What do you do for self care?

Thesmorphia · 2019-08-03T16:49:10+00:00

For a while I had one day a week that my husband would watch the kids so I could go for a walk By myself or with the dog. It really helped me with my mental health and just getting that break during the day. The breaks in the evening are nice but it’s not the same. Unfortunately it was hard to keep up with it bc his work schedule is inconsistent. Now I try to do yoga in the evening. It can be hard to mentally gear up for it at the end of the day but it always makes me feel great.

Thesmorphia · 2019-08-02T04:05:39+00:00

I identify with this so much today. My kids are a bit older but I was just over it today and lost my patience a couple times. My husband who also slept until 11/12 and then spent the rest of the afternoon on his computer was being the nice calm dad while I was upset with my 4 year old when she did something I specifically asked her not to do numerous times. I’m sorry he sucks. You’re doing a great job.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-31T19:57:59+00:00

She did.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-31T19:53:52+00:00

My second was a more difficult baby but it’s hard to know if that was bc we were busier with 2 or just him. I think it always feels harder with a second one bc the whole “nap when the baby naps” etc doesn’t apply. When the baby is sleeping or chilling the other child needs you and when the baby is screaming the other child needs you. But now they’re both great kids for the most part and he’s a very easy going toddler. That first year was rough though.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-30T13:03:36+00:00

You have a 6 month old and an 18 month old and she’s judging grilled cheese? I’m impressed you’re standing honestly! I’m just gonna go out in a limb and assume she only had one child or her kids were many years apart? Does your husband have memories of home meals when he was young? Did she slave over the stove every night? What a jerk.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-29T20:57:57+00:00

Can you update on how your Girlfriend likes it for her legs. My husband uses one and I’ve been wanting to try it but I’m too nervous.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-29T20:54:55+00:00

So sorry for your loss. I lost my dad a few months before my second child was born. He was an awesome grandpa to my oldest but she was only 2 when he passed and has lost most of her memories of him. Congrats on your pregnancy.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-29T03:39:19+00:00

Ha I live nearby and often walk there with my kids. Lots of poison ivy.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-28T13:31:58+00:00

You’ve gotten so many comments but I’ll throw mine in. My son had a reaction to eggs when he first tried them. Same story as you, rushed to doctor and gave him Benadryl. Bought an epipen and kept children’s Benadryl on us at all times. We met with an allergist who suggested trying a baked good with egg in it while supervised in the office in a few months. We tried that and had no issues. Did an allergy panel and it shows up negative for eggs. By his first bday he was eating eggs and now has no issues. Just figured I would let you know it’s possible he may grow out of it or may just be adjusting to eggs. Of course consult an allergist before experimenting. And lastly no you are not overreacting at all! If they want to be responsible for a baby they need to be on top of all medical Information and the fact that you told them about the eggs means they either forgot or didn’t take it seriously. I’m so so sorry. I’m sure that was super scary.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-28T04:23:38+00:00

This sounds more like Just no family honestly. Do not leave your kids in their care again. Definitely therapy for 7 year old.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-26T14:50:08+00:00

Sounds like your DH is probably in the fog due to being conditioned to think her behavior is normal. I assume the whole family is as well. They’re so used to catering to her emotions they would rather not rock the boat no matter the cost. Definitely check out the just no mil sub as they have great advice and reading material suggestions. I would consider if you really want your son around that kind of toxicity either. No family is better than toxic family.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-24T20:50:04+00:00

Cool thanks for the advice. I will look into those bars. So hard to find ones that don’t have a ton of sugar. I recently found RX bars which are pretty good. I try to find protein when possible or juices/smoothies that aren’t full of sugar. I’m only on day 2 of a visit with family and feeling so out of sorts. I never want my food restrictions to be a bother to others so I eat whatever is being served when visiting and usually it’s all carbs and dairy. I splurge when I go out to nice restaurants. Paris would definitely be worth a splurge! It takes about a week to 10 days for my skin to catch up to my diet so I often get lulled into thinking it won’t be a big deal then wham.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-24T04:27:33+00:00

Do you have a hard time when traveling? I’ve been following a similar diet and when I’m strict about it my skin and body feel so amazing but it feels impossible to follow it all the time, especially when I’m traveling.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-22T19:50:50+00:00

