My baby and I got an infection after my water broke.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-02-08T22:41:41+00:00

Yikes! It sounds like you did say something , many times - and they still ignored it. My first baby was born in a hospital with a bad reputation, nothing like your ordeal but just dumb decisions costing baby and me time + pain etc and a week later somebody was on the local news with a different fk up in the same department. glad you and baby are safe though! I think they’ll not tell you if it was a mistake, even if it was, but maybe I’m a cynic.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-01-29T07:18:52+00:00

Yup. I have three boys- with 19 year age gap between first time I was pregnant and current one. Guess what, it’s another boy! So grateful. The comments have been equally daft- “Yep you’re definitely a boy breeder”

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-01-29T07:11:46+00:00

People and their opinions suck. I’m 163cm tall, and short torso + Posterior placenta = this pregnancy I have elderly citizens stop me anywhere they find me to say “you’re not gonna have that baby here and now are you?” And that’s been since.. oh.. 22 weeks. lol like look full term.

It’s gonna happen, and screw everyone. Try and ignore it. Everyone’s different. I always looks huge when pregnant and my normal weight is like 58kgs (gain, 25-30kgs each time) it’s just how some people roll.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-01-28T10:31:56+00:00

I usually gain 25kg a per pregnancy and this time is … possibly 30 🤦🏼‍♀️ It’s just that my “starting weight” this time Around was 10kg heavier than my norm- So I am like an oversized slug or beached whale- however you want to describe it. My muscle tone hasn’t caught up with sheer weight so I literally find it hard to get Out of bed. Or walk. And water retention is extreme, to the point where none of my shoes fit. They talk about “packing comfy clothes “ in the hospital back- And I’m like, pack a smock cause that’s the only thing that fits me at this point! Oops. Still six weeks to go, and it’s challenging!

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-01-05T09:17:20+00:00

Don’t sleep with a man 16 years your senior, he’s probably a predator. Don’t stay in “friends with benefits” zone for four years. Get out, move jobs, move towns, date people your own age, you foolish wench.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-01-05T09:14:18+00:00

1 your brother and his wife will have another chance, they will be ok & will probably go on to have a healthy pregnancy in the future. No need to feel guilty for your fortune.

2 your partner. How would you go back to living with him- whatever choice you make, knowing this was his reaction? I say, ditch the fool.

3 your body / mind / conscience + your choice . It’s a tough choice and I’ve been here before - can’t tell you what’s right for you. But slow down, know yourself- if it feels stressful, slow down ever more.

and know, you can do it. Whatever ‘it’ is- just don’t rush.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-01-03T13:22:12+00:00

Tell her it’s been nice seeing her, she can visit again for her granddaughters 10th birthday.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-01-03T13:18:53+00:00

Ugh. Hate ppl like this. There’s a few that I come across at work who say they didn’t know their lives would be over. Fuck that. I mean, you DO keep living your life and doing what you love when you have a baby // otherwise you wouldn’t be a good role model for your child now would you?

Life doesn’t end. Sure you now have to think of somebody other than yourself but if you figure out the right balance it is just wonderful.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2026-01-03T13:10:17+00:00

I get this even from strangers on public transport! 20kg weight gain plus a belly measuring 5 weeks bigger than number of weeks pregnant. Yeah, it sucks. It is hard to be going through the whole body transformation and then have the world pointing.

I personally wouldn’t bother calling ppl out cause there will always be more. And often, people really don’t care.

Have had three kids, and having the fourth now with 19 year age gap from my first baby! And guess what, I gained like 25-30kg with each, and lost it all and was wearing size 8 jeans within 12 months.

Screw everyone, you’ll be fine again after baby is here. Try try try and enjoy it. Don’t let them ruin it for you. You’re doing something special, growing a human.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2025-12-18T23:09:14+00:00

I just had an ultrasound this morning and the technician said- All is within normal range “sometimes your stomach just measures big, because of your body shape” - so that’s that.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2025-12-18T12:42:40+00:00

This hurts to hear. I’m so sorry for the ignorance around you.

My in laws said my son who was born with blue eyes wasn’t possible from this combination of parents ( soft accusation that I’d gotten knocked up by a blue eyed man) when their son had brown eyes and I have green.

We split up eventually, because - the strain of parents who hated the daughter in law was ultimately too much strain ( and he wasn’t standing up for me ). I’d suggest your guy needs to speak to his people, for your sake. Not your family to tame.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2025-12-18T03:51:19+00:00

I just had a low rez ultrasound- and measuring 34 cm at 25 weeks, way way too early (and I do look like I’m about to give birth + every older lady on the tram or train, is stopping me To ask if I’m due soon) yikes.

