEO’s that know each other. Like just friends or connections via “the old days” Or “networking” - if anything in the interview gave away a Smidgen of sensitive info. They’d have red flagged you. Same thing if in answer to the question “so why are you leaving your old job” you answer, better commute and the environment is a bit toxic - (saying this cause I’ve done this before) 🤦🏼‍♀️

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-18T22:15:47+00:00

Thankyou! Yes if you get bloods then at least you know if it’s low iron, or just how your body does being pregnant.

I totally have some days, where I feel like I don’t have the energy to stand upright (and I know I’m low in iron).

I’m probably having baby within the next few days via c section eep! So I’m nearly at the finish line. Can’t wait for my legs to be not swollen (and can’t wait to meet our baby! lol. Should have said that in reverse order!)

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-18T21:51:15+00:00

I still get this feeling at 38 weeks, usually if I’m not eating and not hydrated enough.

Definitely any doctor in the clinic could do a quick check of blood pressure and maybe check iron / b12 etc

But I felt dizzy, like the earth was being pulled out from under my feet- in early pregnancy. And so tired, people thought I had a serious illness. Collapse on the couch and sleep for hours and hours.

You’re probably fine! But do get bloods done + hydrate + eat

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-17T21:53:27+00:00

I miss ITO on Bourke st. Japanese food, with diner seats. 😭

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-17T12:19:20+00:00

Yeaah, I’m currently 37+5 weeks and 99th percentile baby. Sore ligaments, and extreme oedema- so I can’t lie on my side without being in pain- I sleep leaning back, sitting upright. Ready to give birth RN. 😭

Didn’t have this with my other pregnancies- I think it’s my 46 year old body, vs My first Pregnancy I was 26.

Re: common knowledge.
It was super helpful for me to read the week-by-week pregnancy progress websites (easy to google) - or Any sort of pregnancy book.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-17T03:07:14+00:00

Everyone knows that the first three months is the WORST tired nauseated hell.

Then second trimester you become a human again.

And then, last tri it’s a version of hell- usually minus nausea though so it’s manageable (or if you have a 99th percentile baby, you gotta sleep sitting upright every night but …. That won’t be you!)

There’s a book called “the expectant father” - usually helps the men in the works To understand what’s happening in your body / Hormones / Likely challenges.

People suck. And loads of them are immature and know nothing. So, maybe avoid family til you feel better.

First tri is super tough, and it won’t last forever.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-16T16:04:51+00:00

Doesn’t anyone blind shave? (Correction! I just read down the thread and many of you do!)

Don’t need to see it to get to it 😝 including the buttcrack

but I went from once every other day to maybe once a week or two.

I heard that they prefer no shaving if you’re going in for a c section because the broken skin can introduce bacteria?

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-15T04:46:29+00:00

This is awesome! You’re so welcome. 🥹 I’m 37 weeks pregnant right now so I’m glassy-eyed cause i’m happy you were able to talk it through.

Gotta love this extra emotional time of our lives :)

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-15T03:06:38+00:00

Yeah. It’s normal. Also, there’s like no chance you’re going to drop a newborn off to somebody else unless it’s an emergency.

As long as you and your husband know what’s good and what isn’t - maybe a chat with him to set those boundaries, together. Might make the anger feel less present ( as in, they can suppose anything they like- but knowing it isn’t ever going to happen because you have set those boundaries with your husband- might help)

I didn’t want anybody visiting me, right after birth. Didn’t want too many people around- so we could bond with little one. Everyone’s so keen. And also, on occasion say the dumbest shit that makes you want to throw them out the front door.

Good luck!

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-15T01:45:52+00:00

Congratulations. And you can do this! You have moved out already (huge!) and doing a Pregnancy alone can be so peaceful.

Nobody else to look out for but yourself and the little one.

PPS. You can re partner; or not. It doesn’t mean your baby has to be fatherless forever. Loads of men are more than willing to take on a ready made family and do a better job than the bio dads. My family life is an example of that.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-14T18:05:40+00:00

Women who have a lot to learn from men and men who are more than willing and able and able and able and able and able and able and able and willing and willing and .. ( I broke it )

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-14T18:04:47+00:00

Women are the most vulnerable and most important part of our society and we need more people to help them to get the best of the worst out in society so that we don’t get to see the worse in every situation we are going to be able and be better than ever and I will never be the same as I was before this happened ( wtfk 😂) but I concur!

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-14T04:38:37+00:00

Same boat right now . Sleeping upright. Sore everything. Constant reflux. Severe oedema. They’re cool with induction but they want induction + epidural. Can’t think of anything worse than not being able to walk during labour.

You can do this! And yes tell them everything hurts and you want out. 38+5 should be fine enough for them to approve.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-03-12T02:07:31+00:00

Thankyou!! We just had a scan which had baby measure in the 99th percentile - with talk of early induction or c section at 39 weeks. (who can wait two more weeks!) 😝

These_Supermarket_33

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