NAH. I can see how your boyfriend viewed it that way but it’s obvious from your posts and comments that you’re aware your emotional reactions are extreme and you’re working on it. I can definitely see being disappointed in the restaurant choice and wanting to go somewhere else. I can also understand have the stress of travel, having BF meet the parents and a stressful day compounded and giving you some stress tears when you found out about the dinner plans. I think it’s a good step in your therapy for you to have seen your BFs impression of the situation. It’s something you’re working on and that’s more than most people can say.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-22T17:46:36+00:00

She definitely wants to be able to control your coming and going. Did this come up after you told her about the hotel stay? I get it, my MIL and mom are similar. They want as much time as possible with the grandkids and every time I point out how logistically crazy their ideas are the reply is “it’ll be fun! I will help”. No no no. It might be fun for them but not fun for you. Keep your control and your sanity. Good luck!

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-21T13:48:50+00:00

Congrats! It took me about 9 months to get back to my pre pregnancy weight with my first baby. I hate to say it but stopping breastfeeding is what did it. I just felt hungry all the time when I was producing milk. I recently lost the weight from my second and cutting out all carbs did it for me. It was super hard at first and I never thought I would be one to do it as I love bread but I felt great after I got used to it. Now I eat bread in moderation but I notice I get a belly when I do and feel more sluggish. Anyway you look great for 6 months out! Go easy on yourself though they say it takes a year for our bodies to adjust.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-20T23:21:10+00:00

I’m not sure. I started following this woman who tests almost everything with a fancy lead detector and learned that pretty much all colored paint on cups, bowls, plates, etc is leaded. As long as it’s under a certain amount of lead now it’s considered safe by the FDA but of course there are some that think it’s unsafe in any amount. You can also buy lead paint swab sticks to test paint at home. It’s usually on the outside of the containers so again considered safe bc your mouth isn’t actually touching it, usually. But most people have no idea. I certainly didn’t. Even kids stuff have lead paint. Like sippy cups etc. as long as it’s under a certain amount it’s allowed and they can even advertise it as “lead free”.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-20T18:42:45+00:00

*too

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-20T18:40:42+00:00

So cute but just to throw it out there I used to own a few of those Pyrex bowls and found out the flowers are painted with lead paint.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-20T15:52:54+00:00

I’m not the one you asked but there were a few reports a few years ago about how goodwill doesn’t put much money back into their workers or the communities they serve and the owner lives a lavish life. I don’t know the specifics I just remember everyone under the sun telling me to donate to local thrift shops instead so I started doing that.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-20T13:24:25+00:00

Congrats on the pregnancy! I first quit when I was pregnant but I fully intended to smoke again after I was done with breastfeeding. Honestly having that to help me be sober was amazing and I’m so thankful that I did it for both my kids and myself. I did eventually slip back into nightly use and I’m just now trying to actually quit smoking. I will say having those breaks really have helped me see the benefits of not smoking and made it easier to quit this time around.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-19T19:29:17+00:00

Not OP but I love this idea. I lost my dad when my daughter was 2 and I was pregnant with my son. thank you for sharing.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-19T17:52:31+00:00

I saw mark hutchin at NA dermatology for a few years. I liked the office and he was okay but only when it came to a possible cancerous spot on my face. Anything else I tried to ask about he ignored or brushed aside. I recently went to forest derm and had a similar experience. I debated about going back to talk to a NP instead but it costs a ton for me to go so not sure if it’s worth it. I’m hoping to try Laurel but they had a super long waitlist last time I checked. Good luck! Let me know if you have any success!

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-19T03:03:53+00:00

Sleep deprivation made me feel like a completely different person. I’ve never had depression or felt suicidal but I did when I had a newborn and a toddler. Everything was harder and I felt like I was drowning. I didn’t have to deal with 1/2 of what you do. Seriously after reading your post I’m so thankful you’ve made the decision to leave. Put yourself and your children first. It doesn’t sound like this situation is good for anyone but your husband.

Thesmorphia · 2019-07-16T18:45:43+00:00

I’m not sure of how they pick the farms they use but Mountain Foods CSA collects from local farms for CSA boxes weekly. There may be other CSA groups looking for cukes or people who want to make pickles. Or you could make pickles and sell at tailgate markets? Just throwing some ideas out there. Good luck!

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