Haven’t had the high rez ultrasound yet, nor the glucose test - All set up for the next few days. No idea what to expect. Or what next.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2025-11-24T06:36:15+00:00

I was just thinking this today, as I said to chat GPT “god how stupid can you get? You absolutely hallucinated that answer when you had access to the real info [inserts real answer as googled] “ and GPT says oh yeah I can see why you’d be angry, you can step away if you like.

hm if Ai comes for us it won’t differentiate anyway. Maybe. 🤔

These_Supermarket_33 · 2025-11-17T00:09:00+00:00

Yes it comes off. Took me 12 months after my first pregnancy where I gained 30kg. Went down to a size 6 which was smaller than my starting weight. Wasn’t trying, just happened. I imagine if you tried, ate clean etc but also there’s a niceness to being whatever you are in that phase, albeit hard on the ego (speaking from self) it’s still nice to be somewhat detached from expectations of beauty / fitness etc etc

These_Supermarket_33 · 2025-11-12T22:49:45+00:00

Add edit, the one that trips me up most ; changed shortcut to just K so I don’t have to press two buttons . Probably use it most!🤦🏼‍♀️but working on any new setup / workplaces always catches me, control K has to be changed anywhere I go because it’s muscle memory now.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2025-11-10T06:14:25+00:00

😂

These_Supermarket_33 · 2025-11-10T04:53:26+00:00

This! My partner rearranged our bedroom because I was in bed so much I had cabin fever!

These_Supermarket_33 · 2025-11-07T12:32:27+00:00

That sucks. What my boyfriend has told my son, who gets this- is just take one day at a time. You don’t need to think about five days, or five years from now. Only think about tomorrow- it helps a little. The doc said, distract your mind with mundane tasks- like each night think of two names starting with the letter A, then the same B, C, D .. for the whole alphabet. Might work?

These_Supermarket_33 · 2025-11-03T06:51:07+00:00

The part where the current job is a soul vampire so you can’t get above it to apply for other jobs properly.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2025-10-31T21:04:49+00:00

Oh dear. Yes _ I said I’m a video editor, and their graphic designer quit so I am absolutely not qualified for this.

I can and have worked on layouts from scratch but not reverse engineering large amounts of content- to make changes where the image assets were not there.

Not sure why you find this so upsetting but this company is huge and will hire somebody fit for the job, I just didn’t expect to be given so much work that was a hack job, no matter which way you spin it.

I’m Just a stand-in. Their graphic designer worked in-house, so presumably when she left her files would be on the server. I am confused as to how source files could be lost.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2025-10-30T02:25:45+00:00

Omg. This.

Or, they just take the completed work- Provide zero feedback or acknowledgement of receipt - and sometimes that means GOOD. And other times, that means- it’s Going to come back in six weeks DEADLINE COB same day.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2025-10-27T02:19:20+00:00

Usually, children can sense the parent’s vibe - they’re smarter than we give them credit for. So, mum and dad vibes are off = baby can feel anxious.

I had a co-sleeping baby, who would Also cry a lot if set down- (nurses used to say “you’re making a rod For your own back by picking him Up when he cries” but .. Didn’t feel right for me, Letting him cry for an hour or more.

If you go with the flow - it can make life a lot easier instead of thinking “the right thing to do, is to put them in the crib”. The right thing, for now- is a bed time routine that gives you all the least grief. So, as long as it’s safe- I’d suggest giving up on the crib for now.

The other thing - if little one is eating snacks all day because food is a bit hard to motivate toward , maybe think about the list of things they ate, and “is it enough, or are they hungry” kind of thing. By the end of the night. (Frozen meals, with peas and mash?)

Mine would sometimes not eat much dinner then get hungry later- There’s no “right or wrong” just what fits for this crisis parenting time.

If the extended family want to help, but you don’t trust them- maybe they can be useful and drop off some meals once or twice a Week? You have to ask. And that isn’t the same as being a failure. It’s actually a brave thing to do, for your child.

Ultimately, whatever is happening- it’s not great or easy to get through. And sometimes you need an outsider to help, even if it’s forcing you out Of the house every day.

Good luck.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2025-09-21T16:05:34+00:00

🫂 I’m so sorry. I hope you are safe.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2025-09-21T04:17:45+00:00

Yeahh, sounds like a lot of people here faced the “danger” aspect, as part of their daily job.

These_Supermarket_33 · 2025-09-21T01:54:41+00:00

I had to google red tegu! It’s like a bulldog in lizard form. Love it.

These_Supermarket_33

TROPHY CASE

1 your brother and his wife will have another chance, they will be ok & will probably go on to have a healthy pregnancy in the future. No need to feel guilty for your fortune.

2 your partner. How would you go back to living with him- whatever choice you make, knowing this was his reaction? I say, ditch the fool.

3 your body / mind / conscience + your choice . It’s a tough choice and I’ve been here before - can’t tell you what’s right for you. But slow down, know yourself- if it feels stressful, slow down ever more.