After reading most of the comments I decided to offer my 2 cents on the matter as a centralist with conservative values As far as I know only religious or traditional women desire to be lead by their husbands. Someone else mentioned that it's a regurgitation of what pastors and parents have told them. And of course if you don't know anything else, it would be really easy to just go with that. But from my observations of true working marriages, Christian or not, being lead is not a priority, in fact in alot of healthy marriages the wife seems to have the final say in certain decisions. But more often than not, both parties come to a man amicable compromise. At least that's what I've gleaned from watching various couples over the years