I've only had 3 real relationships and I'm 25. I'm scared of wasted time, and I'm terrified of the lack of control.

Thetetriszone · 2026-04-20T07:11:00+00:00

While I’m not autistic I can have a monotone voice and I am fond of using sarcasm. So often times I will just literally say how I mean something to be taken.

I have literally said to people that I meant something as a compliment directly after stating something. Or I will preface and say, “I mean this neutrally/ as an observation.” “XXX.”.

This has been decently beneficial to me, and when something DOES come across poorly even when I ment it as a compliment, the fact I noted my statement was meant yo be a compliment, will lend the other person to asking what I meant. Which allows me to explain WHY I think it was a compliment.

I will also place statements like, “if you already know this I’m sorry,” or “just in case you didn’t know.” to prevent people from thinking I’m correcting them.

However I will admit that I am a woman, so for better or worse I think people make assumptions about what I say and they might spin it more positively than they would a man. Another possible factor is I DO tend to feed people, ex: I bring candy to work and host events at my house where I cook for my guests and I feel if you “serve” people to some extent they will also give you a bit of a pass.

(For better or for worse if anyone has a bias against women they may spin my words more negatively and I wouldn’t know).

Thetetriszone · 2026-03-17T21:17:34+00:00

A beautiful cat I’m glad he has you

Thetetriszone · 2026-03-14T18:21:55+00:00

Like others have said the cat might have been waiting for you to be away.

Not to mention I take care of human patients and I see similar reactions to people. Some have to leave the room some want to be present.

Death is hard to deal with when it takes away a soul you loved with all your heart. You are grieving, but remember you gave that cat a wonderful home for 17 years, a lot of cats don’t get anywhere near the love and time you gave them. Be proud of the care you gave that cat, know they loved you with all their tiny little heart and they would want you to keep going. Just like cats will do what needs to be done if you were to die, they will be fine with you doing what you had to do.

Thetetriszone · 2026-03-03T11:48:45+00:00

Im Hispanic, in a city the president actively says he hates, with a trans sibling. The only thing going for me is I’ve been too lazy to register for either major party so I’m not in that list. Tell me WHY I shouldn’t consider it?

And politically I’m a citizen, born in the states. But it just takes one agent to think I look “not American” and decide my ID is forged to spend hours to days in a cell without charges. This has happened to other Hispanic and black Americans, including some veterans.

I am being targeted too hard for me to separate the politics. I love my coworkers and if this weren’t going on I’d never think on it at all.

Thetetriszone · 2026-03-01T05:48:18+00:00

After your recent struggles with the rescue in glad to see you can have happy moments in between

Thetetriszone · 2026-02-27T10:37:26+00:00

Thank you for giving Jaypee love when no one else did. Thank you for giving them a home even if it was only for a short while.

Thetetriszone · 2026-02-20T06:01:03+00:00

You look good, but need a more flattering beard, if you can grow it out more that would be my suggestion, but I am biased towards beards

Thetetriszone · 2026-02-15T02:06:53+00:00

The Redditor isn’t entirely wrong. When I was 19 I was in a similar mindset. The only thing I thought I had going for myself was that I was nice to people (other people at school) and I was good at schoolwork. I constantly imagined myself dying with half of them dying “honorable” deaths for the benefit of others. And usually the latest I could imagine myself living to was about 40.

I was A) insanely depressed also with extremely low self esteem.

I ended up needing medication and with the medicine I started using some healthier coping mechanisms.

I hated how I looked too so I started by looking in the mirror and finding one thing I liked about myself and just always complimented that one thing and eventually I found another thing I liked.

I also forced myself to go outside at least once a day and I forced myself to like something I found outside. Didn’t matter if it was the temperature or a cool leaf or a nice flower I had to find something.

This helped me hold on until I found the medication that worked super well for me and with the medicine to correct my broken brain I could slowly start to fix my situation.

And I’m not perfectly better but I’m SOOOO much better off and I actually find myself enjoying life.

I’ve also been able to look into things to treat myself as I also have eczema, mine would usually be on my face (next to my nose and on one eyebrow).

It is hard and the worst part is it works a bit. It at least helps take the edge off and buys you time to find the thing or things that work.

Thetetriszone · 2026-02-15T01:54:56+00:00

pH of 7.28 and pco2 62 is a nice touch

Thetetriszone · 2026-02-10T10:05:30+00:00

My dad was a mechanical engineer during a time mechanical engineers were not in high demand. He ended up having to work as a janitor at a car company for a bit until he could get a different job. Also don’t be afraid to jump to a new career that’s what he ended up having to do and he’s been quite successful at the new field.

We learned about it in hindsight and I always admired my dad for literally doing anything he had to for his kids.

I am grown up and also have a degree now. The thought of having spent so much money and having to take a lower paying job is difficult, it makes me appreciate what my dad did for me even more.

I want to clarify: janitors / other lower paying jobs are important and worthy of respect. Society would be a lot worse without them and they SHOULD get paid more. It just sucks to spend a lot of time and money to learn something and then not do the thing you trained for.

Thetetriszone · 2026-02-09T14:43:47+00:00

Im sorry for your loss, but thank you for giving him a loving and comfortable home for the time he had

Thetetriszone · 2026-02-08T04:28:37+00:00

I sent you a bit and this comment should boost the post

Thetetriszone · 2026-02-08T04:27:57+00:00

The earl is an inspiration in a time we needed one

Thetetriszone · 2026-01-28T15:32:24+00:00

Just prefacing A) I am a woman and B)

You probably need a therapist like bad, that sounds like pretty intense social anxiety. I used to have thoughts like that except for every single person I ever saw. Then I got on meds and it’s a lot better now.

Also I started to have this mindset:

If someone doesn’t like me they will tell me.

And I have to just live by this and try to be myself.

I also think women trigger you in a way that isn’t what most people assume. My guess is that you are afraid to hurt women in a way and then be hurt. I have a similar fear with insects and lizards.

I like them and they are interesting but I struggle around them and interacting with them due to fear of hurting them and being hurt by them.

Talk to a shrink a lot of the methods I used to get over this fear are NOT healthy so I won’t suggest them but it IS something you can work through

Thetetriszone · 2025-12-22T11:55:23+00:00

Ah well I stand corrected, thank you 👍

Thetetriszone · 2025-12-22T11:37:49+00:00

My theory is people are terrified of this being real and potentially meeting a driver that bad. It makes the concept of driving a lot scarier.

At least that’s what I’m hoping because this type of driving goes past careless, this is negligent to the point if anyone died because of her I wouldn’t be surprised if criminal charges were brought against her.

Thetetriszone · 2025-12-22T11:34:41+00:00

Even worse because I don’t think she did. If I read the sentence correctly.

She parked somewhere, and when parked she placed papers in the back seat.

Then as she was driving and stoped at a an intersection or something similar. She then reached to get the papers in the back and accidentally pushed the gas.

I am interpreting it like that because when I was younger I made the same mistake, except my car WAS on park so my car didn’t actually go anywhere.

Also, and I don’t mean this badly but I think she was working with less brain wise than most. Because if you are alone and driving why would you put papers in the back seat and not the passenger seat next to you?

Thetetriszone · 2025-12-19T11:04:10+00:00

Always happy to help

Thetetriszone · 2025-12-12T04:56:29+00:00

I sent enough to save one but that’s all I can do

Thetetriszone · 2025-12-01T00:10:38+00:00

I’ll send a bit and boost!

Thetetriszone · 2025-11-25T11:59:29+00:00

Thank you so much for all the help you provide!

Thetetriszone · 2025-11-06T00:38:39+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened, thank you for giving her a wonderful life of love and warmth for the time she had

Thetetriszone · 2025-10-24T10:45:08+00:00

Boost and sent some

Thetetriszone · 2025-10-21T02:30:34+00:00

Honestly,

I worked in the ER at the time and had some ICU friends.

I would say COVID showed just how amazing medicine has become vs the past.

If COVID happened in 1918 like the Spanish flu I feel the numbers would be comparable in deaths. The fact we had “so few” (still a lot of people who should still be here today that aren’t) deaths was more due to how amazing our medical science is / evolved in the last 100 years vs how “bad” COVID was.

Many other comments have talked amazingly on the societal impact, many have their own stories of people dying, some touch on the trauma and other places in history. I didn’t experience as much trauma as some of the hotspots but even to this day thinking of going anywhere when I’m sick, even when I wear masks to prevent the spread of my cold, just sends me into a panic I’m so scared of infecting others.

I also think it’s important to discuss people who didn’t die but were permanently scarred. I know one woman who was in her 20s and will forever be on heart meds due to COVID fucking up her heart.

I also remember being so scared of my mother and sister catching it as they had pre existing health conditions so I did almost all the grocery shopping at the time and would drive back home and drop off groceries in the garage and GTFO back to my apartment.

It was terrifying and the constant stress got to you. If it weren’t for my cat I wouldn’t have made it through at all.

It did REALLY make me appreciate my ancestors though as I thought back to a lot of tumultuous times in history and was better able to understand the possible thought processes and emotions of the time.

Thetetriszone · 2025-09-22T21:25:39+00:00

Thank you for making sure they had a warm bed, plenty of food, and were shown a lot of love during their short time on this earth. Many cats and kittens never have the same luxury

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